Need advice please! (Low T)

[RWells87]

My husband was using testosterone to help build muscle for about a year, but had to quit pretty much cold turkey last fall. I don't know much about the amounts or anything, just that he was injecting it. Since he quit, his libido has been super low and seems to be getting lower all the time I have tried to convince him to go to the dr but he is either too embarrassed or just not interested in going. I don't know what to do at this point but just wanted to know if anyone else has dealt with this, and if it is usually a permanent issue or can it solve itself?

 

[Megatron28]

He should get blood work. See my signature below. You can get blood work from a private lab -- no need to see a doctor. Buy Lab Tests Online | Private MD Labs has the Hormone Panel for Females that a lot of us get. Despite the name it is for men too. Itncosts about $55 and you get the results in a day or two.

Once you get the blood work results post them here with personal info removed. We can help read them and see if he has Hypogonadism. Without blood work results wenare left to guess.

As for his cycle, the longer you use exogenous test, the harder it is to recover your endogenous test when you decide to stop. And if be didn't do PCT (post cycle therapy) his chances of recovering are lower. He may have not done PCT or may have done it incorrectly. You should ask him what his PCT protocol consisted of. It is typically with the drugs Clomifene and Tamoxifen (aka Clomid and Nolva).

 

[halfwit]

As someone that dealt with low testosterone for a decade, I can't stress enough how important it is to communicate to your husband (without coming across as nagging - we tune that out) how important this is to you.

My wife lived with me being a zombie for a very long time, and harbored some very strong feelings of resentment because she thought I was ignoring her. It's definitely difficult for a loved one to feel that way, especially for a long time.

It took a great deal of work to bring things back after living with such a condition (that's treatable!) where one partner "checks out" and is nowhere to be found emotionally/sexually/mentally.

Don't let things get to that point, and encourage him to take Megatron's advice.

My .02c

 

[Megatron28]

When I was hypogonadal, I was too tired to want to have sex. It was that I didn't want to; but the idea of sleep was far more appealing. My wife would prance around naked trying to get my attention and a spark but I just wanted to sleep. I had zero energy. Getting up and going to work was about all I could muster. And I was so cranky and grumpy all the time.

Here is a thread that you can read for more insight into Hypogonadism and TRT.

http://www.steroidology.com/forum/testosterone-replacement-therapy/662394-basic-trt-overview.html

 

[RWells87]

Thank you megatron28 and halfwit. Maybe he will agree to do the lab blood work- I sure hope so. I think the problem will be not coming across as nagging..I have tried not to bring it up too much but sometimes it just really gets to me and makes me feel like a failure as a wife. We have been married less than a year and it's really straining on me and I'm sure it bothers him too. We get along great other than this issue. Did you decide to get help on your own or did your wife say something that encouraged you? I just don't know how else to present getting help without sounding "naggy"

 

[Megatron28]

I brought it up to her on my own. If you read that link I gave to you it basically tells my story. I knew there was something wrong with me. It just took me time to get to the point of working with my doctor to figure out what it was.

As Halfwit said, you just need to have a conversation with your husband. Tell him you sense something is wrong and you want to help him figure out what it is. Printing out the Basic TRT Overview for him may be helpful too. Tell him you read it and you think he may have some of the Low T symptoms. Given that he ran a past cycle of steroids and the symptoms you are observing there is a good chance that he didn't recover properly.

The good news is that it is very treatable. There are things that we can help him with to recover properly. Or should that not work we can help him get started with TRT. He doesn't have to feel the way he does.

First he has to acknowledge the problem and choose to do something about it. Next step is blood work. Third step is posting results here and letting us help him and you.

 

[halfwit]

My wife didn't know how to communicate with me on how to go about it, but we both knew there was something wrong. It wasn't until she became pregnant that I really started digging into figuring things out.

Hang in there, you just have to be persistent and let him know how important it is to you. Him being grouchy is also a symptom btw.