Well, if it was easy - everyone would have the body of a Greek God and we'd have to find another way to judge people on appearance.
Keep on it man, you WILL get there as consistency is key to this game.
Well, my best friend in High School and AMAZING training partner who had sex with the girls most of us would kill to have a chance at with ended up being gay. It was quite a surprise as he was one of the most homophobic people I had ever known, never saw that one coming. I think as we get older, and have a true picture of who we are - we tend to care less if someone enjoys a lifestyle different than our own. It's the folks that are confused on if they're straight/gay that seem to have the biggest problems. Granted, I do get uneasy watching porn sent to me by friends (as a gag) that has those "surprise!" moments when the hot chick going down on a guy pulls out a penis bigger than a baby elephant's trunk!
Meh, I don't think we have to be vain to enjoy looking and feeling good. I honestly got back into this lifestyle as my little girl was born and I wanted to be able to enjoy an active lifestyle with her as she grows up. I do have to admit that having young girls hit on you is nice, but I am doing this for me so they can oogle all they want. Granted, AAS does make it hard sometimes, literally and figuratively.