i need girl advice from you older dogs here

[halfwit]

Good advise no doubt. But at 22 years old not worrying about broads is like solving a rubik's cube in the dark.

Well, vagina is THE most addictive thing known to man haha. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't watching a young lady picking her spandex out of her twat in front of me for a solid 15 minutes last night. I'm there to train, but good lord - it's hard to maintain focus sometimes!

 

[J-Radical]

At 22 you have no idea how much you will change over the next 10 or so years or so. When you look back it will be mind blowing....

 

[Ghost124]

i know most guys on here are significantly older than me, i just turned 22 but here it goes..

i'm sick of hookups but not only am i sick of it i'm just so over it. its not exciting or gratifying to me anymore. now i'm not saying i'm looking for a wife, but i'd like a girl who i truly have a connection with to have to myself. every single girl i talk to seems to only see me as the player type.. i'm never looked upon as boyfriend material because of my physical appearance and maybe my behavior/demeanor.

what advice can some of you older bros on here give me regarding this subject?

Story time...but I will try to make it to the point and as short as I can
I can 100% relate. I just turned 24 two weeks ago.
If you've seen any of my threads, I spoke on how I quit lifting and got very fat over a 8 month period over a heart break. I was a man whore all through college and high school. It got the point where the reputation followed me around. My friends(both male and female) even would make jokes about it. So my sophomore year of college I meet this girl. Loved everything about this chick, from her looks, to her goofy personality......I even liked her voice! This was the first legitimate gf I ever had. In high school my relationships never lasted more than 5 months before I wanted to go screw someone else.

So my senior year of college she started getting insecure. She learned about my "history" and this made her feel very insecure about our relationship. One of her friends knew a girl that I messed around with in the past and that girl blew the top off and told her everything(this chick knew me well from the past). We went from having a picture perfect relationship to utter hell overnight when she peeked into my past. She got her heart broken hard before to the point where she was on anti-depressants for a few months. This was 2 years before we met. Her last boyfriend was also a player. So now we started arguing over the smallest things and no matter how hard I tried I could not keep this chick happy. Eventually she gave me the "I need some space" talk.

3 months went by and we talked here and there. 5 months goes by and she got with someone else. She completely blindsided me because I really fell for "damn maybe she just needs her space so I will give it to her". the most painful part was, the guy she got with was a huge downgrade over me. I am not trying to be cocky but it's true, all her friends as well as my friends said it too. This guys was a pure loser. He still hung out with his brothers high school friends, he was skinny with a beer belly, had no car, no money and no job and was not going to school. Me on the other hand? Was shredded 9% body fat. Finishing final year at University. Had a huge social circle that EVERYBODY invited me to do something every weekend. Was partnering up with another kid from school to start our own business. Plus I could give this girl an orgasm harder than any other dude could. But at the end of the day none of that mattered. She felt safer with the loser. The more sadder part was, she called me a few months ago and admitted she went over the edge about my past, and that she regrets breaking up with me but there is nothing she could do about it because "it would not be fair to Kyle(the loser) to just break up with him when he did nothing wrong". That was the knife thought the heart type moment...

Anyways!(sorry got carried away).
Don't let the whole "girls think you're a player" get to you. That is just girls in your age group. I have many older friends, and when females hit age 25+ they stop playing games...for the most part. Because judging a dude on how he looks and assuming he is a player is 100% playing games. Girls ages 16-24 all have the same high school mentality. Trust me. But do yourself a favor and stop whoring around. You need to kill that rep.

 

[e92]

thanks for the advice guys. im taking into consideration every single one of your posts, much appreciated.

Anyways!(sorry got carried away).
Don't let the whole "girls think you're a player" get to you. That is just girls in your age group. I have many older friends, and when females hit age 25+ they stop playing games...for the most part. Because judging a dude on how he looks and assuming he is a player is 100% playing games. Girls ages 16-24 all have the same high school mentality. Trust me. But do yourself a favor and stop whoring around. You need to kill that rep.

good story i can sort of relate to that. the closest thing ive had to a girlfriend is a girl i was hooking up with for 8 months straight when i was 19 till right before my 20th birthday. my best friend honestly told me i havent been the same since. first girl i really fell for, was so good to me blah blah blah but i ended up being too much of a dick to her and its cause i didnt trust her cause she was stupid.

but anyway, girls always see me as a player and i dont care cause the girls who are into that are usually pretty easy. but every time i meet a girl who is worth dating and who is not a skank, she sees me and automatically thinks "douchebag player". not trying to sound cocky, but i am a great looking guy, i'm a pretty big guy from lifting, and on top of all that i have a whole sleeve of tattoos. so the girl who is worth dating cant help but think im a player. and as soon as i get close to her and start to act nice she DEFINITELY thinks "hmmm, what is he up to. i bet he's trying to play me like all those other girls."

from a girls perspective, a good looking guy who's in great shape and is outgoing and friendly is equivalent to how a guy looks at the sexy party girl... that shes not worth dating and only good for a hookup. now i am DEFINITELY not complaining about that, but i'd just rather not be that guy.

side note: the narcissism is strong in this thread!!

 

[Ghost124]

thanks for the advice guys. im taking into consideration every single one of your posts, much appreciated.


good story i can sort of relate to that. the closest thing ive had to a girlfriend is a girl i was hooking up with for 8 months straight when i was 19 till right before my 20th birthday. my best friend honestly told me i havent been the same since. first girl i really fell for, was so good to me blah blah blah but i ended up being too much of a dick to her and its cause i didnt trust her cause she was stupid.

but anyway, girls always see me as a player and i dont care cause the girls who are into that are usually pretty easy. but every time i meet a girl who is worth dating and who is not a skank, she sees me and automatically thinks "douchebag player". not trying to sound cocky, but i am a great looking guy, i'm a pretty big guy from lifting, and on top of all that i have a whole sleeve of tattoos. so the girl who is worth dating cant help but think im a player. and as soon as i get close to her and start to act nice she DEFINITELY thinks "hmmm, what is he up to. i bet he's trying to play me like all those other girls."

from a girls perspective, a good looking guy who's in great shape and is outgoing and friendly is equivalent to how a guy looks at the sexy party girl... that shes not worth dating and only good for a hookup. now i am DEFINITELY not complaining about that, but i'd just rather not be that guy.

side note: the narcissism is strong in this thread!!

Another thing I forgot to add: girls will rarely date guys who are better looking than them. girls always date guys who don't look as good as them. I have heard girls say this before. They're all about security. In your case, if you're very good looking then you need to aim for 9's and 10's. I myself don't consider myself handsome or ugly(although I take some ugly pics lol) just normal I guess. But weirdly enough I NEVER had a problem getting girls. And by end of my high school career I had the highest body count on my entire football team.
anyways(sorry got carried away again).
Remember: girls want security. so if you're good looking, aim for better looking girls. if you are covered in tattoos and are huge and overall look like a "bad boy", be extra nice(but not pushover nice).

overall I hope you find a nice girl. screwing girls is fun and all but is nowhere near the level of happiness you get when you find a girl you love and she loves you back. good luck.

 

[Jen]

Your still not fully developed your Adam follicles are maturing and you are not capable of being serious until you turn 25. Once you hit 25 the neurons ARE much more mature then you can bind male receptors with female receptors.

Do you have any more info on this? I haven't heard this said like this before. and ps; iv met older men more immature then the younger ones, so i guess some just cant be saved lol

 

[Jen]

Another thing I forgot to add: girls will rarely date guys who are better looking than them. girls always date guys who don't look as good as them. I have heard girls say this before. They're all about security. In your case, if you're very good looking then you need to aim for 9's and 10's. I myself don't consider myself handsome or ugly(although I take some ugly pics lol) just normal I guess. But weirdly enough I NEVER had a problem getting girls. And by end of my high school career I had the highest body count on my entire football team.
anyways(sorry got carried away again).
Remember: girls want security. so if you're good looking, aim for better looking girls. if you are covered in tattoos and are huge and overall look like a "bad boy", be extra nice(but not pushover nice).

overall I hope you find a nice girl. screwing girls is fun and all but is nowhere near the level of happiness you get when you find a girl you love and she loves you back. good luck.

write that down guys! : )

 

[e92]

write that down guys! : )

since we got some estrogen now in this thread, care to share your thoughts on the subject at hand?

 

[halfwit]

Do you have any more info on this? I haven't heard this said like this before. and ps; iv met older men more immature then the younger ones, so i guess some just cant be saved lol

He's being silly; kind of one of those you had to be there to get it type of things.

 

[Fred87]

How to find the woman of your life? Stop looking for one.
Simple as that.
Focus on yourself, your education, your future, your friendships, you are probably not even ready to meet "the one".
You need to feel perfectly fine with yourself before you feel perfectly fine spending your life with a woman.
So go out and enjoy life, work hard on your dreams and goals, bang girls, eventually at some point in your life you will meet the girl who's gonna melt your heart, and you will be ready for it.
Good luck on the journey my friend

 

[Norsegod]

Dude....if a girl is the least bit concerned about your past then she isn't mature enough for a serious relationship. If you meet someone that you do click with, like really hit it off with then she won't give a fuck about your past.