going to a party on the weekend with my gf, her ex's are gonna be there

[sadpanda]

two of the guys she been with are gonna be there

i've never met em before. the situation kinda makes me anxious and uncomfortable

any words of advice?


for what its worth, i hate to be a dick, but i am way better boyfriend than they would ever be, more successful, smarter, better looking etc etc.

any words of advice on how to address the situation?

 

[Metalhead]

The past is the past. I wouldn't worry about them. Just go and have a good time with your girl

 

[halfwit]

I thought you were past this stuff Panda. You have to ask yourself, who's with her now? That's right, you are. So she's obviously traded up and is happy. You should be too.

 

[sadpanda]

I thought you were past this stuff Panda. You have to ask yourself, who's with her now? That's right, you are. So she's obviously traded up and is happy. You should be too.

bro i am over it i swear haha

the only thing is i have never met a partners ex lol

i am only 21, and never dated a girl for more than 2 months lmao, i always getting bored of em

this one has been going steady for over 6 months and i am not bored of her at all, and can confidently say i love her A LOT.


i've just never had to be in this kinda of situation so its weird for me i guess, people always tell me its so awkward to meet someones ex and stuff...

i am an anxious person in general, and thats why this is kinda weird for me thats all

 

[halfwit]

It's always awkward meeting someone that has been intimate with your current gf/wife, but it's nothing to panic over or stress about. They're no longer together for a reason, and it's pretty seldom that just seeing them is going to make them go running back to that person's arms. I know you're still on the young side, but I can assure you that it will always be weird - it's how you deal with it that matters.

Shake their hands with a firm (don't crush them) grip and smile while making eye contact. Let them know you're confident and the alpha swinging dick. If you shrivel up and hide or act jealous, it only makes you look foolish. Not only to them, but to your girl too. Remember, women love confident men - so play the part and you'll be fine.

You can give her some rough sex later to make up for the pent up frustration when it's all said and done of course.

I've been in that situation once and we've bumped into a few of my ex girlfriends before too. Being classy and assertive always wins you points, not only with the exes (they might be cool dudes), but with your female. Don't forget that.

Oddly, my wife freaked out more than I ever did. "Ohhhh my god, she's so beautiful - why did you ever break up with her??!" Answer: "I have fantastic taste in women, and you are no exception." Yes, I got laid that afternoon a few times.

 

[Killinit1]

Don't even tripbro. You got the gold now. Just go in and be confident. She is with you now and chose you. Be proud of your girl and your self for treating her well enough to keep her around. An x is just that an X and for a reason =)

 

[barnzy7]

It is what it is, I've met guys my girls been with. Some of them I hate, some of them Im friends with. its all in the past

 

[sadpanda]

It's always awkward meeting someone that has been intimate with your current gf/wife, but it's nothing to panic over or stress about. They're no longer together for a reason, and it's pretty seldom that just seeing them is going to make them go running back to that person's arms. I know you're still on the young side, but I can assure you that it will always be weird - it's how you deal with it that matters.

Shake their hands with a firm (don't crush them) grip and smile while making eye contact. Let them know you're confident and the alpha swinging dick. If you shrivel up and hide or act jealous, it only makes you look foolish. Not only to them, but to your girl too. Remember, women love confident men - so play the part and you'll be fine.

You can give her some rough sex later to make up for the pent up frustration when it's all said and done of course.

I've been in that situation once and we've bumped into a few of my ex girlfriends before too. Being classy and assertive always wins you points, not only with the exes (they might be cool dudes), but with your female. Don't forget that.

Oddly, my wife freaked out more than I ever did. "Ohhhh my god, she's so beautiful - why did you ever break up with her??!" Answer: "I have fantastic taste in women, and you are no exception." Yes, I got laid that afternoon a few times.

man i love this forum such good advice thanks everyone

you seem like an awesome dude half
thanks for the advice

this might sound stupid, but your like my dad figure, never had one, but the advice you give is fking awesome

thanks a lot man means a lot <3

 

[dontworryaboutit23]

Just watch for the texts afterwards bro
They will text her and say some gay shit like oh you looked good glad you're happy

 

[Pancakevinny]

Just be careful they don't get too close. Like above user said. Just make sure she knows you want to be respected and tell her to leave her past where it belongs

 

[jacyy]

Just ignore her ex and make her busy with yourself. Don't talk about him for long at that time. Enjoy your moment..

 

[hardpr]

some good advice here. like mentioned above. keep the conversations away from the ex,s and focus on her. dont drink to much if your a drinker stay in control all night. if stuff does get ugly you be the better man.

 

[drt4]

Hey man been in the situation before and it's definitely one that can get under your skin especially if you have really strong feelings for her like you do. She'd probably feel the same way if your ex's were there, everyones dated people in the past, past is the past you have the last laugh since your with her now.

Happened to me twice before and I just ended up talking to the guys and making friends with them. Guys were bitches anyways knew there was no way they'd be dumb enough to try anything. If your girls a good one you won't have to worry but if these guys start acting stupid you know what to do... But eh if you know you got a good girl the guys will know to back off.

 

[BigRussT]

Dude like half hour before you go to the party hit the gear... hulk mentality=don't give a *uck attitude

 

[Rida5d]

that party happened in November

 

[Black Beard]

Just think about how many times he piped her and made her swallow his sweet batter.


For real though, who gives a fuck. Just act normal. Shit makes no difference. Some people above who told you to make sure you tell her to respect you and shit, that makes you look like a needle dick pussy. It's a blatant display of insecurity. If you act 100% normal and treat the guy and your gf like normal, that is the absolute best way to display confidence. Telling your girl to "stay close" or acting overly confident and macho is a sign of weakness. Just go with the flow

 

[Black Beard]

that party happened in November

Still fun to talk about the subject though