Steroid use and relationships

[3J]

STEROIDS AND RELATIONSHIPS
A MATTER OF TRUTH OR DISCREPANCY?
By: 3J
3J's Nutrition | Diet and fitness consulting to get you to the next level.
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I have had the pleasure of being a mod on a few forums over the years. With that position comes a lot of time spent on the forums. Today I want to brush up on the use of anabolics and their impact on the users relationship with their significant other. It is no secret that the use of anabolics in society comes with a taboo. Anabolic steroid users are considered “meat heads” who are uneducated and know nothing but the gym. They are also thought to be druggies and people who “cheat to get ahead.”

Believe it or not, this whole idea of anabolic steroid users first started in the Olympics and then blew up due to accusations of use in the MLB. With that came the shame of use as we know today. But the truth is anabolic users are educated people who want to follow a healthy lifestyle for the most part. So what happens when you have a spouse or significant other who doesn’t know about your anabolic use? Do you keep it from them? Do you tell them straight out?

I have followed a policy of truth with my wife. When I initially met her, I told her nothing about my involvement with anabolics. My reasoning for hiding it was simple, I didn’t know her well enough to tell her I used anabolics. I believe rule #1 in disclosure is the value of disclosing such information to a person. In other words, if the girl is just a fling, treat her that way. She doesn’t need to know your use of anabolics just as she doesn’t need to know your deep dark secrets.

But what happens when you decide you want to take it a step further? The day I decided I wanted to take my relationship further, I decided I needed to disclose my use of anabolics. You see, a policy of truth comes with consequences. You have to be prepared for an onslaught of questions and concerns from your significant other who is likely more uneducated in the topic of steroids than a child. They only know what they hear: steroids are bad for you. When I told my now wife that I had used anabolics in the past she freaked out a little bit. Her worries were about my health. So you have to explain the use of anabolics to your wife like you would a newbie. You have to be honest about the risks and benefits. You have to be able to debate the use to her and validate your use. If you cannot put her mind at ease than you will never win. If you get angry and give her an ultimatum, that might be the last thing you give her.
Is it worth losing your significant other over the use of anabolics? Absolutely not! But, if you do tell her and she absolutely refuses to accept your choices then maybe that person is not the right person for you?

Hiding the use of anabolics from your significant other is never a good idea. In a relationship trust is the most important thing. Once that’s out of the picture your whole world could become a mess. I’ve seen multiple relationships go down the drain because someone’s girlfriend or wife found his anabolics and confronted him. Take the road less traveled in this situation. Talk to your loved one. Tell them you what you want to do. Be kind and be patient with them as they process the information. When I told my wife I wanted to go on HRT, I did so with bloodwork and educational material. She didn’t hesitate to allow me to get medicated once she saw everything. Give your significant other a chance to accept who you are.


Good luck to you all!

 

[Chicago712]

uh ohhh, i didn't read it but when i get back from the gym--- imma have some shit to post for sure

trenbolone = the bachelor's steroid btw HAH

 

[3J]

lmao.. the devils juice is sure to have risen the statistics of steroids and breakups lmao

 

[Cheph]

Well not fit everyone. My wife seems to believe I'm more level on aas. Last two cycles had tren. Only thing she did not like was the excessive night sweats

 

[snowpatrol123]

I was shocked and profoundly relieved when I told my s/o about AAS & she was on board.

Life is a million times better when you can be honest with your "partner" and don't have to keep something like anabolic use completely to yourself.

Used to be I had forums and a few gym buddies, I still have those but gained a teammate / confidante / cheerleader etc.

Life is good

 

[Skull Crusher]

My girl is on board with aas as well. Hell she has injected me a few times. hahah

 

[ketogenicbulldog]

Honesty is always ideal but the problem arises when/if someone in the relationship has a change of heart. Things can get really nasty (you probably won't recognize the person if it gets downright ugly) and god forbid she uses roid use against you for a custody battle.

Like stated previously, there is a very small percentage of the general population that understands more about steroids than a child including a judge.

Everybody thinks their marriage will last forever but 50% of people are wrong.

 

[ketogenicbulldog]

My solution...pin that bitch a few times just to keep an even playing field!

Jk

 

[snowpatrol123]

My solution...pin that bitch a few times just to keep an even playing field!

Jk

My solution...find someone who makes 2% more money than I do, is marginally more fiscally responsible and doesn't want to have kids right away

 

[3J]

Honesty is always ideal but the problem arises when/if someone in the relationship has a change of heart. Things can get really nasty (you probably won't recognize the person if it gets downright ugly) and god forbid she uses roid use against you for a custody battle.

Like stated previously, there is a very small percentage of the general population that understands more about steroids than a child including a judge.

Everybody thinks their marriage will last forever but 50% of people are wrong.

sign up for HRT.. get legal.. judge cant touch you

 

[Chicago712]

Im blessed with a girlfriend who is also into fitness, she is actually 3 weeks out right now so she completely understands for why i blast on top of my TRT ....

now my ex girlfriend that i was with no so much lol.. like why i said tren = bachelor steroid

 

[Pacific Rim]

If my girlfriend can walk around with fake tits, I can walk around juiced up
I would never even date a woman who questioned what I did.

 

[Norsegod]

I agree with Pacific. Anabolics, and the legalization and proper research of them is something I am very passionate about. I am open with my opinions about them, but not about my use with everyone. It's sad, but like you guys said, most people just know what the media shoves down their throats which means they know less than nothing. They know in the negative. Lol. When it comes to someone I want to be serious with and potentially spend my life with....I won't even bother if they don't agree with my use of aas, but only after I show them the information. If they see it in black and white and still tell me it's bad for me and they can't handle it then they are too stupid for me anyway. Besides, IF I do ever get married it'll be with a woman that not just works out, but lifts and probably even runs var. I love var so it'll make for a convenient relationship. Lol. No,I do not have a vagina. I just like var with my stacks. Lol

 

[3J]

We can only hope that they will deceiminalize it one day.

 

[Flynman]

I told my wife about it when I went to start my second cycle. She was concerned about the health issues but is O.K. with it now. As far as people who use AAS they are not just meatheads like evrybody thinks. They come from all walks of life and occupation's. Most are highly educated and Healthy!!

 

[YODATRON]

Before I started this cycle me and my girlfriend both talked about the pro's and con's and she knew how much I am committed to working out so she stuck by me and supports me she is even my cook for helping me grow

 

[3J]

Before I started this cycle me and my girlfriend both talked about the pro's and con's and she knew how much I am committed to working out so she stuck by me and supports me she is even my cook for helping me grow

a woman after my own heart lol

 

[SamSport]

I told my wife about it when I went to start my second cycle. She was concerned about the health issues but is O.K. with it now. As far as people who use AAS they are not just meatheads like evrybody thinks. They come from all walks of life and occupation's. Most are highly educated and Healthy!!

yeah the ones that go on forums are usually educated... some folks in my gym are on Dbols and always talk about roids openly(total meathead).. these are the ones that make a bad name for roids... and media obviously :O
I never told my ex-GF about my AAS usage.. I didn't because I knew I would not be with her for years.... you can smell that first 1-3 months of a relation.. when its some1 you really love then that's another story. I would tell her and if she doesn't agree then I would keep going because I appreciate AAS and everything that comes with it.. If a girl threatens to quit you because of that, then its really sad.. but if she doesn't love you because of this then there was no love to begin with.

 

[505jules]

I really appreciate the thread 3j as well as everyones experience. I am in a relationship and trying to figure out how to broach the topic of my AAS use. I met her in the middle of my first cycle and wasn't sure where it was going so I felt no need to say anything at the time, but now things are getting serious and I do plan on doing a second cycle. Her occupation is a RN in the ER and she has told me some of the horror stories of people misusing AAS she has seen. I understand why this would leave a bad taste in her mouth. It also leaves me confused about how to bring it up to her.

 

[SamSport]

I really appreciate the thread 3j as well as everyones experience. I am in a relationship and trying to figure out how to broach the topic of my AAS use. I met her in the middle of my first cycle and wasn't sure where it was going so I felt no need to say anything at the time, but now things are getting serious and I do plan on doing a second cycle. Her occupation is a RN in the ER and she has told me some of the horror stories of people misusing AAS she has seen. I understand why this would leave a bad taste in her mouth. It also leaves me confused about how to bring it up to her.

how long have you been with her? do you know her 'well'? how serious do you think it is? honestly if its the real deal then... just tell her.. then she will probably say a load of stuff.. let her talk and listen to what she says.... then depending on what she says try to ease her mind.. If she's worried about your health then explain everything about AAS. If you are educated on the subject then you understand that AAS can be used safely; even a guy on sport-science says it