Wife lost sex drive, almost completely
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evangeline
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As a woman I just can't say nothing here.. (and I'm still subscribed to this thread..lol) While I agree that this is the norm, I don't agree that it is the law across the board.. I think it's a matter of not being properly matched. I think it's very important to be sexually matched as well as attracted to one another.. I can say that absolutely won't happen to me when I settle down... noooo way.... sex has to be incredible and ongoing...and altho I LOVE sex, I'd rather wait and find my match.
pineapple
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The thing is, I can get it if I want it anytime I want it. It's just that, mentally, she doesnt feel HORNY. She doesnt feel the need to have or want sex with me or any other guy. ( at least I know she wont cheat lol)MP5 said:
That goes with wanting me physically. That's what I hate the most. It's not the sex part as much as I'm not feeling wanted.
She loves me and stuff, wants to cuddle and all but that's it. I hope her sex drive whatever the hell is keeping it low will come back.
evangeline
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pineapple said:
Does she workout?.... cardio/weights? has she, would she have her hormone levels checked?? does she take any aas? I know most men have the same complaint.. but the difference is.. many men here already start out with a healthy sex drive, but then on top of that, they are doing aas, eating and training vigorously (stimulating their own growth hormone if they aren't taking hgh too).. I'm not sure if these are factors or not, but they definitely widen the differences in sex drive between two partners.
I think that this is definitely why I prefer to find a partner who is likeminded in areas of training, diet, supplementation (including aas, hgh), etc. Most men my age wouldn't be able to handle me or keep up--I end up feeling like you do (unwanted or frustrated).. and I consider this when chosing a partner.. because sex is very important to most of us.
Years ago, after endometriosis & surgery when I was married.. I had a drop in sex drive.. (I wasn't training at the time.. my drop was due to sickness and pain). But my doctor prescribed andriol 40mg caps.. and they worked for me.. of course part of the drop in sex drive was not only that.. I realize that my sex life with my former husband was very very vanilla.. and that's not my flavor...
Women are complex, unfortunately.. I don't know if any of this is helpful or not.. but wish u the best with your lady..
pineapple
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She does workout, cardio. Already had her blood work checked. Estrogen, test, thyroid, the basics. She's not taking any AAS. Her test levels have doubled since she started taking an Aromatase inhibitor (AI) (read women's forum for the info on that). Still no difference in sex drive. I think there are underlying hormones that we are missing or are not looking at that are responsible for the "mental sexual drive" that the women sometimes are lacking. As in this case.evangeline said:
So you don't like vanilla? You like it rough? Trying new things? My wife is very vanilla. I always try and get her to do new things. You should come over for a threesome, spice things up. Maybe that'll get her going lol
mick-g
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Trust me..you been w/the same woman for like 15yr or more its gonna change, lol! Even after 5-7yrs. Not saying it wouldnt be good, but not the same. You "guys" have to realize your gf or newly wedded wife, is not going to be the same sexually later in life, as you may not be either. Sex is great, but you have to work well together and be in love not lust, because of the character she has and the person they are, because someday the sex at some point will cease and if you dont have the other stuff, you will have nothing.
pineapple
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Many good points, but they do say that early 30's is the good time for the women. However that may be true it's a long time for me to wait. Right now I'm training/introducing her to different things to do sexually. So far it's working. I just tell her what to do and she does it - just not everything.mick-g said:
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montess
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think it has something to do with her finding out about the gay porn?
pineapple
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Either you're just being silly or you cant read. Reread the first post, it CLEARLY says she's been losing it for the last 3 years. Porn has just recently happened, and it was straight. If you're looking to get into gay porn, Montess, I suggest you ask someone else.montess said:
I have got exactly the same problem as pineapple. I even been to therapsit with my girl. I just cant accept that she has lost her sex drive. She is still very young (23) and looks perfect. The worst thing is that she looks realy great end everybody envys me, but she doesnt get horny at all. Sex is last thing on her mind. But belive me it wasnt so all the time. Four years ago I couldnt keep up with her.
I read someone has used Andriol....but am very sceptical about this because I dont knoe if it is appropriate for a girl to use testosterone?
I read someone has used Andriol....but am very sceptical about this because I dont knoe if it is appropriate for a girl to use testosterone?
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Skarhead1
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missy.... if youre close to philly ill fuck your brains out
Johny J
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missy said:
posting pics here usually ups your man's sex drive. When he sees u are putting up nudes or letting dudes bang you out, he will get very jealous and try and keep his cock in u at all times.
that or he will punch yuou in the face. No pain no gain i suppose.
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montess
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Missy, we need to see what your working with her
evangeline
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jernej said:
Hi, yeah, my doc put me on andriol after my hyst (in my 20's---about 20 years ago <ok, i'm dating myself here, but for u'r benefit>).. he put me on it to balance out my hormones after my hysterectomy.. he told me that if i wanted.. i could take one or two a day (40mg caps)... but he said it would make my sex drive go crazy. he further explained that andriol is a good choice for women who've lost their sex drive, as it isn't easily absorbed in the body and thus women get a very small dose of test.. not enough to virilize.. so....i've been on it off and on over the years.
Well, he was right... Personally, I don't need the help with the sex drive (my drive went crazy in my late 30's), but I might. If I ever meet a guy who's got a crazier drive than me... I'll just renew my RX.... heheheh
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