You guys just gotta remember your girlfriend is probably not on hormones, and women get sexual exhaustion symptoms too. It's easy for us on TRT...we just wake up with another hardon the next day. But if you are a middle aged woman and expected to put out 6 days a week or more without hormones and neurotransmitter precursors it's just unhealthy. If you guys don't believe me when I talk about the damage excessive sex can do to people...please check out this website. Theory of Sexual Orgasm and Sexual Exhaustion Symptoms plenty of women there with all sorts of psychological and physical issues from it.
Deus I will delete this if you don't mind me reposting it, but both him and his wife require hydrocortisone cause they went at it so much. be careful. You don't have to listen to me. I don't really give a shit. everyone thinks they are invincible until they can't get out of bed and don't know why.
I had a major problem with my wife too. I did not realize it at first, but it turns out that I had a lot of resentment built up towards her because she was not putting out. My resentment was spewed out all at once during an hour-long ranting and raving session that was sparked by some stupid argument that had nothing to do with that. I hated that I was always the one who would initiate sex. I hated feeling like a horny dog that wants to hump all the time. I explained how terrible it felt when I thought that maybe she just did not find me good looking, exciting, or sexy any more, or that she just viewed me as an old perv. I became extremely irritated and downright angry when she would push me away in bed. I believed she was paying more attention to a bunch of stuff that was completely irrelevant to me (her soap operas or her long chats with her friends, etc.), and this burned me up inside. I reminded her that I had tried talking to her about this problem, but that she always trivialized the problem and basically ignored me. Nothing changed for so long and what the fuck was I supposed to do? Cheat on her? I let her have it. I told her how I felt, how she was making me feel, and that she was slowly driving me away and that I could not take it anymore. I really went off on her and made her feel like shit. I was sincere, and I think she realized what this was doing to me. In the end she realized what was going on and she apologized. I started to have incredible sex again, and much more often. Things have been great since that time. I could have sex every day if it were up to me and things are still far from what I would want them (sex 4-5 days/week), but they have improved quite a bit and I am OK with that. Talking to your wife works. You may have to try multiple times, and you may very well need to have a heated exchange for this to sink in to your wife, but if you keep trying, and if the two of you love each other, thern it will work. Be careful not to make things worse though - don't let this backfire on you.... Think about your approach ahead of time. You need to help her figure out what the lack of enough sex is doing to you.....
ya know for me part of the problem is my wife could probably go for a month without sex and not give a fuck,(no pun) her sex drive and desire is very low.. Now its been an issue for years now. Dont get me wrong she gives it up but its so fucking annoying that i always have to be the one to start it up...
This weekend we got rid of the kids for the night to hang with some friends and then some "fun time" later. We go out have a good time and passed little hints to each other and i was "UP" for it when we got home.
So we get home and we were talking as i was taking her clothes off, something made me ask how horny she was, and from the dryness i could tell.. She said she wasnt even thinking of it all.... So from that, it was a total bummer for me and i just stopped cause i was disappointed, and thats when the argument started... This is how she is most of the time and its taking its toll on me now.. Now like i said we have been together for 16yrs now and even about 5yrs ago things were so much better. Honestly it seems after my son was born her drive took a shit and now like i said she could deal without sex probably for a month or longer.. Ive tried holding out as long as i can but when it gets past the 2week mark im like a lunatic. I get moody and PISSED at everything and i have to break in..
Now ive had talks with her about it and thats why i got her libido pills and asked her to talk to her doctor but to her she is fine and its all my problem that im a horn ball.. I dont wanna sound like a bitch but this is getting hard to deal with thats why im asking for something to really BOOST her libido to atleast what it was before kids..... I dont wanna leave her or cheat on her im not the type but i always told myself if another girl actually paid me more attention i think we would really have problems......
Now she is good enough to give it up and im happy about that but i just cant understand why she isnt into it as much as she used to be.. I know im not as ripped as i used to be or even as big as i used to be but im trying.. for my wife she hates working out and would rather watch the bachelor and those other stupid reality shows then do anything.... I guess we just got issues but for me her lack of wanting sex is what really bothers me.......
Sounds like she could use testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) also.. But, it doesn't sound like she thinks she needs it? Maybe you could get her to read a Suzanne Summers book.. She is a big advocate for HRT.. You sound like a reasonable guy w/ a wife who is unknowingly killing your self esteem, or maybe she knows and doesn't care..
I don't know buddy? I'm only 34 and only married for 6 years, I hope I never find myself in this situation because I don't think I would stay? That's a tough one! Best of luck
ya know for me part of the problem is my wife could probably go for a month without sex and not give a fuck,(no pun) her sex drive and desire is very low.. Now its been an issue for years now. Dont get me wrong she gives it up but its so fucking annoying that i always have to be the one to start it up...
This weekend we got rid of the kids for the night to hang with some friends and then some "fun time" later. We go out have a good time and passed little hints to each other and i was "UP" for it when we got home.
So we get home and we were talking as i was taking her clothes off, something made me ask how horny she was, and from the dryness i could tell.. She said she wasnt even thinking of it all.... So from that, it was a total bummer for me and i just stopped cause i was disappointed, and thats when the argument started... This is how she is most of the time and its taking its toll on me now.. Now like i said we have been together for 16yrs now and even about 5yrs ago things were so much better. Honestly it seems after my son was born her drive took a shit and now like i said she could deal without sex probably for a month or longer.. Ive tried holding out as long as i can but when it gets past the 2week mark im like a lunatic. I get moody and PISSED at everything and i have to break in..
Now ive had talks with her about it and thats why i got her libido pills and asked her to talk to her doctor but to her she is fine and its all my problem that im a horn ball.. I dont wanna sound like a bitch but this is getting hard to deal with thats why im asking for something to really BOOST her libido to atleast what it was before kids..... I dont wanna leave her or cheat on her im not the type but i always told myself if another girl actually paid me more attention i think we would really have problems......
Now she is good enough to give it up and im happy about that but i just cant understand why she isnt into it as much as she used to be.. I know im not as ripped as i used to be or even as big as i used to be but im trying.. for my wife she hates working out and would rather watch the bachelor and those other stupid reality shows then do anything.... I guess we just got issues but for me her lack of wanting sex is what really bothers me.......
I had a major problem with my wife too. I did not realize it at first, but it turns out that I had a lot of resentment built up towards her because she was not putting out. My resentment was spewed out all at once during an hour-long ranting and raving session that was sparked by some stupid argument that had nothing to do with that. I hated that I was always the one who would initiate sex. I hated feeling like a horny dog that wants to hump all the time. I explained how terrible it felt when I thought that maybe she just did not find me good looking, exciting, or sexy any more, or that she just viewed me as an old perv. I became extremely irritated and downright angry when she would push me away in bed. I believed she was paying more attention to a bunch of stuff that was completely irrelevant to me (her soap operas or her long chats with her friends, etc.), and this burned me up inside. I reminded her that I had tried talking to her about this problem, but that she always trivialized the problem and basically ignored me. Nothing changed for so long and what the fuck was I supposed to do? Cheat on her? I let her have it. I told her how I felt, how she was making me feel, and that she was slowly driving me away and that I could not take it anymore. I really went off on her and made her feel like shit. I was sincere, and I think she realized what this was doing to me. In the end she realized what was going on and she apologized. I started to have incredible sex again, and much more often. Things have been great since that time. I could have sex every day if it were up to me and things are still far from what I would want them (sex 4-5 days/week), but they have improved quite a bit and I am OK with that. Talking to your wife works. You may have to try multiple times, and you may very well need to have a heated exchange for this to sink in to your wife, but if you keep trying, and if the two of you love each other, thern it will work. Be careful not to make things worse though - don't let this backfire on you.... Think about your approach ahead of time. You need to help her figure out what the lack of enough sex is doing to you.....
you too?