Told the wife, now need some advice.

[Jack Tors]

your fucked if u just did itTHEN told her or said nothing u would have been better off. now the cat is outta the bag and if u do it she will go jihad on u... i dunno try the movie i guess. tell her its a script from the doc angle... my chicas always getpissed but when i look like the hulk they seem to forget lol.

 

[Jezebel]

From a woman's perspective, the last thing you want to do is hide it from her. Esp. if there is a child involved. If she was just a girlfriend, then whatever. But she is your wife and the mother of your child. If things go bad, she could use this against you in a custody hearing.

Do a lot of research and show it to her. Maybe even bring her to this website and have her go on the women's forum and talk to some of the ladies here. If she is reasonable, she'll see that steroid use is way more common than she thinks it is and as long as it isn't abused, it is relatively safe.

Reassure her you are going to be responsible and that in no way are you going to jeopardize your health because you are a father now. Family man. That goes a long way with a woman.

Good luck!

 

[jon emberlin]

Worst advice in the history of advices. If you have nothing to lose and hate your significant other, then yes that is good advice, he has a kid probably a house and probably joint accounts and that will be used against him if she ever finds out. Also if you get overly agressive something is wrong with you, either mentally or your estrogen is too high, test is supposed to give you a feeling of well being not turn you into a complete asshole.

Here is how it worked out for me, at one point in my relationship (been with her 4 years now) I was overworked, over educated (too much university) and over trained, btw this is recent, it destroyed my libido completely, to the point that I was just uninterested by sex, myself being an ex nympho and my gf loves sex when that well dried up we went to a doc, explained myself, he did bloodwork, test was low, he talked about testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) but we want children, so we decided to get my sperm frozen and go the underground way, cause in canada they prescribe that shitty gel that you put on your balls and have sticky balls all day and you have to do it every day which is annoying as fuck.

In the end I hope that after this cycle of 15 weeks, I will be able to get my natty levels back to where they were or almost with good post cycle therapy (pct), if not it is testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) for the rest of my life. I guess some guys call that lucky, I call this a tragedy cause there was seriously nothing wrong with me before.

He can lose everything over educated one...

 

[Harnold]

Get the pop up tent brother, and a good air mattress....lol

 

[travelling lifter]

Get the pop up tent brother, and a good air mattress....lol

Probably the best advice, hard to overcome the severe mis-education ingrained in our society on AAS. All of thoseafter school specials in the 90's didn't help.....

 

[tesseract]

He can lose everything over educated one... She will always think of the steroids if she wears the boots.

If that is your true train of thought I pity you from what I gather, cause your sentance doesn't really make any sense. Decisions when in a couple are made through harmony and in team, if he wants AAS that is fine, there is a problem tho she doesn't want them. He has a choice to make, what you gave him as a choice is horrible, if you hide something from a woman, you can expect hell for it, it's how it works, so you either be alone and do whatever the hell you want, be with someone who likes you and makes existence less lonely but without a chemical compound that is there to pretty much satisfy your own narcisstic needs, it all boils down to what is important to you.

 

[jon emberlin]

If that is your true train of thought I pity you from what I gather, cause your sentance doesn't really make any sense. Decisions when in a couple are made through harmony and in team, if he wants AAS that is fine, there is a problem tho she doesn't want them. He has a choice to make, what you gave him as a choice is horrible, if you hide something from a woman, you can expect hell for it, it's how it works, so you either be alone and do whatever the hell you want, be with someone who likes you and makes existence less lonely but without a chemical compound that is there to pretty much satisfy your own narcisstic needs, it all boils down to what is important to you.

I love my wife!!!

 

[Moppy1]

Dren, Even though I am in my 40s, my testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) is because of years of AAS use. When my wife caught me I had to go cold turkey, with only the standard PCT stuff (including HCG), which did not fix my HPA axis...... There are other discussions of this, but I can tell you that 1 year of PCT never recovered my natural test production given my years of continuous AAS use, and I think I will need testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) for the rest of my life. My last blood work before going on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) showed a test value of 60 (after 1 year cold turkey). I felt like crap, no sex drive, lost most of my muscle, tired all the time, etc. Wife was enthusiastic about me going on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), but I did have to educate her over several months, sending her studies from PubMed, etc. Now my Doc has me at 300 mg / week and I feel awesome. Looking to get back in the game for a couple years with some tren (most amazing AAS ever), and my wife is mostly giving me the green light on it.

Jezebel and Jon Emberlin make a good point though, as I have 2 kids, and this could have really screwed me in a court of law if we ever divorced. So, this is a really tricky issue, and even if you tell her and she approves, it could still be used against you as illegal activity that the kids are exposed to.

 

[HDV]

From a woman's perspective, the last thing you want to do is hide it from her. Esp. if there is a child involved. If she was just a girlfriend, then whatever. But she is your wife and the mother of your child. If things go bad, she could use this against you in a custody hearing.

Do a lot of research and show it to her. Maybe even bring her to this website and have her go on the women's forum and talk to some of the ladies here. If she is reasonable, she'll see that steroid use is way more common than she thinks it is and as long as it isn't abused, it is relatively safe.

Reassure her you are going to be responsible and that in no way are you going to jeopardize your health because you are a father now. Family man. That goes a long way with a woman.

Good luck!

Straight from a lady!

I agree with Jezebel let your lady have a talk with some of the ladies on the site.

Not the same but my sister who stays with me freaked out when i told her I was thinking of doing aas. I sat up hours doing research which she saw me doing and at the same time educated her on it. Now she even helps me do pins and stuff.

 

[HDV]

I still maintain what I said earlier...

Takes allot to come clean and tell your partner and IMO it's the right thing to do.

 

[Moppy1]

Total agreement HDV

 

[anewguy]

Man, I told my old lady... She was pinning for me by week 2.

 

[VictorZ06]

Yeah...same here. My wife knows, I told her many years back when I stopped being able to twist my body around to pin my glutes. She enjoys pinning me now....she gets mad if I do shoulders, quads, or pecks cuz I do them myself. lol




/V

 

[Bullishness]

Damn, All this makes me glad i am not married, Who has time to tippie toe around hiding shit? My only problem is keeping my libido from getting me in trouble. I can't even imagine banging one chic for the rest of my life. I believe variety is the spice of life.
I'de say deal with it .....

 

[Moppy1]

Damn, All this makes me glad i am not married, Who has time to tippie toe around hiding shit? My only problem is keeping my libido from getting me in trouble. I can't even imagine banging one chic for the rest of my life. I believe variety is the spice of life.
I'de say deal with it .....

Bullishness, you bring up an idea I have been tossing around. I am in my 40s and most of my buddies that have done or are doing AAS, cheat on their wives or GFs. Do you think AAS contributes? Maybe it is related to opportunity cause most AAS users have awesome bodies. Or, maybe it is related to a general liberal life attitude that most AAS users seem to have. Biologically, all the extra test might make us more sexually aggressive as well, as shown in animal studies, hence more desire to tap as much strange as possible.

 

[tesseract]

Bullishness, you bring up an idea I have been tossing around. I am in my 40s and most of my buddies that have done or are doing AAS, cheat on their wives or GFs. Do you think AAS contributes? Maybe it is related to opportunity cause most AAS users have awesome bodies. Or, maybe it is related to a general liberal life attitude that most AAS users seem to have. Biologically, all the extra test might make us more sexually aggressive as well, as shown in animal studies, hence more desire to tap as much strange as possible.

It is because of the overall confidence buildup, women love confidence, and well men are men... I am at a point in my life where I want to spend the rest of my life with my girlfriend and am about to get married, yes I feel hornier and have thoughts about fucking other girls, but then I think about how good it is to have someone who understands me so well so I keep it in my pants. It's a balance, I have spent 4 years of my life trying to build something with another woman why the hell would I want to throw that away and waste my goddamn time on a stupid impulse that can be easily controled? But then again, it's a fact, most couples are unhappy together and at one point they even forget what they promised to each other on the day they got married.

As for most AAS users around me, they fuck around a lot, and cheat, most get caught then when they come down, no one is there to pick them up, the abuse starts.

 

[Bullishness]

I have always looked at marriage as a sign of weakness, You are no longer your own man! You are giving up your freedom. Can i do this? can i go there? Why can't i have this? It seems like bullshit to constantly try to appease some chic day in and day out. It is more of a tradition, I have seen to many fail. I prefer a good girl that doesn't expect to much of me, That way she won't feel let down.

Think back to how happy you were before you got married.... Sometimes marriage makes things worse. To each there own.

 

[Harnold]

my buddy got caught cheating on his girlfriend, and we were working together at a bar at the time. his girlfriend shows up at the bar, jumps up and down all over the top and hood of his vintage black mustang parked outside the door, then runs over to a police cruiser a little ways away, and starts telling them everything from what he was using, to what amount he was selling, which wasn't much, to where he hid his stash and offered for them to come and get it.......fck me. I witnessed this whole thing. my buddy was in the military, but wrestled in a pro-circuit part time on tv, was 6'7 290lbs, a gentle giant. poor bugger. ended up getting killed in a work place accident in 2009. after all that.
so keep the woman's scorn in mind if she knows what you're doing.

 

[Moppy1]

my buddy got caught cheating on his girlfriend, and we were working together at a bar at the time. his girlfriend shows up at the bar, jumps up and down all over the top and hood of his vintage black mustang parked outside the door, then runs over to a police cruiser a little ways away, and starts telling them everything from what he was using, to what amount he was selling, which wasn't much, to where he hid his stash and offered for them to come and get it.......fck me. I witnessed this whole thing. my buddy was in the military, but wrestled in a pro-circuit part time on tv, was 6'7 290lbs, a gentle giant. poor bugger. ended up getting killed in a work place accident in 2009. after all that.
so keep the woman's scorn in mind if she knows what you're doing.

Hell noeth no furry like a women scorned

 

[Jack Tors]

Dren, Even though I am in my 40s, my testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) is because of years of AAS use. When my wife caught me I had to go cold turkey, with only the standard PCT stuff (including HCG), which did not fix my HPA axis...... There are other discussions of this, but I can tell you that 1 year of PCT never recovered my natural test production given my years of continuous AAS use, and I think I will need testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) for the rest of my life. My last blood work before going on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) showed a test value of 60 (after 1 year cold turkey). I felt like crap, no sex drive, lost most of my muscle, tired all the time, etc. Wife was enthusiastic about me going on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), but I did have to educate her over several months, sending her studies from PubMed, etc. Now my Doc has me at 300 mg / week and I feel awesome. Looking to get back in the game for a couple years with some tren (most amazing AAS ever), and my wife is mostly giving me the green light on it.

Jezebel and Jon Emberlin make a good point though, as I have 2 kids, and this could have really screwed me in a court of law if we ever divorced. So, this is a really tricky issue, and even if you tell her and she approves, it could still be used against you as illegal activity that the kids are exposed to.

not in NYS they dont give a shit about that anymore or cheating etc so many divorces. several yrs ago my boy told his girl she didnt want him to leave so when they split she brought empty viles he had to court... didnt actually make any diff. for his visitation rights or anything