I rather stir up a girls past and see what lurks in the muddy waters early, than wait until the relationship is too serous.
Yes there are things in a girls past that will make me lose respect for her, and drop her. Regardless of if it is the past or
not. Using the excuse "A mistake" to me means that she will use that excuse again. I respect a girl more for being up front with her past and having a take me or leave me attitude and understanding if I leave.
Why? I am not one to get caught be a slut who reforms herself and officially wants to settle down after her fun is had. I like girls who respected themselves through and through. Not caked on several pounds of make up after the party is over and drinks several cups of coffee so she can look sober(metaphorically speaking).
That being said cheating, having had an abortion, been with two or more guys at once or in the same night, ever done porn, been over a set number of guys in her life(this varies based on my view of the girl) = I will walk out even if we been together a year before I found out.
There are several other items as well from the past that act as warnings to me that will make me leave a girl regardless of if she loves me or I love her, but those I keep private.
Sexual deviance is the tells more about a person than most other things can. All of us show our carnal nature when its comes out, the kinds of things you cant change about yourself in life. The truth of your heart on an instinctual level if you will.
People are only as strong as their weakest aspects.
I am weird in that aspect because I believe very deeply in the psychological and chemical/biological aspects that are involved in sex. The more partners a girl has had, the less likely she is to maintain a proper bond.
People make mistakes, but you don't make the same mistake over and over. One is a mistake, one is stupidity and disrespect for oneself.
I may be shaking it off some, but I walked a strict path after my ex. One that has given me the opportunity to be surrounded now by women around my age and a little younger who have never been in a sexual relationship or only one or two who respect me for my choices. And I respect them for their integrity and self respect, as well as their respect for their future husband by waiting.
I am no virgin, but I kept it very low. I do not care if my wife has been with a guy, or two. But since most girls lie about that(a side effect of the deviance and shame from it) ANY lie to me in a relationship brings doom to a relationship. Its a bad sign, because if you can lie about something like that, you can lie about anything.
I don't look for girlfriends, I look for a wife. And pickings are slim in todays world of someone who really stands out as a wife who can stand at your side.
It comes down to me, its Christian based and yet science based at the same time. I want a girl who has the best shot science wise at bonding and forming healthy bonds, and a girl who cares enough about the faith to have respected herself and her future husband. As I have been doing for some time now for my future wire.
Such as when that female friend of mine wanted to be sex buddies...it actually stressed me out, because its been a long while but I really didn't want to but the body was raging war on the mind. Thankfully it the situation disarmed itself.
Also, if a girl ever listens to a lil wayne song, its over. lol. Not joking actually, I cannot respect that. Was talking to a girl recently who it turned out loved his music. That ended then and there, just not very tasteful.
