Serious question for ology ladies...

[Detour5]

Ok, I guess the question is... how often IS it happening? Are you going days at a time without? Weeks? Months? You said she sometimes gets randy at 5-6pm so that means she does want it, she is knocking out after kids are in bed. She is TIRED! Get a babysitter or the weekend and take a trip, just you and her. Let her relax and have a fun day together during the day (nothing too strenuous) and then go back for an early night with a bottle of wine and strawberries. I bet it gets fun. Womens needs are different then mens needs. You fell you need sex, we feel we need love, support, understanding, sleep etc etc to be in the right state of mind to get to that point.

You have to take the good with the bad and from what you say, she is awesome. How old are the kiddos?

Great post..

 

[stevenmd]

I will also quickly add that the age of the kids sometimes has a huge affect on a couple's sex life. When we had one that was 18 months old and another infant nursing, it seemed like I was being touched all the time. Between nursing, cuddling, reading stories, wiping noses, wiping baby spittle off everything, rubbing thier backs and rocking them to sleep, it was like I was constantly being touched all day long (and most all night with a nursing infant). It was like touch sensory overload. My husband is an amazingly attractive guy and we've never had issues in bed, but shit, when the girls were that little and they finally went to sleep, my first thought was just to sit without having anyone touch me.

Now we're past that phase of parenting, and like I said before, things have only gotten much better. I have a bit of time to myself during the day and the girls are old enough to play together and not need me in the same way they did a couple years ago. I can slot out some "me" time during the day and be greatfull for the "us" time later.

Also, best thing we ever did was cut off the f'in tv. We listen to pandora on surround sound, but do not watch tv. We talk during dinner, each help get the kids in bed, then it's our time. Tv will ruin your sex life!

I've already repped you too much so the forum won't let me do it for a while. I'll just rep you publicly then. Really great information. Keep it up!

Damn bro you have a phd?! I'm coming to you from now on lol. What are you doing now then? Hopefully something with that degree!

Ironically I am burned out from stupid people. I am so tired of people being selfish and not expecting to WORK at relationships, not willing to GIVE in relationships that I no longer am willing to dispense advice/direction/knowledge unless someone is totally and completely willing to actually listen. They don't have to heed what I say but they should at least be willing to THINK about it.

Now I work at a gym. My mind is finally my own again. As well as my body!

 

[Mt-momma]

^repped back atcha . Yes, relationships are give and take and both parties have to WORK. In total agreement! So glad you are enjoying your new line of employment at the gym!

 

[mike4563]

is there an alternative to plastic surgery?

I hope I'm posting in the right place here.

long story short my girlfriend of 7 years has started looking into getting breast implants.

she's always been slim, but recently she has been dieting and exercising really seriously. she has lost more weight. now she is saying her breasts are too small. she has been looking into getting breast implants, which I am really against. not just because of the cost, but also the risks and I think the final results are, well, not great.


I was hoping that someone here had some knowledge or experience with an alternitive that I could offer to my girlfriend.

thanks in advance ladies.

oops this was ment to be a new thread.

 

[Zeek]

I think something is wrong with the relationship IMO

I've never encountered a female with a low sex drive or one that was reduced from her over working. If anything their sex drive is always higher than mine and I'm the one saying tomorrow or I have a headache tonight But even then I would still give it up at least 3 times per week.

I am by no means trying to say I'm studly and you are not kind of BS so please don't mis read what I am saying.

In my relationships the control on sex rests 100% with me, maybe you fellas need to change your approach and regain the control switch!

 

[Zeek]

hmmm insulting DPR

I predict your stay at ology will be a brief one!

so you are saying you have sex 6 hours a day sometimes? give us a break man.

if you are hitting that ass the right way 2-3 times a week is plenty. Will there be more some weeks and less others? Of course.

btw, that book wasn't written to make it easier for guys to get sex from their women. You're obviously not very intelligent.

colt, try working on what gets your girl hot and concentrate on that each time, even if its not often enough for you. Its the way it is man. I have a hot ass wife and i would get bored banging every day. We've done it, believe me, its work. Especially with kids, work, etc. Quality is in fact way better than quantity.

 

[mike4563]

I think something is wrong with the relationship IMO

I've never encountered a female with a low sex drive or one that was reduced from her over working. If anything their sex drive is always higher than mine and I'm the one saying tomorrow or I have a headache tonight But even then I would still give it up at least 3 times per week.

I am by no means trying to say I'm studly and you are not kind of BS so please don't mis read what I am saying.

In my relationships the control on sex rests 100% with me, maybe you fellas need to change your approach and regain the control switch!

Zeek my friend, Ive been reading alot of your posts... you seem knowledgeable and best of all honest....

I can see now that you are surely the biggest bull shitter on ology... who can i trust now?? Ha

 

[Zeek]

Zeek my friend, Ive been reading alot of your posts... you seem knowledgeable and best of all honest....

I can see now that you are surely the biggest bull shitter on ology... who can i trust now?? Ha

LOL

Maybe they are going for better looking woman than I go for? I dunno

 

[mike4563]

LOL

Maybe they are going for better looking woman than I go for? I dunno

Haha zeek, I do hear that the ugos try a lot harder...

 

[ChrisWho?]

I have to agree with you Zeek.