Ladies - How to be approached at the gym?

[epoxy]

It's summer and there is a huge influx of girls at my gym, home from college for the summer, or finished with school and moved back home. I'm used to working out in the middle of the day with the same 20-25 old dudes and ladies, and all of a sudden there are about 10-15 girls in there that catch my eye on any given day.

My question: Is it okay to approach a girl at the gym? I figure, casual conversation, introducing myself or something, how would that come off to a girl? Also what constitutes a girl checking you out in the gym? How many times does a girl need to make eye contact with me for me to realize she is definitely staring? I'm not trying to come off as the creepy dude who tries to pick up girls at the gym. I've actually never talked to/met a girl at the gym before. I usually have my headphones on, pretty dedicated and focused on what I'm doing. But uh, I'm definitely up for the challenge if it isn't a "no no" to try to meet a girl at the gym.

 

[cyto33]

they are free game. if you can walk over and give them a tip on the lift they are doing try that then take it from there

 

[epoxy]

A lot of these girls are probably around my age or a little younger. Early to mid 20's, mostly either doing abs, cardio, or machines. I doubt I'd get many chances to spot a girl on a lift. I'd say it would more so boil down to me having to approach between sets or in the parking lot or IDK something like that.

 

[Wonderwoman82]

they are free game. if you can walk over and give them a tip on the lift they are doing try that then take it from there

lol..ok, you have to be cautious what type of girl you approach that way. For myself, I train hard, and for the most part know what I'm doing so when a guy decides to interrupt my workout to "critique or offer advice", let's just say, I'm not very open and friendly....

IMO, I would just keep an eye open, and if you happen to see a woman that you find attractive make eye contact with you, then smile. If she has a flirtatious smile back, then you're good to go. Don't interrupt her workout, respect the reason that she's there. Perhaps just notice when she's done her workout and ready to leave...just happen to be leaving the same time.....then strike up a conversation

 

[epoxy]

Yeah I think a smile and a smile back would constitute "good to go" as far as approaching someone goes. It's always just kind of awkward when someone has their headphones on or whatever, thats kind of a "don't bother me" sign. Sometimes I take one of my earbuds out or whatever, just incase someone wants to ask me something they can do so without feeling like they are bothering me. When I see girls alone at the gym though, they are pretty quiet, reserved, and not paying much attention to anything beyond what they are doing. I had a couple girls make eye contact with me multiple times today, but I went against my instinct and did not try to approach either of them without deciding whether or not it was a good idea first, lol.

 

[cyto33]

Wonderwoman is right, i was think with the wrong part, lol my girl would do the same thing and beat the hell out out of them.
a females advice is worth gold when it comes to this My advice may get you a black eye. lol

 

[epoxy]

A black eye, doubtful. More like, humiliation when I try to talk to some girl and she uses her headphones being on as an excuse to completely ignore me lol

 

[Blondie_Bombshell]

lol..ok, you have to be cautious what type of girl you approach that way. For myself, I train hard, and for the most part know what I'm doing so when a guy decides to interrupt my workout to "critique or offer advice", let's just say, I'm not very open and friendly....

IMO, I would just keep an eye open, and if you happen to see a woman that you find attractive make eye contact with you, then smile. If she has a flirtatious smile back, then you're good to go. Don't interrupt her workout, respect the reason that she's there. Perhaps just notice when she's done her workout and ready to leave...just happen to be leaving the same time.....then strike up a conversation

Fo sho, I hate being bothered DURING my workout. I am not there to hook up, Im there to work out. I agree with waiting until she is done with her workout, it shows that you have more respect for her.

 

[epoxy]

Yeah I definitely wouldn't bother someone during their work out, or if I thought they had zero interest in talking to me at all. But I mean what constitutes checking a guy out? If a girl makes direct eye contact with me multiple times, while moving from machine to machine or gym to gym, does that mean anything?

 

[Wonderwoman82]

Ya, if you find that a girl is frequently looking at you and making eye contact, then you smile. She responds with a flirtatious smile and not a "stop looking at me creep" kinda smile then you should be ok to initiate a conversation later.
Just remember, don't be overly aggressive you can pick up a lot of signals from body language

Good Luck!!

 

[THE-DET-OAK]

hahaha-sorry i had to laugh-you women always want everything to happen by chance.....................so we have to be creepy and try to time our workout to end so we can walk out side by side....................and then start convo

also the eye contact thing may work, but honestly even if you or the guys were checking someone out, dont most of us look away when the eye contact is made in order to try and not get caught? i know i try not to get caught

 

[JMB1]

I don't interrupt anyone's workout uninvited.
But, in your situation.. I would ask to work in.
Then you will know if she wants to talk or not.
If your lucky enough to finish your workout
talking to her, set up personal training sessions and get her phone #.
Just be nice, it will be cool.

 

[THE-DET-OAK]

I don't interrupt anyone's workout uninvited.
But, in your situation.. I would ask to work in.
Then you will know if she wants to talk or not.
If your lucky enough to finish your workout
talking to her, set up personal training sessions and get her phone #.
Just be nice, it will be cool.

now thats a plan

 

[Massive123]

I just moved back to Miami and there are so many ridiculous girls at my gym it's insane. Moved away for a while and coming back has been a major wake up call. Holy shit everyday is my birthday right now. Hot women are amazing....so funny how even after you've had many gorgeous girls that one girl can make you feel like you're in 6th grade again an have your first crush. God bless hot women!

 

[dialtone]

massive, its going to be kind of hard for you to get girls considering your penis is a steroid vial according to your avi's.

 

[Miss Muscle]

Compliment her. Body, outfit, form, etc. Casually. Or ask something like "Are you training to compete in the so and so bikini/figure/fitness contest coming up."

You can really say anything you want.....just watch your timing like others have mentioned. Some don't like to be interrupted.

 

[Mr P]

massive, its going to be kind of hard for you to get girls considering your penis is a steroid vial according to your avi's.

hahaha lmfao,..

 

[Cam01]

lol..ok, you have to be cautious what type of girl you approach that way. For myself, I train hard, and for the most part know what I'm doing so when a guy decides to interrupt my workout to "critique or offer advice", let's just say, I'm not very open and friendly....

IMO, I would just keep an eye open, and if you happen to see a woman that you find attractive make eye contact with you, then smile. If she has a flirtatious smile back, then you're good to go. Don't interrupt her workout, respect the reason that she's there. Perhaps just notice when she's done her workout and ready to leave...just happen to be leaving the same time.....then strike up a conversation

I would have to disagree wit you! I've seen a lot of girls look at me at the gym.. But I don't think they look because they're interested in me. I mean, I see them looking at guys in general. Sometimes I ask myself "Why in the hell is this girl wearing so much god damn make-up?" It's pretty ridiculous how much make-up some of these huchies wear to a gym to "work-out." In my eyes, like every were else, they just love to kno that guys are looking at them. I see a lot of them run their mouth most of the time they are there. Again, that's only some of them (I would say a high percentage). I don't understand girls sometimes (95% of the time). Can't live with them, can't kill them!

 

[Cam01]

I just moved back to Miami and there are so many ridiculous girls at my gym it's insane. Moved away for a while and coming back has been a major wake up call. Holy shit everyday is my birthday right now. Hot women are amazing....so funny how even after you've had many gorgeous girls that one girl can make you feel like you're in 6th grade again an have your first crush. God bless hot women!

Wuzzup!! Miami here, too!! LOL I'm in Kendall, you?

 

[stevemorse0]

Here is my opinion, approach everyone and anyone you think you would like. I find that men need to approach women more. Hats off to you. With all the role gender confusion I wish more men were men. I think this shows great guts, risk taking behavior, not afraid to try and great self esteem!! I would be flattered and if I liked you no matter what I was doing at the gym except taking a dump I would BE THRILLED!! Just get me when the weights are down not up! Go get um!

Btw, I am a women.