With BP that high (190 systolic, holy shit), you should seek medical care for hypertension until things like external stressors settle down (the divorce and all). >160/100 with either number higher than the respective figure above is stage II HTN and probably needs medication if prolonged (not just the result of the cycle; if the cycle is to blame, then reduce doses or stop the cycle-lipids are just going to get worse too obviously if you stay on).
If you want to stay on anyway and don't want to seek doctor care, I would consider researching a somewhat "safe" DIY anti-hypertensive approach like using an ARB (angiotensin II receptor blocker). They seem to have the most bearable side effect profile of probably all the classes of anti-HTNs and probably aren't as prone to accidental overdose and severe hypotension and all as with RX beta blockers. You might look into something like losartan (Cozaar) or olmesartan (Benecar). I read a study recently that showed that male athletes treated with nandrolone and losartan (which is generic now BTW) experienced no cardiac hypertrophy from the nandrolone compared to the nandrolone only groups which did. So you could improve your BP and also prevent some of the heart damage that deca can induce completely apart from BP increases. Olmesartan is also a good call b/c it has been shown to halt plaque formation and atherosclerosis and even reverse existing atherosclerotic plaque buildup (might be useful for you considering your lipid issues). There is no substitute for medical advice and guidance here, but if you go with one of these, start with a low end dose for a few weeks, monitor BP at least 2x daily at home and log, watch for adverse sides, etc. Note that ARBs will not decrease your heart rate whereas beta blockers will. The most successful combinations seem to be ARBs + beta blockers, but I wouldn't mess with without DR. supervision.
There are a variety of non-RX approaches you can use to improve your lipid profile. They may or may not work, but may be worth trying before getting on a statin for instance. High quality Omega 3 Fish Oil (>70% purity-Nordic Naturals for instance) at 4g/day, Toco-8 (I -think- it helps), some general health stuff like Vitamin D3 @ 3,000 IU/day, etc come to mind as potentially helpful.
Of course, diet and sodium and water intake are important, as well as controlling the excessive estrogenic subcutaneous water via an Aromatase inhibitor (AI) as others have mentioned. I think some of the Deca bloat is cortisol-mediated, so perhaps not much to do there short of an anti-HTN drug is one is still needed.
Good luck.
