Update on my Dad

[Bullseye Forever]

well he had his first chemo last friday a week ago,went home eat a good meal,and he hasnt eat a whole meal since,we took him to the ER last tuesday,dehydrated,weak,sick as hell,he was put in ICU and stayed there until friday,and was put back there yesterday,the doctor said he is gonna havet to have a surgical procedure on his pancreas to somehow increase his appetite,and the doctor didnt give us much hope and didnt know if he could take any more chemo,he said maybe 2-3 weeks up to 5 months depending on how my dad does,its not good at all,and me and my 2 sisters and stepmom are having a hard time,we are all preparing for the worse

We know its coming,but still we all talk positive to him and try and make him comfortble,ijust dont know how im gonna handle it when it happens,when the time comes,i want him at home not at the hospital,because thats what he would want

all ive been doiing is talking to him about all the fun we've had all these years and being positive,thats all i can do i guess,God im just so scared and my heart is breaking and crumbling,i just ask for all my friends to pray and to just talk to me,i need that,i need my friends,its the only way i can deal with this and i thank you all for your friendship

 

[tnemo]

My prayers are with you and your Family.
Enjoy the time and remember the moments.
My Dad was taken too early and unexpectedly, I would give anything to have one more conversation with him.
Smile and know that he loves you

 

[bigherm2121]

Damn bro!!! You need anything pm me bro. I'm here for ya and you know that.

 

[Bullseye Forever]

My prayers are with you and your Family.
Enjoy the time and remember the moments.
My Dad was taken too early and unexpectedly, I would give anything to have one more conversation with him.
Smile and know that he loves you

thanks brother,and yea i tell him i love him everyday

Damn bro!!! You need anything pm me bro. I'm here for ya and you know that.

i know man and i really appreciate that,you are my brother!!!

 

[hardpr]

i lost my dad last mothers day. everyday you get with with yours tell him about all the good things you love about him. be strong B E.

 

[Bullseye Forever]

i lost my dad last mothers day. everyday you get with with yours tell him about all the good things you love about him. be strong B E.

brother i do,and i make a point to do that so i know i wont regret anything,thank you

 

[BigPal]

Bullseye, sorry to hear this bro. I dealt with a similar situation two years ago and I wouldnt wish it upon anyone.

Its very difficult to see someone u love going thru something so bad. I saw this cripple my father, who was a health nut, at such a fast pace it was almost unreal.

Take advantage of the fact that you guys have time to prepare. I did the same and in a way I was glad it happened this way because at least I knew when my father passed I got a chance to tell him everything I ever wanted to tell him.

Some people never get that chance.

Were here for you bro, let us know how we can help, like youve helped us !

 

[Bullseye Forever]

Bullseye, sorry to hear this bro. I dealt with a similar situation two years ago and I wouldnt wish it upon anyone.

Its very difficult to see someone u love going thru something so bad. I saw this cripple my father, who was a health nut, at such a fast pace it was almost unreal.

Take advantage of the fact that you guys have time to prepare. I did the same and in a way I was glad it happened this way because at least I knew when my father passed I got a chance to tell him everything I ever wanted to tell him.

Some people never get that chance.

Were here for you bro, let us know how we can help, like youve helped us !

Big,thanks for your post,and i agree everytime i see him i continue to say and tell him things so i will be at peace when the day comes,its gonna be bad,but at least i will know i will have said everything i wanted to and wont regret anything

Sorry for your loss to my friend,you never know how to feel until it happens to you,and im sure it just devastated you,i cant imagine,but im preparing,cause i know its coming,but im gonna be at peace knowing he knows how i feel about him,thank you brother for being here and your kind words

 

[Bullseye Forever]

just heard from the doctor,the cancer is all over him and he's not expected to make it much longer,so this is it,its just a matter of time now

 

[darkside06]

i feel for you bro. let us know if you need anything.

 

[Jusselin]

here for you!

 

[DaHurt]

Brother if you need anything at all let me know. I've lost loved ones to cancer, it isn't easy on anyone, but you're doing the right thing by making his final time as light-hearted and enjoyable as possible.

Be strong brother.

 

[Spongy]

Brother, I'm sorry to hear about all of this. It's hard to stay positive in such a dark light, but keep your head up. It seems it's always hardest for the people around those that are sick. There comes a time when we accept our own mortality and fate, especially when faced with a certain outcome, but those around us are the ones left picking up the pieces of what we left behind. I watched my fiance go through this with her grandmother who she was very close to. She fought cancer and won twice, only to have it come back out of nowhere and consume her within a matter of days.

I wish I had something profound to say, but I know that no matter what I type or what anyone else says it's not going to heal the pain.

We're all here for you Bro, it's alright to lean on friends. PM if you need anything.

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. 2 Cor 4:16-18

 

[brother bundy]

cancer took my mom uncle and aunt its a bastard.Spend all your time with him sorry bro

 

[Mrs P]

just heard from the doctor,the cancer is all over him and he's not expected to make it much longer,so this is it,its just a matter of time now

I'm truly sorry your going through this Bullseye, there are no words to describe how difficult it is to go through something like this.
Know that u can express your feelings & that we're here to support u.

I hope u find the strenght needed to help u get throught this.
May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.. I'll be in my thoughts.
Stay as strong as u can... and sherish these moments with him (I know u are doing that).

 

[Mr P]

Brother I'm sorry to hear this, this must be shoking for you and your family, you have our support,

 

[jimbo79]

Bullseye, I lost my mom when I was 17, she had hypertension.. The asswipe family doc never caught it in time.

Finally some specialist flew in to our town from a bigger city and said..she was in critical condition and too fly her to them asap..

I gave her a kiss and said " I love you" she said it back...that was the last time I heard her speak.

We got to the big city and went to icu to visit her..and she had breathing tubes in and what not..big machines pumping her lungs.

I was fkn scared...was a shock. A few weeks earlier we thought it was a minor blood pressure issue. Then BAM.

So we had a visit for a few days..alll she could do was muster enough strength to scribble a few words down here and there.

I was scared..

We left for home because I had school and we planned to come back in a few days.

Well a few days later we got the call, they said she's not doing well and we needed to come asap.

We got all packed and had were braced for a 400 km plus drive...in a blizzard, almost a complete whiteout.

Just minutes from a leaving.. BANG
Our car felt like we nailed something huge. got out and everything looked fine.

Couple hours down the road, one of our rear tires goes flat..so i put the donut tire on. When we got to the next town we called an emergency tire guy..he changed our tire. My big sis called the hospital..

Bad news...we lost her. I will never forget the feeling...we couldn't be there. We turned around and had the worst drive home ever.


Anyways...Bullseye my prayer go out to you and your family! stay strong! Eventually he will pass the torch to you my friend and you have to be a rock for your family. Your strong, you have us, and our prayers.

 

[Bullseye Forever]

i feel for you bro. let us know if you need anything.

ok brother i will thank oyu

here for you!

thanks

Brother if you need anything at all let me know. I've lost loved ones to cancer, it isn't easy on anyone, but you're doing the right thing by making his final time as light-hearted and enjoyable as possible.

Be strong brother.

thanks D i appreciate it so much

Brother, I'm sorry to hear about all of this. It's hard to stay positive in such a dark light, but keep your head up. It seems it's always hardest for the people around those that are sick. There comes a time when we accept our own mortality and fate, especially when faced with a certain outcome, but those around us are the ones left picking up the pieces of what we left behind. I watched my fiance go through this with her grandmother who she was very close to. She fought cancer and won twice, only to have it come back out of nowhere and consume her within a matter of days.

I wish I had something profound to say, but I know that no matter what I type or what anyone else says it's not going to heal the pain.

We're all here for you Bro, it's alright to lean on friends. PM if you need anything.

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. 2 Cor 4:16-18

thank you for that verse my friend,it makes you think,and you post has touched me somuch,thank you

cancer took my mom uncle and aunt its a bastard.Spend all your time with him sorry bro

i am spending every minute i can with him

I'm truly sorry your going through this Bullseye, there are no words to describe how difficult it is to go through something like this.
Know that u can express your feelings & that we're here to support u.

I hope u find the strenght needed to help u get throught this.
May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.. I'll be in my thoughts.
Stay as strong as u can... and sherish these moments with him (I know u are doing that).

thank you Mrs P your words just help me deal with this somuch better,i dearly thank you for that

Brother I'm sorry to hear this, this must be shoking for you and your family, you have our support,

yea brother its a shock,3 weeks ago,all was ok and now he is knocking at deaths door,i just dont understand it

 

[Zero V]

well he had his first chemo last friday a week ago,went home eat a good meal,and he hasnt eat a whole meal since,we took him to the ER last tuesday,dehydrated,weak,sick as hell,he was put in ICU and stayed there until friday,and was put back there yesterday,the doctor said he is gonna havet to have a surgical procedure on his pancreas to somehow increase his appetite,and the doctor didnt give us much hope and didnt know if he could take any more chemo,he said maybe 2-3 weeks up to 5 months depending on how my dad does,its not good at all,and me and my 2 sisters and stepmom are having a hard time,we are all preparing for the worse

We know its coming,but still we all talk positive to him and try and make him comfortble,ijust dont know how im gonna handle it when it happens,when the time comes,i want him at home not at the hospital,because thats what he would want

all ive been doiing is talking to him about all the fun we've had all these years and being positive,thats all i can do i guess,God im just so scared and my heart is breaking and crumbling,i just ask for all my friends to pray and to just talk to me,i need that,i need my friends,its the only way i can deal with this and i thank you all for your friendship

My friend, these times are the hardest times in any ones life.

Twice I have watched my dad dieing before me as they rushed him into the ER and we stood before doctors with grim faces...But he is still here...

There are no magic words that can heal the pains, remove the fear, or cure the sorrow. For that I am sorry.

But I can say that one thing you should remember is that we are not given ends in life. We are given beginnings instead. Should the time come, it is the beginning of something new for your father, something I pray you won't get a chance to see yourself for many years to come. But that you take heart in knowing that there is no end to your discussions, laugther, smiles. If it comes to it, only a lengthy hiatus at the end of which there will be great stories and catching up to do.

And never "accept" that the battle is over until the the very end. I know many survivors who fought to the point where doctors have said they lost, then they simply said "No, your wrong" and fought back from the edge.

Pray, as I will pray for you. Hope, as I will hope for you. And take heart in knowing you have family and friends both physical, and here over the internet.Were all here packed into this side for one reason. So that if one of us falls to the side, he is bound to bump into another and we can hold him up.

The PM box is open if you ever just want to vent, talk, yell even. You can even have my cell man.

No one needs to walk alone, support and friendship are amble and should be offered to one another as readily as water in the ocean.

 

[bigmike33]

My brother u know im here for ya anytime. My thoughts and prayers go out to u and ur family. Ur faith in God is like know other stay strong.