I need a Honest Females advise on this

[gorilla_boy]

The 2 of you (blake & bbs) need to lay off the clomid.

Blake, if you want her back you'd better not come off with the shit you're talking here, at least not for a while. You'll sound weak and that's not going to get this girl back for you. Of course she still has memories of you blah, blah, blah. It's not those memories that are going to get your ass back in there initially. You have to present something new that she finds attractive.

You have to project strength, confidence and self sufficiency. Go ahead and go to places that you might run into her and have conversations with her but keep yourself at arms length. Who cares if you see her with another guy? You may care but you'll get a whole lot farther if you if you can convincingly handle that situation with aloof confidence and a genuine smile.

Have a few happy, light conversations with her then convince her that she wants to go out with you somewhere. From there you can start telling her some of the stuff at the top of this page but take it easy and hold back otherwise you're going to come off as a nut.

It's up to you where to take it after that.


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[WI]

The 2 of you (blake & bbs) need to lay off the clomid.

Blake, if you want her back you'd better not come off with the shit you're talking here, at least not for a while. You'll sound weak and that's not going to get this girl back for you. Of course she still has memories of you blah, blah, blah. It's not those memories that are going to get your ass back in there initially. You have to present something new that she finds attractive.

You have to project strength, confidence and self sufficiency. Go ahead and go to places that you might run into her and have conversations with her but keep yourself at arms length. Who cares if you see her with another guy? You may care but you'll get a whole lot farther if you if you can convincingly handle that situation with aloof confidence and a genuine smile.

Have a few happy, light conversations with her then convince her that she wants to go out with you somewhere. From there you can start telling her some of the stuff at the top of this page but take it easy and hold back otherwise you're going to come off as a nut.

It's up to you where to take it after that.


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Please excuse me also for posting in the womens board!

Blake, what gb posted above is on the $$$$ bro. I also have been through the same scenario as you two and yes it does suck. My whole life revolved around her that when we broke up 4.5years later it hit me hard. Took me awhile to get back in the groove of things ex: going out, clubbing, partying....etc.........

Well we have been apart for 2.5years and yes I sitll have fond memories of her even though we went through some rough times but let me tell you this. Women have an extra sense!, throughout this 2.5years I have met several chics.........a few that I might have actually gotten to get to know better but was screwed because of my ex. What I mean by that is that she would suddently re-appear when I was starting to fall for the present chic.........lalalalalala....you know what happens next. Comes into the picture......leaves right after that.

Oh my bad....back to the point..............after I got full of her s**t I was ignoring her from places like club-gym. Was this right? Probably not but it did work out to my advantage. After several months of doing this I was like oh hell what is the damn point in this. If I saw her later at the same places and we made eye contact I would just give her a smile and that's it which led up to the occassional phone call from her to.......yes we as guys have heard this crap before "oh I'm just calling to see how you are doing" yeah yeah! Well hell, I know that took allot of pride to pick up the phone and call your ex so we carried a friendly coversation. Her current bf found out that she was calling me and called me talking s**t, needless to say I put his a55 in check real quickly!

For sometime know things have been going well family wise, work, $$$$ etc....... Well she started calling me again during the holidays.....hell as a matter of fact 3 times in the month of December and in our last conversation she brought up that we should go have dinner one night........yes yes she still has a bf but I was sure that would be nice. Oops got of track again.

The thing is Blake, go upon your business bro. Yes it hurts but hell get even more motivated at the gym, school, etc..........and if you see her just have the ocassional chat w/o bringing up anything that has to do with ya'lls relationship. Give them the "I'm over it" attitude and they will see you are not the teen whose life revolved around hers. Remember don't give her anything to feed off!

Sorry for the ranting peeps.

 

[bigbuffstaples]

GB and WannaImpress.... great advice from the both of ya's.

It's hard right now because it's still new (for me anyway), but i think i'll be doing alright, and from talkin with Blake i think he's gonna do just fine too. Thanks for the advice, even though this thread is for blake, i can really relate to it myself right now.

Good luck bro.

 

[lil'shortstack]

Follow your heart and nothing else. What advise would you give?, ...then follow that advise as hard as it might be.

If it's meant to be it'll happen, but if you still really love her then you need to let her know.

I will never forget my ex's, they made me who I am today. Everyone has memories, but you are not letting them be memories if you still are living them.

If she really treated you that bad, you need to move on...I know easier said than done...believe me I'm right there with ya!!

Hang in there, I truly believe that good..honestly good people will some day be blessed with the same in a mate! Good luck, keep your head up! ...and SMILE!

 

[fatchops]

Follow your heart and nothing else. What advise would you give?, ...then follow that advise as hard as it might be.

If it's meant to be it'll happen, but if you still really love her then you need to let her know.

I will never forget my ex's, they made me who I am today. Everyone has memories, but you are not letting them be memories if you still are living them.

If she really treated you that bad, you need to move on...I know easier said than done...believe me I'm right there with ya!!

Hang in there, I truly believe that good..honestly good people will some day be blessed with the same in a mate! Good luck, keep your head up! ...and SMILE!

You have found that person....didn't you?

 

[lil'shortstack]

You have found that person....didn't you?

About one year ago I was 100% positive, since then things have happend and opinions have changed. Like I said if it was meant to be it'll happen. I wish I could read the future and say YES I already found that person, but I can't even tell how this day is going to end.

Fatchops:
...You know that I love you with all my heart and there is nothing I would rather do right now than to marry you but we have a few dents that need to be worked out first, right babe.

 

[cutgirl79]

LOVE is worth risking everything for....hey man like they say let it go if it was meant to be then it will come back stronger the next time u cant put a time limit on it but ull know it and that person will be urs forever if there the one...sry love hurts and time will heal if u two are meant for eachother

 

[chicmuscle]

love is the most confusing thing i have ever incountered. seriously.

chichy

 

[rubberduckyo]

The 2 of you (blake & bbs) need to lay off the clomid.

Blake, if you want her back you'd better not come off with the shit you're talking here, at least not for a while. You'll sound weak and that's not going to get this girl back for you. Of course she still has memories of you blah, blah, blah. It's not those memories that are going to get your ass back in there initially. You have to present something new that she finds attractive.

You have to project strength, confidence and self sufficiency. Go ahead and go to places that you might run into her and have conversations with her but keep yourself at arms length. Who cares if you see her with another guy? You may care but you'll get a whole lot farther if you if you can convincingly handle that situation with aloof confidence and a genuine smile.

Have a few happy, light conversations with her then convince her that she wants to go out with you somewhere. From there you can start telling her some of the stuff at the top of this page but take it easy and hold back otherwise you're going to come off as a nut.

It's up to you where to take it after that.


Please excuse me for posting on the women's board

Blake, you should have come to me with this. This is sound advice from GB.

Move on. If it works out it works out. Great!

Don't sit there pining away like a doof. Man up and go about your business.

I love ya ta death. You're a sweet soul. Don't let this play on your brain.

 

[steel59]

LOVE is worth risking everything for....hey man like they say let it go if it was meant to be then it will come back stronger the next time u cant put a time limit on it but ull know it and that person will be urs forever if there the one...sry love hurts and time will heal if u two are meant for eachother

Absolutly........

 

[Darco76]

oh wow....okay its been a little over 2 yrs. since ive seen her, we talked probally 5 times on the interent...bla bla bla

so today i met my parents half way, to this HUGE flea market *canton* for the texas people....anyway...were walking, and i looked up, and i was like Jesus Christ, there was her and her mom.....her mom ran up and hugged my neck, and then Lacey did, ...my mom talked to her mom a little while....

its amazing how you can be soooo close to somebody, feeling like u couldnt live without them...but when u see them, u have nothing to talk about or anything! wow, shitty sunday!

 

[SweetSerenity]

Follow your heart and nothing else. What advise would you give?, ...then follow that advise as hard as it might be.

If it's meant to be it'll happen, but if you still really love her then you need to let her know.

I will never forget my ex's, they made me who I am today. Everyone has memories, but you are not letting them be memories if you still are living them.

If she really treated you that bad, you need to move on...I know easier said than done...believe me I'm right there with ya!!

Hang in there, I truly believe that good..honestly good people will some day be blessed with the same in a mate! Good luck, keep your head up! ...and SMILE!

I agree with this 100% This is enough said!