How quickly do the mental effects of TRT kick in?

[cybrsage]

Awesome man...really. 28 years ? U are 1 of the few...and I admire it and you CS. I miss the team approach to life but....I do not trust em half as far as I can throw them...sad I know.

Half the magic to a long relationship is finding someone who compliments you (your weaknesses is their strengths and vice versa) and NOT holding any jealousy over what they are superior to you in doing. For example, I have a degree in Nuclear Engineering and for some unknown reason I simply cannot balance a checkbook to save my life. I am horrible at budgets, etc. If I controlled our money, we would be flat broke all the time and bouncing checks. My wife not only is good at it, she finds great happiness and personal satisfaction in balancing the checkbook and finding that missing 3 cents... She is also a planner and I am a spur of the moment person. I let her plan all our future events and she goes along with my sudden flights of "lets go do this awesome thing right now!!", something she is no good at (spontaneity).

Another huge part, something I learned from my daughter in fact, is to pick your battles. If you do not hold strong feelings on something, let her have her way with it. Why bother to disagree on something you hold very little care about? Save the disagreements for things you find important. That way you are not only being "pig headed" a very few times and she will be able to see that these items are important to you. You may have to let her know they are, though - for as insightful as women can be, they can be just as dense as men at times.

I think one of the big things that helps me is my wife still LOVES sex - there has been a reduction in sex as we age (when we were 17 we did it 16 times in one 24 hour period...yeah, how do I get THAT recovery time again!), but she still loves doing it as much as always. In fact we just had a fight last night and had some most amazing make up sex with morning - sex SHE instigated and took full control during, it was a grand time.

But during the Low T years, before I realized it was even something that existed, life was bad. Never going back to that.

 

[Teutonic]

cs

MAN THAT WAS REALLY well put insightful and your acknowledgement of each other s strength s shows how it works.Acknowledging ur daughtes input is so cool...I learn from my 9 yr old often as he s not had cause or reason to be jaded and in his innocence and no nonsense stone cold honesty I realize I would be amiss trying to change anything about him but rather embrace his mom and step dads excellent job of being his primaries.

I get to bask in the compliments of how well mannered and even keeled he is and Do give credit to those who deserve it. I m just one lucky man to have had not given up...on me. Lot s of folk s here DPR mEGA, 3J hw, OTHERS helped. In my zip code I m either loved( 4-5 folk s max, feared...it s embarrassing...shunned...oh yeah..again..embarrassing. My fault.

But it s simple. I m good with a book and some loving when needed...THE GYM..WORK AND HOBBIES. GROW SHIT BLOW SHIT UP...

 

[soldier74]

Half the magic to a long relationship is finding someone who compliments you (your weaknesses is their strengths and vice versa) and NOT holding any jealousy over what they are superior to you in doing. For example, I have a degree in Nuclear Engineering and for some unknown reason I simply cannot balance a checkbook to save my life. I am horrible at budgets, etc. If I controlled our money, we would be flat broke all the time and bouncing checks. My wife not only is good at it, she finds great happiness and personal satisfaction in balancing the checkbook and finding that missing 3 cents... She is also a planner and I am a spur of the moment person. I let her plan all our future events and she goes along with my sudden flights of "lets go do this awesome thing right now!!", something she is no good at (spontaneity).

Another huge part, something I learned from my daughter in fact, is to pick your battles. If you do not hold strong feelings on something, let her have her way with it. Why bother to disagree on something you hold very little care about? Save the disagreements for things you find important. That way you are not only being "pig headed" a very few times and she will be able to see that these items are important to you. You may have to let her know they are, though - for as insightful as women can be, they can be just as dense as men at times.

I think one of the big things that helps me is my wife still LOVES sex - there has been a reduction in sex as we age (when we were 17 we did it 16 times in one 24 hour period...yeah, how do I get THAT recovery time again!), but she still loves doing it as much as always. In fact we just had a fight last night and had some most amazing make up sex with morning - sex SHE instigated and took full control during, it was a grand time.

But during the Low T years, before I realized it was even something that existed, life was bad. Never going back to that.

Ain't that the truth!! Well shit, idk how to "bold" the type but I'm talking about the part where u said they can be as dense as us at times, lol. TRUTH!

 

[cybrsage]