Anyone care to help out a lost 27 year old with fucked up life?

[2pacshaq]

Feel Ive missed out on my youth. Basicly played computer games til the age of 18, then I got into a relationship which lasted til 23, got cheated on. After just some months I got together with another girl, pretty good times but I lost contact with all my friends, spent almost all my time with the girl for several years. Didnt go out party, got totally pussified by her and now recently I got dumped, surprise surprise.

27 years old, only been with 2 girls, no friends left and almost completely alone aside from some family members. Recently lost my work aswell due to the companys economy going to shit, so Im back living with my mom and have done so for a month now.

Im at rock bottom, I have no friends to call, no old "flings", no job, very little money and I feel totally lost.



The only thing Ive got going for me I have pretty good facial aestetics and Ive been working my ass off in the gym for 9 years, so Im strong and I have a decent body/mass. But I feel the gains these days are almost none so I feel Im starting to lose the motivation for the gym aswell due to the very fact I almost dont get any gains out of it no more. The first 4 years were awesome, but these days It feels like I work out and workout but with very little returns in form of mass.

So basicly I need a total restart of my life, and I feel like Ive missed out so much. Ive been thinking of trying out a simple cycle for a while now, and maybe this would be a good point to try it out, like a thing to mentally "kick start" a new period of my life.

I havent done that much research, and whats holding me back from trying out test is Im afraid of fucking up my natural levels for life aswell as getting sterile. You knowledgeable people .. how big are the risks of that, given you do a cycle of .. I dont know, 250-500 test for 12 weeks?


Anyway, Im greatful for all help I can get at this moment.

Kim

 

[omgmike1]

Feel Ive missed out on my youth. Basicly played computer games til the age of 18, then I got into a relationship which lasted til 23, got cheated on. After just some months I got together with another girl, pretty good times but I lost contact with all my friends, spent almost all my time with the girl for several years. Didnt go out party, got totally pussified by her and now recently I got dumped, surprise surprise.

27 years old, only been with 2 girls, no friends left and almost completely alone aside from some family members. Recently lost my work aswell due to the companys economy going to shit, so Im back living with my mom and have done so for a month now.

Im at rock bottom, I have no friends to call, no old "flings", no job, very little money and I feel totally lost.



The only thing Ive got going for me I have pretty good facial aestetics and Ive been working my ass off in the gym for 9 years, so Im strong and I have a decent body/mass. But I feel the gains these days are almost none so I feel Im starting to lose the motivation for the gym aswell due to the very fact I almost dont get any gains out of it no more. The first 4 years were awesome, but these days It feels like I work out and workout but with very little returns in form of mass.

So basicly I need a total restart of my life, and I feel like Ive missed out so much. Ive been thinking of trying out a simple cycle for a while now, and maybe this would be a good point to try it out, like a thing to mentally "kick start" a new period of my life.

I havent done that much research, and whats holding me back from trying out test is Im afraid of fucking up my natural levels for life aswell as getting sterile. You knowledgeable people .. how big are the risks of that, given you do a cycle of .. I dont know, 250-500 test for 12 weeks?


Anyway, Im greatful for all help I can get at this moment.

Kim

So u think solving all ur problems current and from the past are going to be fixed by taking anabolic steroids? Dude, the guys on this board don't mess around like half the people in the gym or the guys "trying" to put on mass from sites like BB's main forums.

We train a LOT, we DIET a LOT, we put out health on the line for the lifestyle that we love doing and living every single day. If ur primary concern is going on trt for life, then u need to not even look into gear. That's some minor thing that all of us are willing to accept easily.

I'm not that old, but I can tell u from going through a lot of BS in my life from the past, that things can always change for the better. U just have to be willing to lay out the work and put in the effort to find a solution. Just because u been with 2 girls, does not make u a failure? U should be glad that ur first one lasted so long. It's hard to find a decent girl IMO that isn't stuck up and only there for the short term.

PS: U don't need flings or to party nonstop like all these "college" guys do. I've never been interested in this stuff, nor do I feel like I'm missing out on it. I much rather enjoy the lifestyle of progressing and having fun with friends while working out in the gym and meeting people there, rather than get wasted and drunk, 1 night stand once in a while and accomplish nothing but a few memories as u get older. Not saying it's not fun, once in a while..But it just doesn't lead to nothing in the long run and to think ur life is wasted cause u didn't do this stuff is also some BS.

 

[Mountain-Man]

This is a life style freind if u get into the sport it can save ur life it saved mine I was in a similar situation as u when I was 22 but I started the gym natty and learns diet and felt better about life Ed. The gym and this sport is one of the best highs u can get if ur ready and can lift urself up out of depression then I say yes hit the cycle devote ur spare time to learning nutrition workouts and gear then jump on the train it's a wild and wonderful ride and if u need advice I'll be happy to help brother

 

[2pacshaq]

This is a life style freind if u get into the sport it can save ur life it saved mine I was in a similar situation as u when I was 22 but I started the gym natty and learns diet and felt better about life Ed. The gym and this sport is one of the best highs u can get if ur ready and can lift urself up out of depression then I say yes hit the cycle devote ur spare time to learning nutrition workouts and gear then jump on the train it's a wild and wonderful ride and if u need advice I'll be happy to help brother

Thanks man. Well diet-wise Im pretty knowledgeable already, Ive been doing 2-3g of kg bodyweight for almost all these years working out. My strenght is also good and body is decent.

I would love to try out a cycle but my main concern is that Im still reasonable young and I will probably wanna father some children in my 30s, and Im afraid a cycle or two might make me sterile or destroy my natural testosterone levels. I would say thats the only thing holding me back at this point.

 

[Milton]

What a better time to turn a new leaf. First off make sure to get as big as you can get naturally, I am sure that there are clicks of guys at the local gym with the same interest as you have that you can make friends with and then you will have buddies to work out with and motivate you. You say your diet is fine but is it really? What does it entail?
Dont worry about the rest, once you get this all under control and in habbit the right girl will show up and blow your socks off! figuretively speaking of course... LOL
and make damn sure to read all the stickies in our forums and here as well...
http://www.steroidology.com/forum/a...ycling-beginners-guide-safe-androgen-use.html

 

[Teutonic]

When my training on track my life is too. U need
A job---no women will take us serious w/o one and you ll meet people and it ll broaden ur oppurtunities...Wal Mart s better than sitting around ur parents house. ( unless money s not an issue...and it must NOT be. AAS and all the rest that goes with it is not free.

U need to move about..get out go anywhere.

AAS at 27 ? Living w parents no health insurance I assume.?

Not until u sort the above...if ur well off or rich....????

 

[Ghost124]

Feel Ive missed out on my youth. Basicly played computer games til the age of 18, then I got into a relationship which lasted til 23, got cheated on. After just some months I got together with another girl, pretty good times but I lost contact with all my friends, spent almost all my time with the girl for several years. Didnt go out party, got totally pussified by her and now recently I got dumped, surprise surprise.

27 years old, only been with 2 girls, no friends left and almost completely alone aside from some family members. Recently lost my work aswell due to the companys economy going to shit, so Im back living with my mom and have done so for a month now.

Ahh you're one of those. I know this does not help your cause since you've already done this but NEVER dump all your friends for a female. I don't give a fuck if she looks like a model and fucks like a pornstar and acts like a perfect wife...you NEVER abandon your friends for a girl. And right about now you are finding out the hard way of why you should never abandon your friends. I know you already made this mistake but let me slap you wish some knowledge so you don't ever do this again because you seem like "one of those guys". The type that will listen to reason when you are hurting, but it's one ear and out the other and back to 100% pussy whipped mode when you are with a girl:

DO NOT INVEST 100% of your happiness into a girl. Relationships in 2015 just do not work out. Back when I was in my senior year of college in 2013, our psychology professor gave one of the best lectures I ever heard that pretty much explained that social media=home wrecker. And he said it would only get worse and worse as we move into the future. Well guess what? We are in 2015 and I believe that the official divorce rate in USA is at 54%.

Everybody has a snapchat, twitter and Instagram. If your girl is at least a 6 or better looking, than she will from time to time get hit up by guys on those social media sites. And all it takes is one dude she thinks is really good looking in his profile pic, and a fight between you two in order for her to give out her number and start texting the dude and plant the cheating seed. And then you have the many unsatisfied girls that are constantly looking for a fling. You have no clue how many naked pics of girlfriends and wifes me and my friend have from all those girls that send them to us wanting to get fucked while their boyfriend/husband is at work.

I can keep ranting on this subject but I do not want it to turn into a 10 page essay. My point to telling you all that is: make friends and find a balance between them and your future girlfriend. Do not be a little bitch and get pussy whipped.

As far as your situation: Roids are not going to help you. What you need to do is socialize. Go take a boxing or music or dancing class and meet people. You spend enough time at places like that and be very sociable, eventually they will ask you things like "hey want to grab some drinks with us tomorrow night"?. Find activities to do such as the examples I gave that are sociable. Good luck.

 

[SoHo]

i've had a rough life myself too. moving from school to school, sometimes back and forth to my native country and the US, being kicked out of some schools. family issues, personal issues, depression, self mutilation.. its not been easy.

its safe to say i've never really had any friends, except for 1 or 2 best friend.. but never a group. its funny cause i always knew everyone, everyone knew me. in school we used to hang out, but after school they would seem to forget about me. junior year of high school everything changed. i had a friend group, we were the "popular kids". hung out with the hottest girls, went to the best parties. then senior year we all started doing drugs.. lots of them.. oxycontin, heroin, mdma, everything. i developed an opiate addiction.

then when they all went off to college, i returned home to Israel and joined the armed forces. best 3 years of my life wouldn't trade it for the world. i was in great shape, drug free, happy, and best of all i was a hero for my country having served in 2 wars and many operations. some of my friends from the army are dead. i wanted to continue 1 more year to become an officer but i needed multiple surgeries on my hand after an an injury.

when i got out i was really depressed cause i wanted to continue, and also i suffered form PTSD really bad... so i fell into the old trap of me doing drugs. i was doing heroin for months and months, and then i got clean. i got professional help. once a week meetings and some klonopin to take as needed cause i get very anxious sometimes.

but anyway this isnt about me, im just trying to relate. pick yourself up bro. find motivation to get a job.. that is the FIRST step. after that everything will fall into place just like it did for me.

if you have a job you have money, structure, and a purpose. that will make you feel good about yourself. when you feel good about yourself your inner confidence will naturally rise and it will be way easier for you to get girls with your life in order. go to the gym to make yourself feel and look better. buy a new wardrobe, find a hobby.

i promise you things will be ok. i know this because i've been at rock bottom very many times in my life and i know exactly what you are feeling right now. dont worry, just take it step by step, but you need to be commited to getting yourself on track. it wouldn't be a bad idea to see a therapist once a week just to talk about your problems. it feels great having someone to talk to you and who listens.

good luck man i wish you only the best

 

[luckypaul]

When my life is in the shitter, I spend twice as long in the gym. It just gives me more drive. I'm on the outs with a woman I know, and I'm in the gym 2hours a day minimum. Come march I will be mowing the grass without a shirt wearing shorts as she diddles herself peeking through the curtins, Shes my neighbor. I'm going to make her crawl back on her knees. I'll keep you posted

Bestadvice I can give you if you lose your girl is to get another one asap. Good luck bro.

 

[Dreaded Pirate Roberts]

ok So you've done a good thing coming here. Now instead on jumping on a cycle spend the money on a diet program and see what you can do with that. The changes come fast with the right tweaks. Fixing the other things in your life won't happen from doing Steroids. You need to find an activity to get involved in where pretty Girls are required to be there and interact with you. Church or School is a great place to build your self-esteem. You are not going to change your life in a day so relax. Get involved in stuff.

 

[luckypaul]

ok So you've done a good thing come here. Now instead on jumping on a cycle spend the money on a diet program and see what you can do with that. The changes come fast with the right tweaks. Fixing the other things in your life won't happen from doing Steroids. You need to find an activity to get involved in where pretty Girls are required to be there and interact with you. Church or School is a great place to build your self-esteem. You not going to change your life in a day so relax. Get involved in stuff.

Top shelf right

 

[Dreaded Pirate Roberts]

Make friends here. Its a great place to have friends. Welcome.....happyness comes easiest when you are giving service to others.

 

[omgmike1]

When my life is in the shitter, I spend twice as long in the gym. It just gives me more drive. I'm on the outs with a woman I know, and I'm in the gym 2hours a day minimum. Come march I will be mowing the grass without a shirt wearing shorts as she diddles herself peeking through the curtins, Shes my neighbor. I'm going to make her crawl back on her knees. I'll keep you posted

Bestadvice I can give you if you lose your girl is to get another one asap. Good luck bro.

#2.5 hours work out crew lol

I love training, people always ask me why I'm in the gym so much. 2.5 hours min every day. Thats how it's done. The only sad part is when u come home and have to eat 5000+ calories to grow any bit at all. Then life starts go down the slumps


PS: every 1 on here is friendly and good guys at heart. There is one robot u may want to avoid on days his bolts aren't screwed on perfectly though. Not saying no names

 

[Teutonic]

U don t have to.

 

[Matt0071]

Chick's are fucked bro, they can turn the biggest men into sob stories, get your life together first, keep pumpin iron and you will find somebody right for u, your still young and got your whole.life ahead of u, don't let a girl detroy u, and trust me I went through the same shit last year, drop a fuck ton of weight as I was bulk in in the process and fucked things up went from 230lbs down to 210lbs in a matter of a month from not eating and stressing the fuck out
Jus play your cards out right and everything will be fine in the end bro
Goodluck to ya

 

[Roush]

Make friends here. Its a great place to have friends. Welcome.....happyness comes easiest when you are giving service to others.

That's what SHE said

 

[Juice4Brains]

I was gonna say a lot of things since I'm in a somewhat similar situation right now as you OP, but its probably pointless to compare notes unless you wanna PM me then I'd be glad to go into detail. Anyhow onto the juice, if you are not willing to possibly end up shooting test for the rest of your life don't bother. When you come off cycle you will feel much worse than you do now until you recover. But then chances are you will already be planning for next cycle and begin this never ending game like the rest of us. I'm 29 and decided just to stay on 3 years ago. Like someone here said earlier, roids are definitely not to answer to your problems, what you need is to get out there and meet new people and socialize as much as possible. But first obviously look for a job....step by step bro and roids are not among the steps you need right now.

 

[Charles Bronson]

stay off the juice..

you don't need hormones to fix the problems you have, you need perspective and motivation.


in ancient times young men were sent out on quest.. if it was a shamanic spiritual vision, a journey into enemy territory to obtain some strange mineral or herb only found within their borders, or a long voyage with dangers and temptations lining the path that leads back home - every quest that young men were sent on had one thing in common: self discovery

so i send you on a quest..

http://www.amazon.com/The-Paleo-Manifesto-Ancient-Lifelong/dp/0307889173/ref=pd_sim_b_27/&tag=highexis-20

read this fucking book, then get back to me.

I'm dead serious.. read this book, then come back and tell me/ everybody following this thread what you learned.

uncle chucky is going to hold you to this young man.

i swear this to you, if you do not make an effort here.. you'll suffer while feeling confused and betrayed by fate and circumstance.. then you will find that rather than things improving, you'll have simply settled into a new plateau new comfort zone.. not what we want for ourselves

but without you making any effort to pick up this book and read this sob - then perhaps it wasn't circumstance that lead you away from what truly mattered most in life - it was a weak constitution; with low willpower and a feint character so lacking, no matter what your circumstances might have been , you would have eventually been disconnected from those who really care about you and found yourself isolated

read this book, gain perspective on who/what/where you are right now young man.. you will thank me

 

[KenMasters]

Like what Ghost said, you NEVER....EVER leave a good friend because of any woman or anyone. Friendships are hard to come by, and I don't mean the fake friends on FB or other social media, I mean REAL LIVE friends who you share some common beliefs, thoughts, etc. Any woman who asks you to abandon your friends for her is not one you want to keep no matter how hot she is.

Having been where you are now, my life in ruins, no love, no family/friends (because I live away from them), no job and even though I've been going to gym for years and years and had never really got any decent results but kept going anyway, one day I thought about roids and believe me when I tell you, if I had gone through with the roids and had not changed my mind that would have been the worst mistake of my life. Years later, after I got all my shit together, after I got a job, after I got into the game again and started living my life FOR ME and not for others that was when I was happy and had new friends, new people who wanted to be around me, etc. Because when you feel good about yourself it shows and you attract people with that no matter if you are bodybuilder or a fatty. So, after I got back on my feet and had money THEN once again I got mad with the gym for not getting any results and wasting my time so after a talk with many diet experts, etc and after I asked for help from a trainer was I able to learn that even though I thought I was eating correctly, I wasn't and after I started proper diet I started seeing again some gym results, so DO NOT start roids just because you think that they are something magical that will change your life completely. I am no saying you should not use them, but I'm saying DO NOT USE THEM right now just because you want to change your life. First, change your life, get a job, move OUT of mommys house, find hobbies, find friends (real friends), start a proper diet (many people here can help you with that) and when you are at a place where you feel good and still want to do roids....THEN come again and ask for advice.

 

[2pacshaq]

Wow, thanks for all great response. I cannot quote you all and respond but maybe you are right I should fix my life - or atleast get it to a basic level - before I try out a cycle.

At this very moment I am:
Sitting in my old boys room in my moms house.
A very very small town of about 5000 people in the middle of no where, where everbody knows everybody.
Not much girls here, almost non existant night life.
Basicly no money in my account or in my pocket.
No friends left, lost contact and/or they have moved to bigger cities or other countries.
Havent received a text message from someone else than family or ex-girlfriend in 9 months.
Feel completely alone and shit.


How would you sort this out in order of importance? I have no university degree, but Im actually thinking of going to uni for 3 years to get one. University where Im from isnt really 100% the same as in US - here many people re-educate themselves and change careers a bit into their 20s, so its very common for people to be around 30 in university here.

So maybe that would be good for me? Cause then Ill be 30-31 when I get my degree, and my job opportunities will be 5000% better.


If I choose that, It starts in august 2016, so I still got a good 8-9 months where I dont know what to do.


I should also add my father died of cancer when I was 11, so I grew up with only my mother and sister, probably my passive behaviour is partly due to lack of father-role/masculinity.