Sassytassie84
Denial is not a river!
When I took my ex to court to establish 50/50 parental and legal custody... I didn't go after him for child support. (He was going to school and I was providing for our family- so he wasn't working) when we split up he still wasn't working. But I figured as long as he took care of my son 50/50 with me everything would be ok. Well in Sept 2011 he started working for Kaiser and gets paid $25 a hour... I assumed as being the father he would start providing for our son financially. However that is not happening and I have had my son 95/5 due to my ex's work schedule. I live in a 3 bedroom house, just my son and I. I work hard to provide for my son and feel it's unfair to do it all by myself when it took 2 of us to make him. My ex is bi-polar and I cannot approach him in any way without him getting angry and accousing me of things. So I think I need to take him to court to establish child support.
I can take care of my son now... no problem but I am just looking into the future, if we don't set terms down now my ex will think it's ok to not provide for my son years down the road. Medical, dental, vision, child care, after school activities etc... are not cheap and will definitely get more expensive the older he gets.
I wish my ex would step up... and be the responsible father I know he can be... Without me having to get the courts involved to make him pay.
I feel you on this! I have my son 100% of the time and he pays absolutely nothing. I have given him 10 months to step up and be a father, I call him to see if he wants to see his son regardless. I hate taking time off of work to go to court for my ex to not have his shit together and the judge extends it for another month. I hate the court systems. I wish my ex would just step up and either take him 50% so I can not worry about child support/daycare costs but he refuses. But then he also refuses to pay what he is supposed to pay. Last time we were in court he had gotten denied from Unemployment due to voluntarily quitting his job! He knows he has a little guy to take care of but he is so damn selfish. Regardless, I still want my son to have a father and I do not want to be blamed later for taking that away from him over child support. My son will come to see on all his own what a douche is dad is. It is really sad for me to see my son as the next fatherless child. Makes me sick. I never wanted that for him and never thought his dad would pull the disappearing act either.