My husband is on TRT and his sex drive is through the roof. Sadly this is a problem for us. He says he is going to stop the TRT because of this issue and while taking care of a baby and going to college full time i just cant keep up. while off the TRT he sleeps all of the time and is basically a ghost in the house. are there ways to lower sex drive while on cycle?
TRT and libido issues. Need advice.
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3J
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hi... many men feel a increased libido while on trt..
what i recommend is that he stays on trt (he is on it for legitimate reasons im guessing) and "takes care of himself"..
why put your husbands body through that?? his testosterone levels are in the tank off trt.. let him run it and explain to him he has to take care of himself when you cant take care of him...
what i recommend is that he stays on trt (he is on it for legitimate reasons im guessing) and "takes care of himself"..
why put your husbands body through that?? his testosterone levels are in the tank off trt.. let him run it and explain to him he has to take care of himself when you cant take care of him...
halfwit
I like turtles.
Problem for him, or problem for you? That's a very important distinction to make here.
I know it's probably like a light switch was just flicked and after spending however long "ignoring" you as a woman, he's suddenly an insatiable sex machine. This will calm down, and it's definitely in your best interests to take advantage of it while he's still overloaded with all this sensory input he's been missing out on. Of all the guys I know that go from low T to normal, I don't usually hear complaints from the spouse, which leads me to believe there's an underlying issue at play here.
I'm certainly not a psychologist, but I have been through what he's going through. Life is definitely more challenging when we "wake up", and remember what women are.
I guess I'm pretty much saying you should ride it out and enjoy each other. Having a child puts us in the back seat which is rough enough - don't deny him physical affection too. If you do, you may find him seeking it elsewhere, which is lose/lose for everyone involved.
My .02c
3J
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with all due respect.. he sounds like an asshole..
pretty much telling you that he is going to cheat on you if you dont put out?? and you guys have a kid??
my wife isn't readily available.. i can go 3 times a day right now... shit i think i get twice a week if im lucky..
this isn't a "i have a problem" this is a "my husband has a problem and needs to man up"
what kind of man pretty much makes that statement?? tempted to cheat?? jerk off.. its not that hard..
pretty much telling you that he is going to cheat on you if you dont put out?? and you guys have a kid??
my wife isn't readily available.. i can go 3 times a day right now... shit i think i get twice a week if im lucky..
this isn't a "i have a problem" this is a "my husband has a problem and needs to man up"
what kind of man pretty much makes that statement?? tempted to cheat?? jerk off.. its not that hard..
Problem for both. We went from twice a month to every day practically over night. Im good with every day. Even though he was home before he wasnt really here if that makes sense. And im happy to have him back with the living. Ill try to convince him to keep going but he says he woud rather feel like crap then cheat. Im thankful for that but dont want him to be sick again...
3J
Super Moderator
perfect.. here is what you have him do.. instead of completely coming off.. tell him to reduce it to 100mg a week for the time being.. that will keep his test levels high enough to keep the energy going.. but should reduce his sex drive a bit..
3J
Super Moderator
it should calm him down a bit.. how long has he been on trt??
halfwit
I like turtles.
Playing devil's advocate here; there's a big difference between being denied access to physical attention and being unreasonable. Any person (male or female) receiving the former will likely stray, or leave the relationship if needs are not met. Obviously this can be physical or emotional - but the outcome is often the same.
Compromise is the best solution if the relationship is healthy, and it does work. My point above is that it's hard for folks not going through such a drastic change to understand. Hell, watching movies older than from 5 years ago are TOTALLY different for me now; that's how huge it can be.
I'm not trying to fill your head with worries, I'm just trying to give some insight into what he's going through. My wife and I went through something very similar, but through a LOT of communication were able to resolve our issues.
If you're giving him attention, (positive comments count too!) and he still doesn't seem satisfied - you guys need to sit down and hash it out. A compromise can easily be found, and I'm sure him mentioning cheating was more of an attempt to garner attention than as a threat. Men validate their existence through accomplishments, and sex is definitely one of them. If you guys can work things out so he's still feeling validated, and you're not tired from having to constantly service him, you'll make it through this in time.
I was with you till I heard you're doing it every day and he's still got a problem. I'm not an expert by any means, but sounds like there is more to the story here. Just to echo what everyone else is saying, 200 is the max dose, sounds like its way more than he needs. I'm on 100 for the past 6 weeks and it has been a nice bump in my libido but nothing like that.
Megatron28
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When you were dating or recently married, and he presumably had healthy testosterone levels, how often would you say that you had sex? Just wondering if once a day currently is more, less or the same.
How old are the two of you?
Does he masterbate?
I understand what you are going through too. When I went on TRT, it is like a light switch was flipped. I talked to my wife about what I was going through and what to expect. But she too had a hard time keeping up with my libido after a while. She actually looked at supplementing testosterone herself to bring her libido up. I am not saying you should do this of course. Just letting you know that you are not the only one that goes through this.
How old are the two of you?
Does he masterbate?
I understand what you are going through too. When I went on TRT, it is like a light switch was flipped. I talked to my wife about what I was going through and what to expect. But she too had a hard time keeping up with my libido after a while. She actually looked at supplementing testosterone herself to bring her libido up. I am not saying you should do this of course. Just letting you know that you are not the only one that goes through this.
Want2FeelGood
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Seriously? I'm maxed out at 5-7 times a week. If your giving it to him once a day and he's still not happy...the issue is not you.
Just my 2...
Just my 2...
Megatron28
Moderator
Another question. Has his libido been like this the entire two years that he has been on TRT or has his libido increased recently? If it has increased recently, he may be taking more than a TRT dose of testosterone. Has he put on a lot of muscle recently and very quickly? Does he seem happier and more laid back about things recently?
