2 years on and off (mainly due to me being a dick who "never wanted her" but was in love with her), then 9 months of a real relationship. my first REAL girlfriend. i'm 23 she is 22.
a month and a half before we broke up officially it felt like a downward spiral. lately she was always getting mad at me for EVERYTHING and i didnt know why so i had to bring it up. then we agreed we should both take a few days and think. she said shes in a very confusing time in her life regarding her career path and going abroad to get her masters and hates her job and might move home to her parents, also said the birth control she takes is driving her crazy... she freaked out. i told her im here for her no matter what.
i took these days to think, and i wanted her back. so i went to her house and she laid it on me. she was done. she was decided. breakup sex, crying, the long affectionate hug, the whole nine... and then i was out the door. the next day we met up and hung out as if nothing happened. then that night (new years) we went out, i got so drunk i basically told her EVERYTHING she does that bothers me and called her ungrateful.
the next day she calls me to talk. i go to her house, and she said shes really done this time. i tried to convince her but it was like talking to a wall. so i walked away. we ended things off on good terms.
5 days later i go out, get wasted, lose my keys and decide to call her and ask if i can sleep over (she lives down the block). so i show up wasted, i didnt try to fuck her even, i just wanted to hold her and she was completely reciprocating... then we woke up
ok so now its really really over, and i see her at the gym like 2-3 weeks later. we just kept glancing at each other for a split second. no words were exchanged. most of my faces were pretty nasty cause i was lifting in the zone lol she probably thought i hated her.
then last night, there i was.. waiting for the bus with a bunch of beer on my way to a super bowl party. i look to my left, and there she was.
we both had big smiles on our faces, said hey gave each other a kiss on the cheek and a hug. blah blah whats up, "look at my new pants i just got i just went shopping". then the bus came. literally 60 seconds of interaction. she was like oh uh.... i'll see you later i guess.
that morning i had to text her. i just told her "how great it was seeing one another and it wasnt awkward and completely calm, just the way we wanted it to be and the way i want for it to continue". she replies, and replies and replies with smiley faces saying how she agrees and hopes it stays this way and "hopes things like last night will continue to happen".
she went on to ask me how my night was, and told me to say hi to her next time i see her in the gym, and asked me if she looks different. we continued to text for a little bit sharing our old jokes and things like that .. and then that was it, enjoy your day.
my question here to you guys is.... does it seem like i still have a shot? i mean should i text her again in a few days or next time i run into her ask to go for a beer or something? i love this girl to death and i dont know why, but i just do. and she knows that. even if i dont have a shot and its not a date, i would still very much like to just sit and have lunch with her even just to catch up. advice?
a month and a half before we broke up officially it felt like a downward spiral. lately she was always getting mad at me for EVERYTHING and i didnt know why so i had to bring it up. then we agreed we should both take a few days and think. she said shes in a very confusing time in her life regarding her career path and going abroad to get her masters and hates her job and might move home to her parents, also said the birth control she takes is driving her crazy... she freaked out. i told her im here for her no matter what.
i took these days to think, and i wanted her back. so i went to her house and she laid it on me. she was done. she was decided. breakup sex, crying, the long affectionate hug, the whole nine... and then i was out the door. the next day we met up and hung out as if nothing happened. then that night (new years) we went out, i got so drunk i basically told her EVERYTHING she does that bothers me and called her ungrateful.
the next day she calls me to talk. i go to her house, and she said shes really done this time. i tried to convince her but it was like talking to a wall. so i walked away. we ended things off on good terms.
5 days later i go out, get wasted, lose my keys and decide to call her and ask if i can sleep over (she lives down the block). so i show up wasted, i didnt try to fuck her even, i just wanted to hold her and she was completely reciprocating... then we woke up
ok so now its really really over, and i see her at the gym like 2-3 weeks later. we just kept glancing at each other for a split second. no words were exchanged. most of my faces were pretty nasty cause i was lifting in the zone lol she probably thought i hated her.
then last night, there i was.. waiting for the bus with a bunch of beer on my way to a super bowl party. i look to my left, and there she was.
we both had big smiles on our faces, said hey gave each other a kiss on the cheek and a hug. blah blah whats up, "look at my new pants i just got i just went shopping". then the bus came. literally 60 seconds of interaction. she was like oh uh.... i'll see you later i guess.
that morning i had to text her. i just told her "how great it was seeing one another and it wasnt awkward and completely calm, just the way we wanted it to be and the way i want for it to continue". she replies, and replies and replies with smiley faces saying how she agrees and hopes it stays this way and "hopes things like last night will continue to happen".
she went on to ask me how my night was, and told me to say hi to her next time i see her in the gym, and asked me if she looks different. we continued to text for a little bit sharing our old jokes and things like that .. and then that was it, enjoy your day.
my question here to you guys is.... does it seem like i still have a shot? i mean should i text her again in a few days or next time i run into her ask to go for a beer or something? i love this girl to death and i dont know why, but i just do. and she knows that. even if i dont have a shot and its not a date, i would still very much like to just sit and have lunch with her even just to catch up. advice?
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