3) stop spanking the monkey, and watching porn. I'm a porn addict. If I watch porn too often I notice that for obvious reasons I'm not in the mood as often and I don't get off as well when I have sex. It makes me want to do things like have her eat the cum out of her ass while I teabag her, while watching a midget get fucked by a donkey, which just doesn't work in real life, sober at least. So wean yourself off of the porn.