Porn addiction and erectile dysfunction

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One of the most common problems I see on here besides gyno and hair loss is erectile dysfunction. A lot of people on here always claim that if you are having these problems, there is a problem with either your test levels or estrogen levels. I can't tell you how many posts I've seen of guys experiencing ED and everyone tells them to get their bloods done because it must be due to low test levels and/or improper pct. This could not be further from the truth. The ability to achieve or maintain an erection has nothing to do with test levels. Libido, yes, is certainly affected by test levels, but not the ability for a penis to become erect. How this does play a role is that if a man has low test, his libido will likely be affected therefore with a lower drive or interest in sex, erections may be infrequent...not because of the low test, but because of the low libido.

In the clinical field, both medicine and psychology, has noticed an outrageous increase in the cases of diagnosed erectile dysfunction within the past 10 years, particularly in the last 4 years. A little over ten years ago, it was extremely rare to see a man under the age of 50 having erectile issues. Now, it's practically normal to see a man in his 20's with ED. This has been a cause for concern for many professionals but maybe not as concerning as it should be due to the fact that ED drugs have also become widely used and have been effective, for the most part. At the same time, should a 20 year old male have to resort to blood pressure medicine to make his perfectly healthy body function properly? I think we are making the problem worse by doing this because it is not a medical issue, it is psychological.

What we have started to see is an increase in the number of men diagnosed with ED reporting that they are also porn addicts. The thing with porn addicts is that they view porn at least daily and also masturbate at least once daily to porn, and they have been doing this for many many years. Some men have reported averaging between 15-20 times a day of masturbating to porn (although it can happen with just single daily use). What they notice is that in the presence of actual women, they can no longer achieve an erection. This happens, the woman becomes upset, they become upset, assume there is something wrong with their body because they can get it up when they are alone, so the doc prescribes viagra, yet the problem remains. It's interesting, they have taken admitted porn addicts, asked who their favorite pornstar was, brought the pornstar in, and placed electrodes on the heads of the men to measure brain activity. They measured brain activity when they presented the man with the pornstar...nothing happened. They presented the same pornstar on a computer screen and brain activity went crazy.

Here's what's happening - we are conditioning ourselves to only be able to achieve an erection in the presence of a computer screen to images while we are alone. Remember Pavlov's dog from psych 101? That's what's happening here. In his experiment, Pavlov trained dogs to salivate in the presence of a bell that had been associated with food. Well, with porn addicts, they are associating erections with computer images and no longer will achieve erections in the presence of women. It's not low test for most men, it's the use of porn and masturbation. There are recovering porn addicts now that we have started to understand the problem. Porn withdrawal looks exactly the same as withdrawals from elicit drugs - depression, insomnia, agitation, sickness, no libido or sensitivity in the penis.

The good news is that after about 4-8 weeks of no porn or masturbation, men are able to achieve full erections in the presence of women and their arousal in the presence of any woman is significantly increased. I can go into more detail about the behavioral and neurological mechanisms that are active during addiction and withdrawal if you guys would like. I think this is a seriously misunderstood issue with all men because we figure that all guys masturbate all the time and always watch porn so they never consider it to be a problem - it is. Now maybe you'll understand why when I see a guy complaining about ED one of the first questions I ask him is how often does he masturbate...not has he gotten his bloods done.
 
Interesting read and it makes sense. What do you do if the girl you're having ED problems with keeps sending you videos of herself in the shower? NOT watch them so she's better in person? :p
 
Interesting read and it makes sense. What do you do if the girl you're having ED problems with keeps sending you videos of herself in the shower? NOT watch them so she's better in person? :p

this is a really good question actually. masturbating to stimuli associated with the girl you are with is MUCH better than to pornstars. You are keeping the association somewhat in tact. It is not the same medium, but having an erection in the presence of a pic of her is very similar to having an erection in the presence of her. In the case of just no masturbating, I'm reading more and more about this, but if a person breaks down and has to masturbate, it is best if they just use their imagination instead of porn. Although, you are still being aroused while you are alone and you constantly want to strengthen the association of having an erection in the presence of another person. BUT if you are with someone and you have an association of being erect due to your own masturbation to just your imagination, you can do that in the presence of the person and achieve an erection. It's not as if you can be with your girl, not get it up, run over to the computer for a few minutes then take a whirl at it.
 
Holy shit what a write up!
I haven't clicked on this section in a very long time but I'm glad I did. I'm an admitted porn addict from waaaaaaay back.
I've always had problems with girl the first few times and now I understand why. Thanks for the info.
 
Honestly I don't do much masturbating any more....I prefer to save my orgasms for the real thing and drown her with a seriously massive load.

Downside is that I don't last as long :-/ but refractory time is usually pretty good
 
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When I was on a heap of psych drugs (especially SSRIs) it used to take me up to two hours to blow my load when I was with a girl. I've been off for almost a year now minus a little here and there when/if required, but it STILL takes me a long time to finish when I'm having sex, yet on my own I'm fine. Again, all psychological.
 
Excessive masturbation is the worst thing. You hit the nail on the head.
If done really frequently...It kills sex drive and ability to get stiffer wood.
 
Honestly I don't do much masturbating any more....I prefer to save my orgasms for the real thing and drown her with a seriously massive load.

Downside is that I don't last as long :-/ but refractory time is usually pretty good

masturbation sucks. It kills your workouts and really desensitizes from the real thing.
 
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The problem with me is not that I can't get erections, i think those come a little too easy lol, but sex just doesn't feel that good for me.

i.e. I slept with this girl this past weekend and honestly no matter how hard I tried and no matter what she did I just couldn't finish - or even come close. Then I wake up the next morning, come home and rub one out in literally 2 minutes.

Obviously the best thing would be to stop masturbating completely but honestly, I feel that would be a near impossible feat for me.

If i don't masturbate for even just one day i start going crazy. I get very antsy, cant concentrate and all i think about is just getting my fix...lol... You're right it's like being addicted to crack.

Yeah yeah I know - just have more sex

But, easier said than done. For me at least :(

And this is all very embarrassing for me to say but honestly what should I do? There is no way in hell I can just stop cold turkey, i've tried.
 
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The problem with me is not that I can't get erections, i think those come a little too easy lol, but sex just doesn't feel that good for me.

i.e. I slept with this girl this past weekend and honestly no matter how hard I tried and no matter what she did I just couldn't finish - or even come close. Then I wake up the next morning, come home and rub one out in literally 2 minutes.

Obviously the best thing would be to stop masturbating completely but honestly, I feel that would be a near impossible feat for me.

If i don't masturbate for even just one day i start going crazy. I get very antsy, cant concentrate and all i think about is just getting my fix...lol... You're right it's like being addicted to crack.

Yeah yeah I know - just have more sex

But, easier said than done. For me at least :(

And this is all very embarrassing for me to say but honestly what should I do? There is no way in hell I can just stop cold turkey, i've tried.

That's actually a really common problem too man. I hear a lot of guys saying that and I've experienced the same thing. There could be a few things going on...most likely that the way that you masturbate produces different stimulation than sex, I mean, obviously it's different but here's what I'm saying - some guys masturbate in their own way - could be really, really fast (way faster than you could physically have sex), really rough (much rougher than anything with a girl) or in odd rhythms (might go fast for a minute, then slow and so on). If I were having this issue and couldn't stop masturbating as you said, I would try to make masturbation as much like sex as possible, same rhythm, same roughness, etc. I would definitely not use porn, just your imagination. I would also limit masturbating to once a day. Masturbating severely decreases sensitivity, making it difficult to reach orgasm with another person. This decreased sensitivity isn't an issue when you are just masturbating, you can go faster, harder, more intense porn, whatever to overcome the insensitivity - you can't do these things with a girl really. Also, I would talk to your girl and tell her that you might want to change some things up. I know for me, it's easier to finish in certain positions and different rhythms. The girl I'm sleeping with knows my buttons and shes awesome at doing things right. This takes practice though and to be honest, a lot of women are not very skilled at reading their partner because most men are extremely easy in this department, meaning that the girl just lays there most the time and lets the guy do whatever he wants, not requiring her to learn about the other person's needs
 
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