23-1/2 Hour Rule

[stevenmd]

People that know me know that I tend to end up with some crazy women. When I say crazy, I mean WTF crazy. I tend to go for the hottest woman in the room type of thing and that always gets me into a lot of trouble. Imagine The Hangover movie but along the lines of dating.

A good friend of mine has an awesome wife and they have an awesome relationship, something I have always admired. So one day I straight out asked them about it. This is when they explained the 23-1/2 hour rule...

After a relationship "cools off" - you know, after that period of infatuation and sex 24 hours a day tapers off and you "get to living normally" - sex usually averages 30 minutes a day. Sure, some days you go for an hour or 3 and some days you don't b/c you're both too tired or you don't see each other. So you average it out and you spend an average of 30 minutes a day having sex.

So what do you do for the other 23-1/2 hours of the day? Is this person someone you WANT to spend those 23-1/2 hours with? Can you tolerate that person for those 23-1/2 hours?

This rule has sure changed my way of thinking and it sure has lessened the drama in my life!

 

[Zero V]

I pick a girl by "Could I live with her if we never had sex" rule. Essentially, pure wife material. Such as if she had an injury and could not have intercourse for say 6 months or a year, or possibly ever again. Could I still be there for her, live with her, grow as a couple with her. This is how I judge it.

 

[bigherm2121]

People that know me know that I tend to end up with some crazy women. When I say crazy, I mean WTF crazy. I tend to go for the hottest woman in the room type of thing and that always gets me into a lot of trouble. Imagine The Hangover movie but along the lines of dating.

A good friend of mine has an awesome wife and they have an awesome relationship, something I have always admired. So one day I straight out asked them about it. This is when they explained the 23-1/2 hour rule...

After a relationship "cools off" - you know, after that period of infatuation and sex 24 hours a day tapers off and you "get to living normally" - sex usually averages 30 minutes a day. Sure, some days you go for an hour or 3 and some days you don't b/c you're both too tired or you don't see each other. So you average it out and you spend an average of 30 minutes a day having sex.

So what do you do for the other 23-1/2 hours of the day? Is this person someone you WANT to spend those 23-1/2 hours with? Can you tolerate that person for those 23-1/2 hours?

This rule has sure changed my way of thinking and it sure has lessened the drama in my life!

Good post

 

[darkside06]

I just fuck women so I don't even care!


Lol....seriously though, Zero has a great point. I had to change my way of thinking years agoas well, sometimes going home with the Rose Bowl queen is not best in the long run.

 

[Smilee21]

Excellent post...
It's crazy to think that at one time or another in my life I chose to be involved with someone just based off our sexual connection. Once the sex / infatuation/lust seemed to have faded and i began to see and learn how they really were (fuck was I in trouble) i am not one to just quit things, i would try to stick it through and make it work. However it became very difficult bc we didnt have things in common besides the Sex. I tried To make things work, thinking maybe they would eventually grow on me. I have had some experiences in my life where if i would have put more thought into it before i slept with them, I would have chosen differently.

I like your friends' 23 1/2 hour rule...
This is how I view things now and is why I have decided to do things differently than I have in the past. If I cannot see myself growing old with this person, sitting in a room across from them listening to them converse without getting irritated and/or annoyed, taking care of them when they are not well, if I were to be stuck in a car for a long road trip would I lose my mind or enjoy their time with me.

I want that one person who is my best friend, my Lover, my everything that will treat me with respect. One day this person will enter my life He is out there hopefully searching for the same things as I am. That one person who will make me melt by a smile and the touch of his hand, When we are old and grey.

It's probably why I never married, BC I couldn't see
Myself growing old with any of my ex's... Our connection was based off only our sexual chemistry.

 

[Smilee21]

I pick a girl by "Could I live with her if we never had sex" rule. Essentially, pure wife material. Such as if she had an injury and could not have intercourse for say 6 months or a year, or possibly ever again. Could I still be there for her, live with her, grow as a couple with her. This is how I judge it.

Wish more individuals thought like this... It's good to know they are out there somewhere

 

[Four1Thr33]

Great rule. I will have to talk about that with Friends

 

[Infantry87]

Good shit bro. All relationships have bad times, arguments, fights etc.. but what you have to ask yourself is, Can I live with her and deal with the occasional fight or disagreement. Seriously, my current gf and I have been together for over a yr now, and I can honestly say I love her more than I did with my ex-wife after 6 years, we dont fight a lot but when we do its ww3, it sucks but no relationship is perfect

 

[darkside06]

Good shit bro. All relationships have bad times, arguments, fights etc.. but what you have to ask yourself is, Can I live with her and deal with the occasional fight or disagreement. Seriously, my current gf and I have been together for over a yr now, and I can honestly say I love her more than I did with my ex-wife after 6 years, we dont fight a lot but when we do its ww3, it sucks but no relationship is perfect

hahahaha...i'm in the exact same boat man!