I think my bf is taking steroids :(

[Mrs P]

I felt the need to comment on this cause I'm female. I have to say I agree with most of the guys comments. Are you upset just at the thought of him using steriods? Or just the thought that he has kept something from you? Cause you said you dont see a change in him, and you obviously like him or you wouldnt be dating him. So really what is the issue? Not trying to be mean or rude, just think you may want to think more about why this upsets you so much. If I got mad at my husband for everything he didnt tell me about I would constantly be annoyed with him - lol. I think honesty is important, yes, but people also need to have some privacy. And I'm sure as your relationship progresses he will share more of his "private life" with you, especially if you show him you are supportive about whatever he is doing I wish you luck in your relationship.

Good point Alogia


Diamondz,

It seems like you are more upset at the fact that he hasn't accepted his use to you, than him really using gear.

You've only been dating for 4 months, I'm sure there's plenty of other things you are both still discovering about each other.

Yes, trust & honesty are important in any relationship, but you have to keep in mind that you guys pretty much just started dating, he probably didn't tell you because he was scared how you would react.

I think you should sit down with him and just talk to him, try to not be judgemental, and stay open minded. Do mention that you rather him be honest with you, than to go around hiding his use. I mean, his use doesn't really change the person he is, he is still the same person you feel in love with.

It's normal that you feel concerned, but as long as he's educated & responsible about his use, I say it's really no ta big deal, sometimes we form our own ideas and draw our own conclutions only to find out later we were wrong. There's a lot misconseptions about steroid use, you really need to inform yourself & comunicate with him.

Honestly your gonna have to realize that you either support him, or oppose & maybe he will stop, or maybe he won't & will hide it from you, is that really how you want your relantionship to be ?
I'm not telling you to accept his use, just giving you a suggestion.

Hope it works out well for th eboth of you

 

[Pseudonymble]

I would be more concerned with the obvious lack of open and hoenst communication than the use of steroids..
Juice is nothing compared to what secrets can do in a relationship

 

[diamondz]

I felt the need to comment on this cause I'm female. I have to say I agree with most of the guys comments. Are you upset just at the thought of him using steriods? Or just the thought that he has kept something from you? Cause you said you dont see a change in him, and you obviously like him or you wouldnt be dating him. So really what is the issue? Not trying to be mean or rude, just think you may want to think more about why this upsets you so much. If I got mad at my husband for everything he didnt tell me about I would constantly be annoyed with him - lol. I think honesty is important, yes, but people also need to have some privacy. And I'm sure as your relationship progresses he will share more of his "private life" with you, especially if you show him you are supportive about whatever he is doing I wish you luck in your relationship.

I guess it upsets me that he hasn't said anything yet. I'm not stupid, I'm 27 and have dated many guys like him. I am certain he even suggested I go in his gym bag for my sunglasses so that I would see needles and vials of water, to see if I would say anything. I didn't though. He doesn't need steroids, good heavens he is in great shape already. As far as honesty, yes I am concerned for honesty, have I been bothering him about it? no. I know he will say something on his own time. I just want him to know it wouldn't matter. Like I said, I'm not dumb. Thanks alogia

 

[diamondz]

Bros, she didn't go thru his stuff with intentions of snooping...she gave an explanation that makes her story legitimate. I go thru my gf's purse all the time for gum and hand lotion/hand sanitizer...sometimes I find 'odd' things too. Girls got all kinds of weird shit in their purses hahah. She clearly isn't saying she will call the cops on him, just concerned for his safety.

Thank you again Vader

 

[Bast]

If he competes at a higher weight, he uses.

If you have said anything about being against it thats probably why he wont tell.

 

[PedestrianX]

I guess it upsets me that he hasn't said anything yet. I'm not stupid, I'm 27 and have dated many guys like him. I am certain he even suggested I go in his gym bag for my sunglasses so that I would see needles and vials of water, to see if I would say anything. I didn't though. He doesn't need steroids, good heavens he is in great shape already. As far as honesty, yes I am concerned for honesty, have I been bothering him about it? no. I know he will say something on his own time. I just want him to know it wouldn't matter. Like I said, I'm not dumb. Thanks alogia

If you don't care then why are you here? Like I, and many others have said. If it's an issue for you stop airing his business online get off the damn computer and go talk to HIM about it. Seems like you are just here for attention. If that's the case show me your fucking titties.

 

[Hcc5881]

I felt the need to comment on this cause I'm female. I have to say I agree with most of the guys comments. Are you upset just at the thought of him using steriods? Or just the thought that he has kept something from you? Cause you said you dont see a change in him, and you obviously like him or you wouldnt be dating him. So really what is the issue? Not trying to be mean or rude, just think you may want to think more about why this upsets you so much. If I got mad at my husband for everything he didnt tell me about I would constantly be annoyed with him - lol. I think honesty is important, yes, but people also need to have some privacy. And I'm sure as your relationship progresses he will share more of his "private life" with you, especially if you show him you are supportive about whatever he is doing I wish you luck in your relationship.

Damn good answer. Why do women try to be so controlling. The issue probably isn't even about roids. More about control issues. Diamond, you got tore up on here. Check yourself.

 

[OMEGA]

quality input.

Idiot.

quality user name

 

[diamondz]

quality user name

hahaah

 

[OMEGA]

 

[denizen]

If he's on juice you should be walking with a noticeable limp 5-10 times per week. If he's on juice and one of your friends also has a noticeable limp you've got problems...its a libido thing ..

 

[THE-DET-OAK]

Lol

 

[alogia67]

if he's on juice you should be walking with a noticeable limp 5-10 times per week. If he's on juice and one of your friends also has a noticeable limp you've got problems...its a libido thing ..

lmao!!!!

 

[tjkita]

Balls

Have his balls been shrinking? That may be an indicator as well. If not then does he get tested before his competitions? I would just ask him and get it out in the open, but be careful not to be accusatory.

 

[OMEGA]

balls shrinking is NOT an indicator

the leydig cells make up about 10%

who the heck is going to measure a 10 reduction?

 

[footballguy12]

Stay out of his shit and quit being so damn nosy..is he fucking someone else ? does he beat you ? is he 18 ? Then dont worry about it hes a grown ass man and probably knows exactly what hes doing.

Yea if i found out my lady was going through my business some shit would be going down.... Especially after four months.

 

[Hcc5881]

Yea if i found out my lady was going through my business some shit would be going down.... Especially after four months.

well said. this bitch has got some problems that she is trying to ignore.

 

[justhav2p]

I am not freaked out lol. Just want honesty, I am sure he is on something and I didn't go through his stuff, I went to look for my sunglasses, he said to check his bedroom. His bedroom is my bed bedroom and mine, his.

I think your sexy. Would you like to show us your body shots?

 

[mr.spoon]

I think your sexy. Would you like to show us your body shots?

x2

 

[lite wt rookie]

Look pretty dam good to me! Hell no wonder your man is juicing he's trying to stay fit to keep your hot ass!