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[stevemorse0]

I am coming here because I want to throw something out here. I have a neighbor across the street and this guy is what I call a creeper. He is always lurking. He likes to listen and snoop that my interpretation. Now my house is close to the road and Im up a mountain so sound travels. This guy one time was like snooping around the back bushes on day when me and husband were kinda fighting. So look I get it, its kind interesting to hear others yell at each other, can be fun so basically we called him a snooper and kind told this guy stop the lurking.

Yesterday its 830 we were getting blasted with snow, my blinds are shut and this idiot comes over and starts shoveling my steps right by my window like he was kinda listening again . I saw him, jumped up , opened the door and said listen you fucking little peeper took his shovel, kind of abused him abit, kinda grabbed him and assalted him slightly. I called him a loser and told this nut stay the fuck off my property and thru his shovel across the street. Well this guy went running home. Now I am the one who feels guilty. Was I wrong?? Obviously this guy did not call the cops on me abusing him, but he pushed my buttons. I just feel like this guy trys to do nice things to lurk. What do you think?

 

[tazman03]

how about having your neighbor take pictures of you working on your car, or of your kids out playing in the yard, or my dog tied up to the front porch. All in all a stack of photos from over the course of a year...... Needless to say I went beating on this guys door and almost couldn't help myself from kicking the door in. Thank god my girlfriend was home with me.

F*** these weirdos. I say GREAT JOB!!!! I'll bet a dime to a dollar he dont do that shit again. LMAO!!

 

[dialtone]

might have over reacted a bit and might want to see a psychiatrist about some stabilizing meds. yeah he's weird, but everyone is a little weird. truthfully, id say it is just as weird to assault a guy (which is called battery and can be punishable by law) for shoveling your steps because you assume he is stalking you.

i would certainly have to say, there are better ways of handling this situation...and again, check out some docs for stability meds.

 

[Ptolomy]

I say good job too, if i catch someone snooping around my place like that...well they wouldn't be as lucky as your creeper.

 

[dialtone]

everyone is quick to assume they are being stalked because subconsciously, to a degree, it makes them feel wanted or special. but then they feel like they have been taken advantage of and act out in aggressive ways when in reality, someone was just being nice. the whole thing plays out in our head from flattery to territorial, which both make us feel good just in different ways. so its all a selfish assumption.

if we could slow down our assumptions, which are driven by positive feelings and fear, and discover the real purpose of someone's actions, we'd probably save ourselves a lot of energy, apologies and embarrassing threads in forums.

 

[Miss Muscle]

I am in the minority but you overreacted in a bad way. He can charge you.

You may have been mad but have you ever actually had a discussion with this guy about his peeping? If you have I suppose I can see why you went off the handle but if you haven't than it's a bit extreme to touch him over it.

And you don't know if he was listening or trying to do a nice thing.

It sounds like he was trying to be a good neighbor and may be "slower". Especially if you rudely told him the first time to stop peeping. Did you actually yell at him or say it jokingly?

I think you may be paranoid. I read this from your point of view and I'm thinking you are in the wrong so take a good look at the situation. Are you leaving anything out about this guy?

 

[dialtone]

im with you MM

 

[Greazy-Pickle]

I am in the minority but you overreacted in a bad way. He can charge you.

You may have been mad but have you ever actually had a discussion with this guy about his peeping? If you have I suppose I can see why you went off the handle but if you haven't than it's a bit extreme to touch him over it.

And you don't know if he was listening or trying to do a nice thing.

It sounds like he was trying to be a good neighbor and may be "slower". Especially if you rudely told him the first time to stop peeping. Did you actually yell at him or say it jokingly?

I think you may be paranoid. I read this from your point of view and I'm thinking you are in the wrong so take a good look at the situation. Are you leaving anything out about this guy?

i agree with Dteezy and MM.. you def. overreacted.. and dont flatter yourself thinkin every1 is trying to check you out.. poor bastard was probably just trying to do something nice for you..

 

[stevemorse0]

I see both sides, and I do get where your coming from with me thinking im special. The guy is weird but now over a good night sleep I can see where I did go off alittle too much. We also have told him one time when he was in the bushes stop this crap so he was warned.

The funny thing is that is my point, if he was so just nice, most normal people would have called the police. I know I would have but the little sneaky peeper/listerner just ran home. Ok when I see the jerk I will quickly say sorry, but kindly stay off my property.

 

[boostedHULK]

it seems to me you definitely reacted wrong. the reason it seems so obvious to me is that it made you feel like crap, not him. i'm sure he was embarrassed and probably won't do it again, but you genuinely feel like crap about it.

 

[THE-DET-OAK]

fuck that-i catch someone in my bushes and i will send them on their way in a hurry............i could care less what kind of excuse they got-they should know their boundries-and mine stop way before my bushes

 

[Wonderwoman82]

Sorry girl, I'll have to agree with the majority on this one. Look at it this way, perhaps your neighbour was in the bushes because he had heard you and your husband fighting and wanted to "spy", so to speak, to ensure your safety. Perhaps he just wanted to ensure you safety. Then the reason he came over to shovel your walk way is because he felt bad for ease dropping.
I definitely think you owe him an apology. I do get what you're saying though, there are A LOT of creepy people out there and you always have to keep an open eye. But, no everyone has bad intentions, there are good people like yourself out there!

 

[3J]

reverse the rolls i say. do to him what he's doing to you.. see how he feels it..

where i agree you shouldn't have assulted him, i say u give that asshole a taste of his own medicine

 

[cyto33]

heres the thing none of know the whole story here. this guy could have been watching and creeping for some time. or he is a wierdo just looking to help and wants to fit in, make new friends.
but let me tell you if any one was ever found on my property watching me or my kids. that son of a bitch will be leaving in a body bag right after i punch my fist though their skull. if some one wants to watch me to get dirt on me i see no vaule in their life over mine.
so Steve you did what you needed to to fell protected in your own home. you know how this guy make you feel and its not a good feeling i take it. you did what you had to. dont feel bad for it. if people would stay the hell out of other peoples buisness this world would be a much better place.

 

[dialtone]

i dont get why people think if someone looks at them, the person should die. i think this says a lot about our society's maturity level. its as if we have regressed in evolution now we are cave men killing people for eye contact. how fucking stupid can you be?

i have a weird neighbor that shovels my sidewalk and scrapes our cars for snow. I agree, its atypical, but should my first instinct be to attack/kill him for getting close to the house where my fiance is? fuck no. anyone whose first instinct is to fight/kill shares a cognitive functioning level with dogs and in turn deserves to be treated as such.

 

[THE-DET-OAK]

hahahaha-i agree with you dtone-with everything you said there............but cmon if someone was just hanging out in your bushes? im not saying i would beat his ass-just be WTF are doing in my bushes? and if it happened again-their would have to be a consequence. shoveling my drive is one thing-peeping my windows from a far is not that bad either-but if this guy was really going comando style in the bushes-we would have to agree he is a peeper

 

[cyto33]

i for sure am not saying beat his ass for removing snow or trying to help you out. not at all. i help the local people on my street when it snows and such.
i'm talking about the the person that hides in the bushes and watches you. looks in your windows at night. looks through your mail box. goes through you garbage. that sort or perv. See i was laid up about 10 years ago and i had this bitch doing just that stuff to me. he was hired to watch me. i broke my back in 2 places and the insurance company whated proof i was faking it. which after surgery they believed. Now if i could have gotten my hands on this guy i would have hurt him badly. he scared the kids at night looking in the windows and kill the car battery from leave the door open. made amess of the trash. so yes if my caveman side has come out then so be it. i will do what i'm built for.

 

[Blondie_Bombshell]

WOW, I have a strong belief in being good to your neighbors. I had a bad situation and my neighbors where there before the cops were. Luckily they are real cool. But wtf? I hope you never need any help in your neighborhood because if you treat your neighbors like that, they wont give a shit about you.

 

[RJ]

Why would you not just call the police? That is their job. And you just blast him with a shovel? What if the dude was a freak with retard strength and after you hit him, he decides he is NOW mad (where he wasn't before and just being weird) and he drags your little ass inside, ties up your man with an extension cord, and proceeds to ass rape you with his own 'shovel' for the next three hours while your hubby watches. I'm sure once he's done cutting you both up in little pieces and dining on your rectums you can take time to apologize for overreacting.

I agree its weird. But with the fucking whackjobs out there now, I'm calling the PoPo. If its a neighbor that i know via the nieghborhood, I'm asking him why he's in the bushes. If he acts like a perv, hopefully a verbal warning will end it. If not, call the fucking police. Dtone is dead on here. No ones saying let a dude peep from your bushes, but you guys who are ready to fight at the drop of a hat are insane.

I'm a big boy and can handle myself just fine. But unless your disrespecting/hurting my wife or my child, i have no time for your ass. Granted my size may keep me from getting into fights, but its the bigger man who can walk away from that shit. Any numbskull can throw a punch. Plenty of guys half my size willing to pull a fucking gun rather then deal with my fist!!

 

[Mr P]

If I see a dude in the bushes, Ill ask him do u drink beer?, do u have cold beer at ur place? were do u leave? why r u in the bushes ? whats is your name? just ask politely usually if he is up to no good he will walk away or run ,fallow the guy and get were he is going then call the cops,. yes u do owe the guy an apology yes u jumped the gun to fast u should not had hit the dude u can get arrested and not to mention a law suit,..maybe he is a good dude and has a lot of cold beer at home and u can get fucked up for free?