What do I do? My girls dad HATES ME!

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spiderpig

I'm not a bodybuilder!
My girlfriends dad just fucking hates me! I have never hit her and I just don't know what the fuck his problem is! i been with her 3 years AND her dad is getting on he is about 56, anyway we was at her cuzins party tonight, he was being serious and tryna pay people to fuck me up haha! actually asking people to hurt me! one family friend of his actually offered me out, i new what was going on i just flipped and went for it, he backed of! then it all kicked off her dad is to blame im just pissed of with his shit he is an old man! im 24 I'm sick of it now! I knew from day one he don't like me! but this drawed the line! but i don't know what to do i can not hit an old man! seriously it is causing problems in our relationship my he is ok when he is soba but it's basically at the family partys as she has a big family and they have birthdays n shit every other month. I'm just getting so annoyed what do I do about it??? it's going to far now! I need some serious advice! .... Ignore my ranting, you get the point.
 
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Limit your contact with that side of the family to include him and anyone else that is trying to start drama. If you're truly happy with her then stick it out with her but as I said limit that contact. On the other hand, you need to think long and hard about where the relationship is going because marriage tends to be a package deal. In the end no matter who started it you need to learn to walk the hell away. I deal with this day in, day out, and it rarely ends well. When adults are involved in silly situations like this I typically don't care who started what, and everybody takes the ride.

Recap: Limit contact, walk away, evaluate the relationship.
 
I think u need to sit down one on one, man to man and get to the bottom of it... Avoiding the problem doesn't fix it at all.. be prepared to walk away tho... Family is family.. I had to do that shit before too..
 
Yea u should sit down and try to talk to him. Try and figure why he doesn't like u. Number one does he know your juicing and doesn't approve? If so I can understand. Number two are u a D-bag? U say u don't hit her but I mean there's more to being good to a woman than just not beating her. No offense just saying :) or is he just an asshole drunk? Cuz I been there too.
 
kaname said:
Limit your contact with that side of the family to include him and anyone else that is trying to start drama. If you're truly happy with her then stick it out with her but as I said limit that contact. On the other hand, you need to think long and hard about where the relationship is going because marriage tends to be a package deal. In the end no matter who started it you need to learn to walk the hell away. I deal with this day in, day out, and it rarely ends well. When adults are involved in silly situations like this I typically don't care who started what, and everybody takes the ride.

Recap: Limit contact, walk away, evaluate the relationship.
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Take a ride in the back of the cab? LOL
 
Hey man. The best advice I can give ya is to always keep it classy. No matter what. Smile and laugh his threats off. He hasn't made any physical contact with you, so at this point, his threats are just threats. Be the bigger man for your girl and turn the other cheek. If he continues to have it out for you, ask him to go out to lunch with you. If he refuses then just have the talk right then and there. Ask him why he disapproves and let him know how much you care for his daughter. Your girl isn't going to turn her back on her father, so if you want it to work out, your going to have to get to the bottom of this problem.
 
I was in a big mess with a chic a long time ago. Her dad didn't like me cuz I was white. Boy did we have problems. Her sister ended up dating a guy I knew and they were best buds.. I never understood that. He thought I took her virginity but that was long gone.. he ended up hanging himself cuz of gambling issues with the made men. I was going to dump her ass that weekend but couldn't after that happened. We stayed together for about a year but then mom started with me too so i bailed. After we broke u her mom would invite me over for dinner and constantly apologized for giving me so much shit. It's kinda silly how that shit works out...
 
oh he is all nice now, being apologetic, but i just know this is gonna happen again, he always stirs shit with everyone but i'm deffo the main problem to him even though I have done FUCK ALL WRONG!

Pretty funny really I have just told him to stay the fuck away from us.
 
Bro I was with my ex fro 3 years her mom was a total bitch to me from day 1. She constantly said I was a liar and a thief because I had money? Since when the fuck does that make you a thief and she always tried talking her daughter into breaking up with me even though I treated her daughter and family with nothing but respect. Now that me and my ex are broken up and she's dating a low life and got knocked up after 2 months of being with him bahahahaha, her mom calls me all the time like, "I wish this would have been your's and her baby.... You should come over for dinner the kids miss you... The family always talks about you and they said they would like to see you..." Sucks to suck she shouldn't have been a bitch lol but I stuck it out for 3 years and she wasn't the reason why I left her daughter.
 
spiderpig said:
My girlfriends dad just fucking hates me! I have never hit her and I just don't know what the fuck his problem is! i been with her 3 years AND her dad is getting on he is about 56, anyway we was at her cuzins party tonight, he was being serious and tryna pay people to fuck me up haha! actually asking people to hurt me! one family friend of his actually offered me out, i new what was going on i just flipped and went for it, he backed of! then it all kicked off her dad is to blame im just pissed of with his shit he is an old man! im 24 I'm sick of it now! I knew from day one he don't like me! but this drawed the line! but i don't know what to do i can not hit an old man! seriously it is causing problems in our relationship my he is ok when he is soba but it's basically at the family partys as she has a big family and they have birthdays n shit every other month. I'm just getting so annoyed what do I do about it??? it's going to far now! I need some serious advice! .... Ignore my ranting, you get the point.
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Sooner or later you'll have to talk to her dad. What's her relationship with him ?
 
Savage Tenacity said:
Hey man. The best advice I can give ya is to always keep it classy. No matter what. Smile and laugh his threats off. He hasn't made any physical contact with you, so at this point, his threats are just threats. Be the bigger man for your girl and turn the other cheek. If he continues to have it out for you, ask him to go out to lunch with you. If he refuses then just have the talk right then and there. Ask him why he disapproves and let him know how much you care for his daughter. Your girl isn't going to turn her back on her father, so if you want it to work out, your going to have to get to the bottom of this problem.
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Bolded and underlined for emphasis. NEITHER of my in-laws like me nor have they since I started dating their daughter over EIGHTEEN years ago. Some personality types just don't mesh well and you have to make the decision if your girlfriend is worth it or not as they will always be a part of her life. Even after my daughter was born I'm still referred to as "he" or "him" instead of by my name. I just suck it up as my wife's happiness is worth more to me than letting them have it with both barrels. That, and moving their daughter 3,000 miles away makes me grin every time I think about it... muwahhahahaha. ;)


Cheph said:
Get her pregnant. That'll fuckin show him !
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ROFL! If only that worked. :p
 
My girls parents LOVE me!! For now that is :) But they're used to her dating total loser D-bags. So it didn't take much
 
bleh. My GF's parents hate me also. Always trying to talk my GF into breaking up with me.
At least they are nice and courteous to my face. (even though its a front)
 
Hey been there and almost lost my wife because of it. But first I sat down with her 1 on 1 and explained to her how I felt. Then I sat down with her dad one one on one and actually didn't do any good either. I think he saw it as a weakness and was a dick.

Next gathering, before we went I really told her how it made me feel and what it took out of me to keep my mouth shut and my palms opened. Told her I didn't want to go, and she said today you do!

So we went to the get together and it wasn't an hour and he started his shit. She was watching from a distance and I could tell she was aware of what was going on. She eased over all unnoticeable and started listening to his comments. Again he piped off in front of the family and said that he thought his daughter would've married a Dr or something but instead she married a military guy.

She jumped in his face( very very passive lady!!!!) and told him " You need to figure out what climbed up your ass and caused you to be an ass to him every time family comes over!! If you want to see me or any of your future grand kids again, I would suggest you treat him like the rest of the family otherwise you won't be seeing any if us again." See grabbed my arm and said let's go!! I remember it like it was yesterday.

Well that didn't take more than 2 days and between her mom wearing him out, and her making him look like a d-bag in front of the whole family, that problem never came up again.

Maybe you should talk to your girlfriend and see if she can help. I know your pain, and it wasn't easy. But it never is to find the perfect woman worth waiting for!!
 
Grab a drink with him and talk it out. I was once found naked under the bed of an ex and had to jump out her window while her dad was loading his shotgun and after manning up and talking to him over some beers we worked it out. To this day he and I still grab a few drinks.
 
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