coltmc45
Out of limbo
I hope this is in the right forum. If not please move it or let me know and I'll delete it and repost in general chat but I'd really like some women's advice.
So me and my girlfriend have been together a year, today is actually our anniversary. We are both very active. She's a fitness nut, we both work full time. We live together with her 2 beautiful children. Neither one of thier dads are around so I'm the father figure. We've only dated a year but we've been friends since 5th grade. I'm about to be 30 and she'll be 31. I wanted to give you that info so maybe you might be able to help me out. Anyways, when we first started dating we'd have sex I'd say at least 5-7 times a week. It was like that for about the first 3-4 months. But ever since around month 4 we have sex once a week sometimes once every 2 weeks. No matter what I do, wear her favorite shirt, very giving (which I am usually always) hold her, kiss her, do all the things that she loves and turns her on its still nothing. She works alot yes, and the kids take a toll on both of us, yes. I do realize that after awhile relationships die down a little and that's normal and I think maybe ours died down quicker because we've known each other for so long. I don't expect the 5-7 times a week that was average for us in the beginning but damn. I have needs too. I've never cheated and I don't plan on it at all. Love her and the kids too much to do that but wtf do I do? We've talked about it, she said she's just tired from work but she's had the same damn schedule since we started dating. Just like today, I got her flowers, card, took her out to eat to a fancy resteraunt, bottle of wine, then took her shopping, we laughed, had fun, cuddled, all that lovey Dovey shit and nothing. Seriously frustrated. I told her she needs to get a hormone panel done and she agreed but never did. I'm seriously frustrated. Our relationship is amazing except for the lack of sex. And no it's not because she doesn't love having sex with me. She orgasms everytime. Any clues to what's going on? Anybody have a similar experience? HELP!!!
So me and my girlfriend have been together a year, today is actually our anniversary. We are both very active. She's a fitness nut, we both work full time. We live together with her 2 beautiful children. Neither one of thier dads are around so I'm the father figure. We've only dated a year but we've been friends since 5th grade. I'm about to be 30 and she'll be 31. I wanted to give you that info so maybe you might be able to help me out. Anyways, when we first started dating we'd have sex I'd say at least 5-7 times a week. It was like that for about the first 3-4 months. But ever since around month 4 we have sex once a week sometimes once every 2 weeks. No matter what I do, wear her favorite shirt, very giving (which I am usually always) hold her, kiss her, do all the things that she loves and turns her on its still nothing. She works alot yes, and the kids take a toll on both of us, yes. I do realize that after awhile relationships die down a little and that's normal and I think maybe ours died down quicker because we've known each other for so long. I don't expect the 5-7 times a week that was average for us in the beginning but damn. I have needs too. I've never cheated and I don't plan on it at all. Love her and the kids too much to do that but wtf do I do? We've talked about it, she said she's just tired from work but she's had the same damn schedule since we started dating. Just like today, I got her flowers, card, took her out to eat to a fancy resteraunt, bottle of wine, then took her shopping, we laughed, had fun, cuddled, all that lovey Dovey shit and nothing. Seriously frustrated. I told her she needs to get a hormone panel done and she agreed but never did. I'm seriously frustrated. Our relationship is amazing except for the lack of sex. And no it's not because she doesn't love having sex with me. She orgasms everytime. Any clues to what's going on? Anybody have a similar experience? HELP!!!
fact is there needs to be give and take in these situations. Sometimes she has to give into his needs and be understanding, and he needs to also understand her and sometimes accept that (oh ok honey no booty tonight) lol. Yes men have urges, but you have self control too.
