My girlfriends past really hurts me, help?

sadpanda

sadpanda

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So here is the story, starting dating a girl from my university, i knew about her past (she has slept/and or with a lot of guys in my university and her hometown). It bugged me in the start because i've never slept around, i've just had sex with my girlfriends but nonetheless i thought it wouldn't be a problem

Yesterday there was a party, and a guy came up to her saying "don't you miss allan?" i was with her at the time, and she just replied "no..."

I didn't take much of it.

She later tells me after leave, allan is that guys friend, and one time she spent the night with him

Hearing this just broke my heart idk why, like i guess it just bugs me cause i see her as this super innocent girl who would never have this one night stand but she has in the past. I didn't talk to her the whole car ride, and then i brought it up and she apologized but she can't change the past you know?

It also hurts that people are looking at us and thinking shes a slut, or why is he with that slut etc etc

Am i just being paranoid? Should i just get over it? How do i get over it?

This stupid tren isn't helping with my emotions either


thanks guys.
 
I honestly would not care what other people think. Also if you can't trust her, I would move on. There's a lot of options especially at a university
 
I dated a girl for a long long time who had a past as well. Unfortunately her past got the best of me. We ended up splitting up because every time we went out I felt like she probably banged some dude everywhere we went. The best advice I can give you is if you can't get over it or put it behind you and deal with it, is to just move on. Although, the past is the past would you want the mother of your children a slut? All my friends that I told my situation told me to stop being insecure but it is not easy. Just my .02 fwiw
 
Although it's the past and it can't be reversed, things like that bother people and it's always gonna be an issue if you just can't get over it. If you're not one of those people who can honestly just say the past is the past and and not hold it against her, then great, but if it's ALWAYS gonna be in the back of your mind and be brought up again and again, then it's too much stress for both of you and you need to move on now because you'll never have a healthy relationship.
 
its not that i don't trust her, and i love her to death honestly, its just that it bugs me, i guess it will take time to get over it, and if it takes too long, its not meant to me.
 
sadpanda said:
its not that i don't trust her, and i love her to death honestly, its just that it bugs me, i guess it will take time to get over it, and if it takes too long, its not meant to me.
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If you trust her, then do your best to let the past to be the past. If not, that shit will eat at you and drive you batshit crazy.
 
i was just gonna say that, it's the tren talking.. but... everyones past is the past, people change, and the future may be better... some people change, others dont...
If you trust her, move on. If it's still bugging you, obviously you do not trust her and she isn't the right girl for you.
 
Sluts are gonna slut. If you cant emotionally put up with their past you need to leave them asap. But if you can that's great
 
jking, i have no idea, maybe u should take before and after pictures of your prostate? but i do wonder how the fuck a foot long comes outta my ass hole when i take a dump...
 
Sadpanda, not to be disrespectfull but there is a saying "you cant make a hoe into a housewife". Yes her past is in the past, but thats who she is. And the sad thing is its going to bother u as long as u are with her.

I wish u two the best. Just realize she is always going to have that bagage.
 
BigUps said:
Sadpanda, not to be disrespectfull but there is a saying "you cant make a hoe into a housewife". Yes her past is in the past, but thats who she is. And the sad thing is its going to bother u as long as u are with her.

I wish u two the best. Just realize she is always going to have that bagage.
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hit it and quit it my friend!, theres plenty of fish in the sea, if you wanna pick up chicks to bang, i recommend pof! lots of girls with low self esteem there!
 
sadpanda said:
So here is the story, starting dating a girl from my university, i knew about her past (she has slept/and or with a lot of guys in my university and her hometown). It bugged me in the start because i've never slept around, i've just had sex with my girlfriends but nonetheless i thought it wouldn't be a problem

Yesterday there was a party, and a guy came up to her saying "don't you miss allan?" i was with her at the time, and she just replied "no..."

I didn't take much of it.

She later tells me after leave, allan is that guys friend, and one time she spent the night with him

Hearing this just broke my heart idk why, like i guess it just bugs me cause i see her as this super innocent girl who would never have this one night stand but she has in the past. I didn't talk to her the whole car ride, and then i brought it up and she apologized but she can't change the past you know?

It also hurts that people are looking at us and thinking shes a slut, or why is he with that slut etc etc

Am i just being paranoid? Should i just get over it? How do i get over it?

This stupid tren isn't helping with my emotions either


thanks guys.
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I do think this is the tren talking Panda. Take a deep breath and realize that we are all individuals long before we become half of a relationship. My wife and I had several lovers long before we met each other and after almost 18 years of marriage it doesn't bother me one bit that another man's penis has been inside my wife. Tren made me think some crazy things to be honest and it has made me revisit the fact that she is a sexual being and fully capable of having sex with others. What makes a difference is that I trust her and that is an essential part of a relationship. If you don't trust your lover, then you can't fully devote your heart to them and you might as well cut your losses before you become too involved.

If I were in your shoes, I'd relish in the fact that it's YOUR penis that sees her happy face, not some other guy's that is just a part of her past. So what if she's been with other people, that only means that she knows what she likes and doesn't like in the sack. I think people that get married without having premarital sex are the ones in trouble as they may just not be physically compatible or not know how to please one another. Do you think you'd be any good in the sack if you were a virgin trying to get it on? I know I sucked REALLY bad my first few times, despite doing lots of "research" with the aid of lots and lots of porn. LOL

I'd chill out, take a breather - hit the gym and work this aggression out and tell her that it doesn't bother you. Nothing is less attractive than someone that is needy or shows a lack of self-esteem. Take the bull by the horns and become the master of your destiny. Oh, and show her you're serious by tearing that ass up. ;)

My .02c :)
 
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