All I can say is that it's very hard starting off to find a good source. When you live in a small town and don't know anyone that deals with gear, it's very tough. Those scam website are very alluring to new people, but best to stay away from.
I can sympathize with people not trusting new members right off the bat. It's the internet and you never know who you're talking to. But the best sources will indeed be hidden and work from referrals.
Hopefully I can spend enough time and make some friends to where I can find a safe place to get what I need. This seems like a great place with very supportive members. I look forward to posting here.