Girlfriend of 4 years cheated again...

ImAuNatural

ImAuNatural

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If anyone on here knows/ remember my girlfriend cheated on me last year when she went to a party and got drunk/high well she did the same shit this past Thursday night.

I have hurt everyday for a year over what she did, I really almost killed myself Friday morning when i found out this time. So I left her for good, I refuse to go back into that. My ego is bruised badly and I feel alone. The past 4 years of my life is gone down the drain and I have lost all hope in finding love or being married one day.

I am ready though to now become the best version of myself possible, focusing on my diet, school, work, and lifting, as well as trying to make new friends. I just needed to post this for whatever reason.

I hope she gets pregnant and catches an incurable STD. I had nightmares all night about it and woke up crying/screaming.

My cortisol is killing my gains also, im down 10lbs in one week due to not eating, training hard, or drinking enough h2o.
 
Well, that sounds pretty shitty. But you need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with life.....Forget that slut. Might sound like an impossible task but thats the only thing that needs to be done. Theres a million girls out n about man. You can have your pick of the litter if you want.

You need to stay positive, and keep that girl outta your life because thats not doing you any good having that around.
 
I know, I definitely wont get back with her which sucks because I do love her and I wanted to marry this girl. But I am not going to let myself go back to her no matter how much I want to or how hard it gets.

I have had such a shitty life to be honest but I always keep my head up, I know in time I will be okay but this shit sucks right now.
 
ImAuNatural said:
I know, I definitely wont get back with her which sucks because I do love her and I wanted to marry this girl. But I am not going to let myself go back to her no matter how much I want to or how hard it gets.

I have had such a shitty life to be honest but I always keep my head up, I know in time I will be okay but this shit sucks right now.
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Let me tell you something. And you may not realize this right now but down the road you will......You do not love that girl nor do you want to marry her. She cheated on you. More than once. So what you feel is not love. It is fear of not having someone. Plus you said you hope she gets prego and some incurrable STI lol. Those arent loving words
Sounds to me like you hate her.and rightfully so.

Thats not to sound harsh either, or disrespectful. But, even IF she has done anything good for you, which Im guessing she probably hasent if shes the cheating type, thats right out the window the minute cheating is going on.

You gotta keep your head up and look out for number ones best interest. Having people like that around is of no ones best interest.
 
ImAuNatural said:
I know, I definitely wont get back with her which sucks because I do love her and I wanted to marry this girl. But I am not going to let myself go back to her no matter how much I want to or how hard it gets.

I have had such a shitty life to be honest but I always keep my head up, I know in time I will be okay but this shit sucks right now.
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how old of a guy are you? Its all relative, shit like this can happen and push you in a different direction.. Cheating is something i cant get over because Ill never stop thinking about it screwing the rest of the relationship up. Im 39 and have had some hard times before when it comes to girlfriends and been where you were friday morning in terms of "thinking" I wanted to off myself. Guess what I am saying is she sucks and doesnt care if she hurts you and if your 25 then run the fuk away while your young and can find another girl who cares about you.
 
Schredder said:
Let me tell you something. And you may not realize this right now but down the road you will......You do not love that girl nor do you want to marry her. She cheated on you. More than once. So what you feel is not love. It is fear of not having someone. Plus you said you hope she gets prego and some incurrable STI lol. Those arent loving words
Sounds to me like you hate her.and rightfully so.

Thats not to sound harsh either, or disrespectful. But, even IF she has done anything good for you, which Im guessing she probably hasent if shes the cheating type, thats right out the window the minute cheating is going on.

You gotta keep your head up and look out for number ones best interest. Having people like that around is of no ones best interest.
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Thanks man, I appreciate the kind words and wisdom, Its good to hear and you are probably right. I hate her because I loved her and she fucked me over multiple times. But I know it will only make me stronger and wiser in due time. It just sucks for the time being.
 
Yes it is, one day you will look back at this and laugh. You'll meet someone else and look back and say. ..man that b really wasn't shit, especially if she'd do that. You'll be way better off not having married a girl like that. If she cheats once more than likely she'll cheat again
 
these guys are right. right now it will seem impossible, but give it time ans trust me there ARE other women out there tat will treat you better!
i got out of a 7yr relationship, lived with her for all the time too... not related to cheting, but it wasnt working for years deep down at the core. my point? as much as i thought LOVE was everything.. it is NOT! sure trust and love are the most important parts, but they are not the ONLY parts. and the girl you where with WAS missing parts so you would never be truly happy. in time you may be happy it happend now and not 4 years from now.
you have time to build relations now and keep eye open to whats flowing.
its worst right after, the alone feeling..... seems silly to think you will be happy again, but you can, just give it some time and processing . stay strong!
 
Always a silver lining brother. Be thankful that you got this over with BEFORE you married her and had kids. Things are far more complex at that point; be satisfied in knowing that she pissed away one of the best things to happen to her - a forgiving man.

She fucked up, and the price she pays will last her until the day she dies.

You want to feel better? Start fucking women she knows. They don't have to be her friends, but if she knows them, word will travel. The last laugh will be yours.

Now suck it up, and USE that pain in the gym. You just got a blessing in disguise; nothing is better for pushing you in the gym than straight up rage. I know this all too well from experience. ;)

My .02c :)
 
halfwit said:
Always a silver lining brother. Be thankful that you got this over with BEFORE you married her and had kids. Things are far more complex at that point; be satisfied in knowing that she pissed away one of the best things to happen to her - a forgiving man.

She fucked up, and the price she pays will last her until the day she dies.

You want to feel better? Start fucking women she knows. They don't have to be her friends, but if she knows them, word will travel. The last laugh will be yours.

Now suck it up, and USE that pain in the gym. You just got a blessing in disguise; nothing is better for pushing you in the gym than straight up rage. I know this all too well from experience. ;)

My .02c :)
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Fantastic advice!!

And in bold is the MOST fantastic advice :)
 
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That F-ing sucks man, I know how it feels brother and I feel for you.

Pick up your ego man, straighten your back and stand tall. She was the one who fucked up, you are a greater loss to her than she is to you.
For the record, stay away from drugs and alcohol, they won't make situations like this any better.

-Ice
 
Not even a year ago I was in a real fucked up situation. I'm not elaborating on it but it was about as bad as it could get. I didn't think at the time that I would be able to recover from such a devastating situation. Work wasn't going well and everything. Well, I got my own shitty lil place. I busted my ass at work and ended up getting multiple jobs lined up. I'm a seasonal construction worker so that's good shit. I ended up meeting someone who on paper never thought I would be interested at all. We're very happy together and love spending time together.

Anyways, shit does tend to happen. Sometimes a lot. Dealing with it is how you become better or worse. It's easy to say fuck everything and give up. We all been there. It's an uphill battle getting ahead and in a better place. I'm still paying bills for things I don't have but it was a lesson learned. Don't ever think you know somebody. Be positive and focus on you and what you need for yourself. Gotta eat, gotta shit and you gotta sleep. Everything else is optional. Choose your options with what you learned so you don't get in the same shit again hopefully. Shoulda left her the first time to be honest. I wish I knew about mine but it was just way too late when I found out.

Trust me, better things are ahead. Best to not dwell on the past and move on. I know...
 
halfwit said:
Always a silver lining brother. Be thankful that you got this over with BEFORE you married her and had kids. Things are far more complex at that point; be satisfied in knowing that she pissed away one of the best things to happen to her - a forgiving man.

She fucked up, and the price she pays will last her until the day she dies.

You want to feel better? Start fucking women she knows. They don't have to be her friends, but if she knows them, word will travel. The last laugh will be yours.

Now suck it up, and USE that pain in the gym. You just got a blessing in disguise; nothing is better for pushing you in the gym than straight up rage. I know this all too well from experience. ;)

My .02c :)
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Never seen this side of u before :squint:
 
At least you didnt find out your girl started being an escort while you were dating her, I couldnt figure out how she afforded the shiny new car working at the mall. Well I did some detective work and I found out!
 
anzel said:
At least you didnt find out your girl started being an escort while you were dating her, I couldnt figure out how she afforded the shiny new car working at the mall. Well I did some detective work and I found out!
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Holy shit Anzel, you definitely win the fucked up girl award. Cheating at a party? OK, fucked up, but not likely to be a regular thing. Taking dick for cash?

Oiiiiiiiiiiiii!
 
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