haha, another board where we're the board 'swingers'. Thanks for calling me out DougE. lol
OK, i have had this convo a couple times on this board and others and mostly we get alot of what deadbeatrec says. Or a bunch of kids who have never even been laid, much less in a serious relationship.
Let me start by saying Madine and I are NOT swingers. Do we like to explore sexually? Certainly. Have we had experiences with other people? Sure. But we aren't swapping partners with other swingers and shit. We have gone there... ONCE. Bad move all around. For both of us. I will mirror what Lavee says in that if both of you, but especially the woman, aren't comfortable being naked around the other person, it will be a mess. Women are naturally more self conscious, and if your wife/GF isn't toattly comfortable, she will think you like her more. Same thing in a 3 way. You have to remember that the atention should be on her (wife/GF), and the other woman should know that as well.
What most don't understand is that most people who swing, whether they love each other or not, always end up in a relationship where the sex gets 'lost'. What I mean is, it becomes about notches in your belt as opposed to sexual experimentation and sensual enjoyment.
Now, on another note, Madine is a bisexual woman. This is another anomaly that most men AND women don't understand. Most of the women who end up in 3 ways with another girl and guy are just bi-curiuos. Mostly end up just doing it for two reasons.
1. Because their MAN wants them to and forces it on them.
2. They think it will be fun, but just end up lapping at the other woman like a dog who hasn't had any water in a week. or not at all. this is no fun for me.
For me, being involved with another woman in the bedroom with Madine and I is not about fucking some random chic. I get more excited watching her get off from a really hot woman fucking her brains out, or vice versa. And in return, Madine gets off on watching another woman get off on fucking me (cause she knows how good I am in bed. lol) To her its about her and the other woman just wearing me out in bed. Anything extra with me involved is just extra fun.
Hope this helps inked. And like Minx says, it will cause serious problems if there isn't FULL communication between the two of you. It can ruin your relationship. Be completely FRANK in your talks. Don't leave anything out. For example, one rule we have is no kissing the other person on the mouth. May sound dumb considering the situation, but it must be discussed. Nothing worse or more awkward than right in the middle of a 3 way with some random chic you find at a club, ger her home, both of you start fucking her, and she says "I want it in the ass NOW!!!" Well, what if you didn't discuss it, you think its cool and you go to banging this chics ass. What if your girl doesn't even let you bang her in the ass? What are you gonna do? "Uhhhh, honey, is it alright with you if I fuck Barbie Doll in the ass?" Talk about awkward. Think about shit like that and discuss it. And I don't mean you talk and she listens. lol Also, some people have a SAFE word. If you get to banging and something gets uncomfortable, you should call this word out. Remember you will never see these people again, so who cares if you grabs your shit and go. These are things that can help or hurt if you don't discuss them prior.
Hope this helps, sorry i missed this thread.
