My wife and I have been there too, and it was with our first. It hurt. But in time you may come to believe, as we did, that there was a reason that the child was not meant to come into the world. And that may be for the best. Also know that we now have three healthy and handsome sons, one of whom comes to the gym with me. If that image, with you in the picture with your future child provides some comfort, feel free to make it your own.