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At one point in my life, or for most of my life for that matter, I was very social and involved in a number of various networks. I lost that though and I realized I had never figured out who I was as a person and that I had been defining myself through everyone around me. As I've mentioned, I lost all of this. I was in a situation where I was forced to figure out who I was and what made me happy without anyone else.
It was rocky, to start. "Rocky" doesn't actually begin to describe how hard it was. I met people that I would try to treat as people I used to know so I wouldn't suffer from a void. But when it all came down, I didn't really know them and they certainly didn't know me.
So what do you do? Start building up who you want to be NOW. It's not easy...being beside yourself can be a scary thing. When it is you and only you sitting alone in a one bedroom apartment, who are you now? It takes time and experience to figure this out. I can tell you though, when you finally figure out who you are, who you REALLY are, it is a liberating feeling. If you are strong, physically and emotionally, you know that you are strong because of what YOU have done, and not because of what other people are doing for you. But that moment, when you are certain, that "this is ME", who are you?
It was rocky, to start. "Rocky" doesn't actually begin to describe how hard it was. I met people that I would try to treat as people I used to know so I wouldn't suffer from a void. But when it all came down, I didn't really know them and they certainly didn't know me.
So what do you do? Start building up who you want to be NOW. It's not easy...being beside yourself can be a scary thing. When it is you and only you sitting alone in a one bedroom apartment, who are you now? It takes time and experience to figure this out. I can tell you though, when you finally figure out who you are, who you REALLY are, it is a liberating feeling. If you are strong, physically and emotionally, you know that you are strong because of what YOU have done, and not because of what other people are doing for you. But that moment, when you are certain, that "this is ME", who are you?