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[gabagool]

This is kind of a mini rant. So if it is unneccesary, please delete it.

When you are on HRT testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), ESPECIALLY when you use someone over the net instead of a doctor.......ALL YOU CATCH IS GRIEF. Thats IT. No support. Disbelief that you would even try. Accusations of not being able to just accept the fact that you are aging......Steroid meathead (thats a laugh if you saw a pic)

If this is legit, why wont a doctor help you? How do they know better than an MD? WHy won't insurance cover it?????

Before I started, I explained to my wife (at the suggestion of a sponsor here. This suggestion was the most honest piece of info i have recieved, and it cemented my confidence in him.) At the time she wasn't pissed at me, so while she was concerned she ok'ed it as long as I monitored my blood and BP. Well, now she's coming and bring hell with her....NOW, she's ticked at me and this whole idea is sheer lunacy!!!!!!!!!


I tell ya......this crap makes this stuff so difficult. I've explained the MD's know little (ALWAYS met with disbelief) Told them to research it (ALWAYS told that the positive stuff was written by those with a financial interest)..............


Thanks for letting me rant.

 

[mfpd]

Dude. I understand. At first, my wife was against it, but not enough that she was going to bitch if I got started. After she saw all of the positive changes in me, she has been very happy and even has my injection schedule memorized to make sure I would never miss one. If I get in a bad mood for some reason, she will ask me if I missed an injection. On the days that I do glute injections, she even does those for me.

My wife is ready to start on HRT through the same place that I use because she is tired of her endo's always messing around with things and not working with her to get what she is after.

Sorry you are dealing with that crap!

 

[Mrs P]

I think you should encourage your wife to read about the benefits of HRT, and to educate herself, There's many misconceptions about it, and if she learns about what you are doing exactly, she will feel more at ease.

It's easier if you have the support of your spouse, but remember to be patient, and keep your lines of communication open with her.

 

[cjw2021]

People bitched at me whether I was on it or not -you just gotta do what is good for you and not for the uninformed bored people who make a sport out of giving you shit. Don't tell her and let her ask you why you want sex every day. I don't know if you are who you say you are but you are probably old enough to know better than to care what people think. Just let the results speak for themselves.

 

[RJ]

Or you could get a new wife.

 

[JOWS6]

If she is this worked up it shows one thing: SHE CARES!!! She is obviously concerned about your health and the safety of whatever you are taking. If she has negative views about testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), can you really blame her? To anyone that doesn't know about testosterone, other than "Roid rage", then yea, testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) sounds a lil' scary!

Jus' show her some studies. There are a lot of good testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) videos of seminars on Youtube. Tell her to find anything wrong with taking testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) in therapuetic levels. I thought I would be able to find some kind of catch, but I wasn't able to.

 

[riprockwell]

I agree. It takes some time to research and to change the negative perception that testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) has with some people. The bottom line is that at the end of the day, you need to feel good and take care of your health. You are no good for your wife if you sit around and feel like miserable shit all day long. It will take some time but she should hopefully start to see the benefits of it soon, especially you.

 

[gabagool]

Thanks for all the feedback.

COuple things. My wife wouldn't read anything I give her....she'd just rather rag at me. She'll listen to her "let me see your ying and yang , eat cabbage to cool your kidneys off" aunt or her "Mary Ochino, "Im a effin psychic even though Im on my third marriage" because her sister TOLD her she's the real deal...but with me......nope.

ANd this is AFTER i INSISTED that my 4' 8" sophomore son get HGH therapy while everyone else told her we were nuts (he went from literally suicidal to 6 feet in two years.) That was ALL ME RESEARCHING THE NET, sans help from the local MD UNTIL we finally found one.

BUt, stupidly I love my wife, cause she's great in EVERY OTHER WAY, except her feelings for me and I battle keeping up with this over alienating her further. But it takes TIME and experimenting to get this stuff right, its complicated. She wants to see PERFECTION right now. Now bloating, no E2 craashing....these are all signs of me being duped.........

Again, its all a soap opera. BUt, really, just who else in my every day life can I POSSIBLY TALK TO about this and get even a TINY BIT of understanding.....I just got this board, noone, LITERALLY no one else.

 

[cjw2021]

Dude I screwed around with "chinese medicine" for years before getting on TRT. It was basically one giant waste of time and money. No amount of chinese medicine can resuscitate underactive testicles, trust me, I have tried. The whole kidney yin yang thing might be fun and useful applied to women but I found it completely useless, and I have tried all of their herbal concoctions with test results showing no improvements. Estrogens in the form of plastics-pesticides-synthetic hormones are floating around everywhere, and that is the bottom line.

 

[Mrs P]

I think you might have other issues in your marriage besides your use of HRT, a couple can disagree on many things, but there's got to be respect for the other person's feelings, & choices. Is normal for your wife to be worried about you, but if she doesn't listen to you & you can't talk to her, then you guys have a serious problem, you must be able to communicate, I think communication is key in a relationship.

I think you should consider marriage counseling, I would have suggested you get her to maybe work out with you, & she can see how good she'll feel about herself and maybe understand a little more why you're doing what you're doing..

But I don't think this is a good idea based on how you say she's wonderful in everything else "expect how she feels about you", not sure what to make of that,
I'd say start with marriage counseling, work on communication & then you can show her the benefits of HRT...

Maybe you can have her join the forum (she can learn a lot here


Good Luck !

 

[trtgiant]

Congratulations on telling your wife, if you didn't, it would have led to way more problems later. Chip, you were right!

The thing that brought my wife around was that I couldn't get my dick hard even with a full tab of levitra, and that i was crabby and tired all the time.

I say let your local docter know and try to get him involved. He may not feel comfortable prescribing it, but he can at least be a person to validate your decision.

I have had a lot of benefit from accupuncture, they can help a lot of the side effects of having hormonal problems.

The one thing they can't do is make you stronger. Once the testosterone level is low, hrt is the only thing I know that will return the levels to normal.

You can just tell your wife "wow, this accupuncture sure is working" One needle a day....keeps the shitheads away

 

[gabagool]

Hey
Thanks for all the info and taking the time to provide it. Like I said, I even MENTION this to anyone else, and their chests puff out, the voice gets deep and then they go on to tell me how stupid, dangerous and unnatural it all is. I swear, I want to bash their heads in with a cinder block...........

As far as my wife goes, sure, I know that this isn't the CAUSE of our problems, but simply another chapter. She like to be in control, period, gets it from her grandmother. It funny, the finances are, in her mind, MENS domain, and I could care less about paying bills, saving, investing...If it wasn't for her, I would spend every last dime of my check every week.....It just tough because NOW Im stuck between making myself happy and making her happy, which is what I promised the day we got married, a promise I would love to keep all the time...and Im failing now.
The sex thing, it don't really mean much, we've never really had a problem, she's easy to please, I've ALWAYS been the one with more of a drive, so she's not getting wowed by any heightened arousal from me.

Im banking that as time goes by I feel better and better (physically, mentally, and emotionally) Being content, happy, a good amount of energy and looking better...these are things that we've been fighting about for years, and these are EXACTLY the things that can be aided by HRT, IF WHAT I READ on these boards is true.

So again, thanks to all for hearing me out.

 

[riprockwell]

I understand your situation but at the end of the day, us guys can do all we can to please our wives but it is very hard to do that if you feel like hammered shit. People have a negative perception of testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) because they automatically think of juice heads roid raging which is completely untrue. All you are doing is getting your life back on track. The only person who can make that commitment to better health is you right now. And don't feel like your failing because you can't make your wife happy.

If her hormones were out of wack what would she do?? As I am sure lots can agree, it seems to me that more women are on HRT than men. My dad has low test and has had it for years now. Hasn't done anything about it but I can tell you his energy is down, body fat is higher than it has been. And my dad was a power lifter his whole life and was in great shape up until his late 50's. Now my dad's best friend is a Levitra tablet.

Best of luck to you. Again, your health should be your top priority right now.

 

[Ken]

Bro,

IMHO, you just stated like 10 reasons the get a new wifey...

Thanks for all the feedback.

COuple things. My wife wouldn't read anything I give her....she'd just rather rag at me. She'll listen to her "let me see your ying and yang , eat cabbage to cool your kidneys off" aunt or her "Mary Ochino, "Im a effin psychic even though Im on my third marriage" because her sister TOLD her she's the real deal...but with me......nope.

ANd this is AFTER i INSISTED that my 4' 8" sophomore son get HGH therapy while everyone else told her we were nuts (he went from literally suicidal to 6 feet in two years.) That was ALL ME RESEARCHING THE NET, sans help from the local MD UNTIL we finally found one.

BUt, stupidly I love my wife, cause she's great in EVERY OTHER WAY, except her feelings for me and I battle keeping up with this over alienating her further. But it takes TIME and experimenting to get this stuff right, its complicated. She wants to see PERFECTION right now. Now bloating, no E2 craashing....these are all signs of me being duped.........

Again, its all a soap opera. BUt, really, just who else in my every day life can I POSSIBLY TALK TO about this and get even a TINY BIT of understanding.....I just got this board, noone, LITERALLY no one else.