So, Why Let Go ?????

[Mr P]

Well, today I bumped into a buddy of mine from high school, last time I saw him was
22 years ago, we were in our Senior year in high school, he was a very athletic guy, and was in better shape than most guys in high school.


He aproached me & I couldn't believe that it was him, he's 39 years old, he looked fat, I mean he's 5'9 & is probably weighing around 260 lbs. Seemed to be content with his life, has a family, good job, etc..

My question is, at which point in your life do you decide to just let go ???
I'm not saying everyone wants or should be into bodybuilding, but to just give up, and not care how you look anymore, is a totally different story...

I am not getting any younger, but I cannot imagine a point where I would just stop taking care of myself, & let go...

What makes these people not keep trying ??

 

[pickle bunny]

Dont judge the book by its cover.

Death in family,
cancer
job loss
depression

are just a few that break the spirit of many.

I have wondered about my friend sue who sits well over 240 only to find that she was molested and being fat is a subconcious way to insulate her from the pain.

You have to look inside the person.

Yes we are physical people who strive to attain a good physique but everyone of us will loose it with age. It is a bucket with a hole it it.

You live in your house on the inside. The outside is just the shell that keeps the inside contents safe.

 

[3J]

Dont judge the book by its cover.

Death in family,
cancer
job loss
depression

are just a few that break the spirit of many.

I have wondered about my friend sue who sits well over 240 only to find that she was molested and being fat is a subconcious way to insulate her from the pain.

You have to look inside the person.

Yes we are physical people who strive to attain a good physique but everyone of us will loose it with age. It is a bucket with a hole it it.

You live in your house on the inside. The outside is just the shell that keeps the inside contents safe.

i deal with this regularly.. and my weight goes up when i have to deal with it...


its not as simple as people think.... its not like these guys look in the mirror and see themselves getting big.. they're to distracted by other things to see it happeneing...

food becomes a comfort measure... a release from the problems in their world...

neve be too quick to judge... it just goes that way.. some people would have to struggle much much harder to get where ur at Pinga.... because they have a steeper mountain to climb psychologically...

its just how it goes

 

[Mr P]

i deal with this regularly.. and my weight goes up when i have to deal with it...


its not as simple as people think.... its not like these guys look in the mirror and see themselves getting big.. they're to distracted by other things to see it happeneing...

food becomes a comfort measure... a release from the problems in their world...

neve be too quick to judge... it just goes that way.. some people would have to struggle much much harder to get where ur at Pinga.... because they have a steeper mountain to climb psychologically...

its just how it goes

Of course, I know life strugles can detour anyone, but what I mean is, I know some that have had a pretty good life, everyone goes through normal problems in life,
But some people I know just really don't care & they are happy & content with themselves.

I understand if you've gone through some heavy stuff, & how depression could break anyone down, I have had times in my life when bodybuilding wasn't a priority, but you re bound & continue fighting back.
It's not all about the physical aspect of being in shape, I think it's what it does mentally & physically.

Like this friend of mine, he just changed his lifestyle, told me after he got maried he stopped excercising & had kids & just life took over (He said), and told me he's happy.

Nothing wrong with him, if he's happy, then I guess it's ok... Maybe he's happier being heavier than he was when he was fit.

I was just wondering why some choose to just let go.

 

[Mr P]

Dont judge the book by its cover.

Death in family,
cancer
job loss
depression

are just a few that break the spirit of many.

I have wondered about my friend sue who sits well over 240 only to find that she was molested and being fat is a subconcious way to insulate her from the pain.

You have to look inside the person.

Yes we are physical people who strive to attain a good physique but everyone of us will loose it with age. It is a bucket with a hole it it.

You live in your house on the inside. The outside is just the shell that keeps the inside contents safe.

I agree, you have to look inside the person, some people have a harder time dealing with things and overcoming problems, and find comfort in food, but some just don't care anymore and get used to a lifestyle & quit trying.

 

[juced_porkchop]

hard times can mess peeps up. but i couldent see myself lettign go 100%

 

[pickle bunny]

I ve been lifting 40 years for various sports BB for 8. There are times when you just want to do other things which are not body related.
One thing about physique is you can get it, loose it, get it again. It only takes one good car accident to loose it for a year or three.
Diabetes took 3 years away from me and 25 lbs of mass. It was difficult to fight back up to 210 where I am now.
There are all kinds of reasons to loose the edge.

But byinlarge those that want to will find a way.

I do understand what you are saying. We are visual creatures and lean n mean looks different from round but the truth is you may experience both in your lifetime.
It won't change who you are, just what you wear.

 

[Mrs P]

hard times can mess peeps up. but i couldent see myself lettign go 100%

Me too, Although I've been in not such good shape at points in my life, pregnancies can totally change your body, but I always hear the voice inside of me that tells me
"ok, gotta get back in track"
and just do it.. I don't think it's ever too late for anyone... It' all about having a balance, I'm diciplined, but I really enjoy
my days off, I give myself plenty of breaks.

I think the ones that "let go" completely just start slowly & little by little they just completly let go, some I know are, or seem to be happy..

I have a friend that is on the heavy side, and man, she's got more confidence than many girls I know, she tells me all the time that she loves the fact she can eat whatever she wants & gets to enjoy life without restrictions... She's a great person, fun, loving and happy.

I like taking care of myself, it makes me feel great inside & out... although it doesn't define my happiness, it definitely contributes to it, weight is just your size, but you do feel happier when you fell better about yourself.

 

[Loaded Gun]

I think just like one that works out every day does not notice the small changes, a regular person that does not work out, watch diet etc... does not notice the changes. So, when someone sees the guy that works out, they are astonished by the change they see and comment, when someone sees the guy that does not, they think to themselves 'wow, that guy let himself go'.

Also, people become complacent with themselves and everything because they got so much going on and maybe they are content with what they have achieved. I know when I'm in a relationship, I don't try as hard to keep up on fitness/diet, and gain a some weight, but when single as I am now, I do try...

 

[jimbo79]

The opposite just happend to me, this fatty I went to jr high with, just came in contact with recently...she always had a cutish face...just not something I ever tried to pursue. Now! Holy fak..she's smokin fn hot..skinny but not freakish skinny.

I will be meeting up with her and some other friends from jr high this summer. She's into a bit of modelling and does mma ring girl work and shite.

maybe it was just baby fat or something she had going on before...but it's no more

 

[Zero V]

I went from fit as hell to starting all over again thanks to about 12-14 months of systematic infections, health issues. Maybe 13 anti-biotic prescriptions in a single year. Topped off with woman issues and my grandmother passing....

You get knocked down, you get back up again. The ego hurts from losing it all, but your soul knows you can do it and get it all back. Step by step, even though it sucks. Some people just lose interest in it because they honestly just get lazy.

I have to get back into lifting each time...its the only thing that eases my mind, its therapy. And I plan to be diesel even when I am 50/60 like Stallone Even if it means I die in my 60's

 

[Mrs P]

I went from fit as hell to starting all over again thanks to about 12-14 months of systematic infections, health issues. Maybe 13 anti-biotic prescriptions in a single year. Topped off with woman issues and my grandmother passing....

You get knocked down, you get back up again. The ego hurts from losing it all, but your soul knows you can do it and get it all back. Step by step, even though it sucks. Some people just lose interest in it because they honestly just get lazy.

I have to get back into lifting each time...its the only thing that eases my mind, its therapy. And I plan to be diesel even when I am 50/60 like Stallone Even if it means I die in my 60's

The key here is "you get knocked down, you get back up again"... it's good that you have that attitute Zero, many like you say lose interest & just give up.

fall 7 times, get up 8.

 

[Heavy D]

hard times can mess peeps up. but i couldent see myself lettign go 100%

I can't either.When I've had troubles in life lifting and my training partners that are like brothers help me pull through it.

Most of the people I know that are obese don't care about themselves and it shows in other areas.

 

[cjw2021]

He's probably not on test, is eating shit foods, and has low test, and high estrogen. It's not hard to produce a fat guy like that. I see people in my gym that are fat and still work out regularly all the time. lol Granted this guy is an extreme example, he probably doesn't have the energy to get his ass in gear. He needs Maximus!

 

[Teutonic]

I m with you 2 M and mrs P and porkchop..

It s a lil vanity for sure..but there is a direct correlation between my performance in the gym and the rest of my life.

Ask BB.

I m such a hyper energetic person..when I slack off I lose weight.

I had a tough winter mentally and look at me now. Down 10 pounds and I wasn t fat.
<<<<<

At my high school reunion in 02 I was shocked..it was sooo alarming..but if they re happy..I dont think they are though.

I think genetic s are a huge deciding factoras well. they are as important as diet training rest and gear...i m o .

My genetic s do not allow me to sit still..or be slacker If I m awake I m engaged..but I ve been known to crash in my driveway after work and traing for 30 minutes..

I m a mess.