Uh Oh! I am a DA

[meathead704]

Like a dumbass, I was going to try to do this without my wife knowing about it. Well that's just not going to work. She is way too perceptive for that. So now she's been asking all kinds of questions, because she's noticed the change in my sex drive, and because I'm so much more motivated to get to the gym, no matter what. I have been denying it (again, like a dumbass) but the way I see it I have 3 choices:

Choice#1
Come clean. Tell her everything, which is not going to be pretty. We have had some trust issues in the past, years ago, and now, if she even suspects that I'm lying to her, about anything, all that shit from the past comes back up. I mean, she won't leave me over this, cause we've been married 17 yrs, and have 4 kids and damn, it ain't like I'm screwing somebody else, it just steriods. But if I tell her now, she'll go ape shit at first, then she'll accuse me of hiding other things from her, then eventually, maybe 2 or 3 days later, she'll start to get over it and accept it. Like I said I'm the dumbass for not telling her up front and just laying all out on the table to start with. I just didn't because I knew she wouldn't approve, and well because I'm a dumbass (did I mention that already?)

Choice #2

Quit. I'm 2 weeks into the cycle. From what I have heard I am right at the point where I should start to feel some new strength and in the next couple weeks, start to see some gains. If I quit, I don't know if I should follow up with any PCT or what? I really don't want to quit. But I really don't want to deal with the shit if I tell her either.

Choice #3

Continue to keep it hidden. This is probably not going to work. She is on to me now, and she will be scrutinizing everything that is out of the ordinary. This is my first cycle so I don't know how the gear is going to treat me. I may break out with bad acne, I don't know how much my nuts are going to shrink, and I don't know how much muscle size I may gain. Any of those things, and other things will be definite signs now, to her, that I'm up to something.


I don't feel like using the gear is morally wrong. I don't feel like I am putting myself at a high level of risk for health problems. I know all the implications, but I have read alot and I feel like that if this is done right and done in moderation (which to me means no more than 3-4 cycles.) then you are drastically reducing your chances of problems. I mean really if it was as bad as the media hypes it to be, wouldn't we be hearing of professional atheletes dying and getting cancer, etc.,etc. all the time?

Anyway, didn't mean to burden you with my problems, but I just don't know what the hell to do now.

I'd love to hear your thoughts!

 

[fleverglades]

Dude - I ran into the same thing. Truth is, I got on test etc.. because I am middle aged (44) and felt a declining sex drive and increased fat/lower energy. When I showed my girlfriend my test level on a doctors report and explained the whole idea, she was fine with it. webmd has a lot of info on test replacement therapy and it is quite popular. I framed it as hormone replacement due to middle age and not as STEROIDS and it went over fine. Show her research from webmd on male andropause. Might try a different angle with it. In the end, tell her you are doing it to "get back to normal" and not to overdo it. Since you've been married 17 years, you gotta be close to my age. Think scientific reasons not personal gain ones.

 

[huuuge]

I hid it from wifey for about 6 weeks, then I couldn't hide it anymore cause it was just obvious what I was upto lol. Once i'd told her, and explained everything, she was fine, unhappy that I hadn't told her sooner tho! She's cool about it all now, she even shoots gh herself!!

 

[epoxy]

haha my girl intercepted a pack in the mail, opened it, was like WTF, freaked out on me, etc.

i told her it was all 'anti estrogen' stuff to keep my E levels down because they were out of wack. said it was too expensive to get a prescription for. that shut her up.

 

[Massive123]

F'n women! Do you question what day she gets her period? How bloody it is? How she inserts her tampon or whether she uses pads instead? My advice is be your own person and do your thing.

Quit your cycle? Are you nuts? I wouldn't even consider that option. Tell her or don't. My girl found a huge stash of pins & I said they're for vit B12. Just bc your married doesn't mean you need your wifes approval to be a man and do something that makes you look & feel better. Does she call you from the supermarket to ask what type of tomato sauce to buy?

This is a common question and I never respond so my appologies if I'm coming across a little harsh-- it just burns me that women always hAve space for their own personal choices but men feel compelled (or scared) to not tell their wives every last detail. Do your thing brother...you won't regret it.

 

[Biggin]

U will be better off just telling her. It will blow over, not quickly, but it will. I agree with Massive when it comes to the cycle, I wouldnt stop period, no way in hell bro. Just my opinion.

 

[DJStuC]

I told my GF I was going to do it before I started, gave my reasons and I'm sure she knows I've been researching for long enough, it now remains a unspoken subject. But I think she prefers me when I'm on the gear as I'm more focused and I live a lot healthier.

 

[pipes29]

Geez...another one of these. Just tell her people!

 

[amvdub]

damn that sucks guy, I'd have to agree with "fleverglades". tell her the buttered up angle of the truth. I've had a similar experience with my GF, told her the truth. She found and threw away 2 10ml vials of gear and pins. OUCH! she said it turned me into an asshole. Yep, shit happens. We're just freinds with benefits now, and I look awesome!

 

[thatotherguy]

Just be honest. She is your wife she will stay with you.

 

[maverick300]

U will be better off just telling her. It will blow over, not quickly, but it will. I agree with Massive when it comes to the cycle, I wouldnt stop period, no way in hell bro. Just my opinion.

Totally agree with biggin . I told my wife well before hand what i was going to do and she raged on me till i let her do some research now (years later) she tells me when i need to lower the dosage of Proviron. LOL

 

[nunya53]

Told me wife (then GF) that I was going to do a cycle when I retired from the military...2.5 years later I said the time was right and she said she didn't want to know about it. I think she digs the results so I don't think she will object to another cycle....

 

[balkan_x]

If she is a good woman, she will support you, if you ensure her you have done the research. dont forget, most people think you will turn evil and permanantly do damage to yourself - educate her.

 

[meathead704]

Well its Monday, after a long 4th of July weekend, and my pc at home won't pull up "ology", for some reason it shuts my internet explorer down. Anyway, I had to let you guys know what happened. I told her. And just as I expected, the shit hit the fan! Just as I thought, she was way more upset that I was hiding something, than the fact that I am juicing. So I told her last Thursday night, the same day I started this thread. We had a big day, trying to finish up all my work before the holiday weekend. By the time I had time to talk to her, it was close to midnight. So I just laid it all out there, told her what I'm doing, and that I've done alot of reading and feel that it's OK. She was pretty upset. She had been asking me for a few days, about the increase in my sex drive, and why I was so gung ho to get to the gym - no matter what, and I had been kind of dancing around the questions. We argued back and forth until 1 or 2am and then finally one of us fell asleep. It wasn't a good night's sleep! She was pissed at me, and I was pissed at myself for not just telling her at the beginning. So the next morning (Friday) I woke up with the pain of 3000 calories/day hitting my gut. I go to the bathroom to drop the bomb, and I'm in there my usual 10 minutes or so. Now bear in mind, since about the 3rd or 4th day of my cycle, I've been steadily wanting her more, we had gotten up to doin it about every night and then again in the morning, damn, just like when we were dating! So I come out of the bathroom, and she is standing there, looking pissed. I said "what?", she says "Since you couldn't get it this morning, I guess you had to go jack off!!" I said, "you're crazy as hell, don't you smell shit?" So she says "Prove it" I said "Gladly" and took her back to bed and proved it, like a man! It was a great make-up session. And after that, she's not upset at all. She just made me promise that we would discuss it before I started a second cycle. She did have alot of questions, but I won't bore you with all those details.

 

[Biggin]

Congratulations bro!! Got to take a shit and tap that ass. Thats what it is all about.

 

[Shaptown]

good thread !!!!!

 

[Dreaded Pirate Roberts]

Life always gets to the point when you man up!

 

[poundit001]

hehe nice read there, good thread and way to give yourself a nut check and man up and tell her the truth.

 

[Renagade2287]

yo bro thats my fucking sister (and to those of you who dont know.....im NOT kidding) hahaha but i gotta mention i did laugh my ass of when i read that. keep eating like i told you and youll see the gains. lift like the fucking animal i know you are. hahha

 

[imdennis]

i hid it from my parents for 15 weeks but thats cause i didn't see them for 15 weeks, but 5 days after coming back home she was taking my dirty clothes and found empty vials of test, she wasn't pleased but i explained to her everything... Aromatase inhibitor (AI), test, pct etc + the fact that i was on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) helped i say go with 1