HELP about depression

[Dino Velvet]

Iage 37
last cycle was 800mg test 600deca 600EQ 12 week cycle , just finished PCT
This girl i have been dating for 3 years left me for another man, I found out on facebook, pictures of her and him, she said I never commited so she left, I have tried to kill myself and now the depression is so bad I cant do anything, it is affecting my work and my life. I am not the kind of guy that can go out and just pickup women, It does not help. I am seeing a Psychiatrist and a counseler. Can anyone give my some adivice please, i dont know what to do.

 

[UserAt204]

Keep your head up man. I have no good advice for you but keep your self busy and push thru. Maybe some guys with real experience can give some advice. I think there is a correlation between test levels and depression but lifes events are obviously too. Best of luck to you. I've had some life changing events happen in the recent months that changed things for me drastically but you have to pick up the pieces and move on. You can't let others actions change who you are. Mine has nothing to do with a women but hit me hard and there is nothing to do but get out and change things for your self.

 

[Dino Velvet]

Im 2 twice divorced so I was scared to commit, but she didn't want to hear it, my hearts torn out, this the second time a woman has done this.

 

[LANDSCAPE1]

Iage 37
last cycle was 800mg test 600deca 600EQ 12 week cycle , just finished PCT
This girl i have been dating for 3 years left me for another man, I found out on facebook, pictures of her and him, she said I never commited so she left, I have tried to kill myself and now the depression is so bad I cant do anything, it is affecting my work and my life. I am not the kind of guy that can go out and just pickup women, It does not help. I am seeing a Psychiatrist and a counseler. Can anyone give my some adivice please, i dont know what to do.

First of all I commend u for seeking guidence from the two mentioned above. . that is about the worst time to have that happen during/ after pct.. your hormones are fuckkkkkkked!. Therefore u feel like shit. Bro, u dont want to kill yourself over some chick! much less anyhting else... I would recommend getting plenty of sunshine, as we are getting into the nicer months atleast6+hours a week. . like mentioned above keep yourself busy, and keep friends and family close/active in your life. Any activities that keep your mind off things, do them Fishing/shopping/tanning/working out/gunrange/take a class/church, anything bro... I have had close buddies go threw bad divorces, and im goona tell u the same thing i told them. LET HER GO. DOnt call/text/drive by her house/inquire who shes dating etc.. nothing. Yea its hard to do, but Man up and soldier on.
And lastly dont worry about what she said... cause it holds no importence..the bitch is prob lying, who cares..Your telling me their is just one girl in the whole world for you?? Bullshit get over it.. it might take a couple months-several months to completly get over it but oh well.
Find some chick to bang... dont go slumbing, but just soemthing to tear up to get your confidence back up.
Id be in the gym getting my swole on bettering myself for the next special women to come along into your life.... Dont let this one fuck it up for a real women

 

[LANDSCAPE1]

Im 2 twice divorced so I was scared to commit, but she didn't want to hear it, my hearts torn out, this the second time a woman has done this.

Your gonna have to get over that shit bro . . go on a minni vacation or something
get your mind right/clear

The sooner you stop being hurt over shit in the past, the better off youll be.
Im not trying to date girls that always talk about how guys have fucked them over either blah, blah blah, so put yourself in her shoes. lose the bagage bro
Like the saying goes, what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. .
Therefore, my mind is fucking like steel son!...

 

[Dino Velvet]

Thank you brothers, that's why I came here, I know I need to move on, and yes I thought about going to her work, but what's the point, she don't want me.

 

[UserAt204]

Have to agree. That's a fucked up way to find out but things will turn around for you and everyone goes thru stuff like this. It sucks but don't let someone ruin who you are. You need to get it in your head that you are a bad mother fucker and can do anything you need to. Confidence in yourself will get you thru anything. You have a ton of people here to talk to and it may be hard to get thru but you have no other choice. Keep your head up!!!!

 

[LANDSCAPE1]

Thank you brothers, that's why I came here, I know I need to move on, and yes I thought about going to her work, but what's the point, she don't want me.

If you go to her work your gonna look like a complete dbag.... Shit on this brod... She's moved on bro, you need to do the same!

Just make her hate you when the next time she see's you because your in better shape/the best version of yourself you can be spiritulay/mentally/carrer wise, and have a hot ass bitch on your arm! cause you got over all your baggage and found a real women..

 

[G8tors]

I have to agree with those guys. im a lot younger than u, but ive had some pretty bad break-ups myself. always remember that things happen 4 a reason too bro. if yall were meant to be together, then yall would be. keep the faith and know that there is somethin better thats about to come your way.

 

[LANDSCAPE1]

Ive seen people that could NEVER get over bad breakups/divorces. . it consumes them in every relationship/choice/confidence from then on out. . It ruins them

I would never kill myself over ANY women bro... I love being me! The sun will rise again my-man. . . go nail one of her friends real dirty style, if you get the chance.... onlky time is gonna fix this... U just have to hang in there for a little while

 

[Yes]

Bro, that kind of thing is never easy but you got to stay away from that fucking facebook page at all costs. You are NOT alone in this. Everyone has had this happen at some point. Trying to scope out a new women is going fail for you right now, no matter what she looks like. Women can smell desperation a mile away and you will just be setting yourself up for another letdown. Best thing you can do is look after yourself and do good things for you and you only. Slowly things will fall back into place but it's not going to be overnight. Don't take any of those mind altering drugs from the doctor and please don't do anything to hurt yourself. It doesn't matter what she's doing. It's her life and you have to respect that. Best advice I can give you is to detach yourself from the whole situation so you have no idea where she is or what she's doing. Get rid of pictures, letters, videos, or anything that's going to remind you of her. Just think about how lousy her life is about to become since she doesn't have you anymore... That has worked for me in the past

 

[LANDSCAPE1]

Bro, that kind of thing is never easy but you got to stay away from that facebook page at all costs. You are NOT alone in this. Everyone has had this happen at some point. Trying to scope out a new women is going fail for you right now, no matter what she looks like. Women can smell desperation a mile away and you will just be setting yourself up for another letdown. Best thing you can do is look after yourself and do good things for you and you only. Slowly things will fall back into place but it's not going to be overnight. Don't take any of those mind altering drugs from the doctor and please don't do anything to hurt yourself. It doesn't matter what she's doing. It's her life and you have to respect that. Best advice I can give you is to detach yourself from the whole situation so you have no idea where she is or what she's doing. Get rid of pictures, letters, videos, or anything that's going to remind you of her. Just think about how lousy her life is about to become since she doesn't have you anymore... That has worked for me in the past

^^^ This
Op, down the road youll look back on this and itll be the tiniest/non bearing factor part of your life. I promise!

 

[Dino Velvet]

Bro, that kind of thing is never easy but you got to stay away from that fucking facebook page at all costs. You are NOT alone in this. Everyone has had this happen at some point. Trying to scope out a new women is going fail for you right now, no matter what she looks like. Women can smell desperation a mile away and you will just be setting yourself up for another letdown. Best thing you can do is look after yourself and do good things for you and you only. Slowly things will fall back into place but it's not going to be overnight. Don't take any of those mind altering drugs from the doctor and please don't do anything to hurt yourself. It doesn't matter what she's doing. It's her life and you have to respect that. Best advice I can give you is to detach yourself from the whole situation so you have no idea where she is or what she's doing. Get rid of pictures, letters, videos, or anything that's going to remind you of her. Just think about how lousy her life is about to become since she doesn't have you anymore... That has worked for me in the past

I hope everything turns out good for me, I have a good heart and I do want a great woman in my life. Thanks again guys.

 

[Stick & Move]

Sorry for your loss. Try to look at this with a different lite. You found out something that you needed to find out about before you committed. Something good will come for you when you not looking. Keep working out and keep your head up bra....

 

[Teutonic]

My girl of 2.5 yrs, who was married 3 time s prior hit me with a marry or lose me ultimatum back in September dude. Had plan B lined up and everything..that fucked me up..baaad.

Took 4 day s off work to regroup and had to literally throw myself out of the house every day.

Had to have all my work gear laid out..bdu s , boots, vest, duty belt..pre loaded my car the night before so I could go train after work..ate out..came home..shit showered shaved ate to bed repeat. Stay away from the house..and avoid that girl her haunts and her friends like the plaque..but when you see em..Smile and if it come s up say good things bout her..it ll do you good to take the high road.
It ll come back. I promise.
It took 6 weeks to stay focused on staying busy.
Changed phone numbers so I would not wait on the phone to ring.

Facebook is poison.

Dating sites got me laid..a lot.

Been with my new gf for 5 month s now and shes 5x the old one was..and the old one now and I are friends..no shit. I m glad she s good..but do not want that back. I m still on the emergency call list for her daughter and proud of it. I d take another bullet for that lil one.

I been on anti depressants and benzo s in the past..opiates, katrina was a set back, my world washed away..had a career ending injury after securing my master s in my field and being real good at it for 11 years.

Focus..nothing calms my mind like movement..you ll be OK. It hurts..and it should..if it did not you d be a heartless bastard and I d say go fuck yourself.

Time, patience and something to look forward too will make this OK.

The Mental Mod
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[5x10]

op, remember that the pain is amplified because of the hormones

like the other guys said, just stay busy all the time

it will pass

good luck

 

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[llD3MONll]

i dated a girl for 4 years from when i was 17 till 21...i know its young lol but anyways when i found out she was fucking around i thought it was the end of the world.

lifting and making my body as good as it can get is an obsession of mine and just put forth all my anger and effort into working out and got my mind off of it. trust me dude if u get ur body right and get the bedroom body u will have chicks galore. wether your good at talking to them or not. and being 37 you got plenty of room to make it happen...get on it quick and forget the chick man, and just stay single and have funn. no need to get down on yourself...now that shes gone its less stress and more you time!

 

[Yes]

I hope everything turns out good for me, I have a good heart and I do want a great woman in my life. Thanks again guys.

Well, you show me a guy with a good heart and I'll show you a guy about to be taken advantage of.

You can't take her back now even if she wanted it. She's made a move to another man and it will always be in the back of your mind. Male domination is powerful.

It sounds like this has made a real big impact on you. It's time to change up your game. Move, Change your phone number, Email, Even change your job if you can. Don't look for her and don't give her the ability to find you. Sooner or later they all come back to say how are ya doing, so don't let her have it.

You really got to get rid of that Facebook, I can't say it enough. It's designed to netwok people together. Her name is going to come up all the time through mutual friends. That thing is a desaster waiting to happen.

Let me tell ya something brother. A good women will never give you an ultimatum to do what she wants or she's leaving. Be glad that it happen now and not 5-10 years from now. You should send her a thankyou note for pointing you in a new direction.

 

[Teutonic]

This^^^^