Dating

[darkside06]

After reading this entire thread i think i may have the confidence to say something to this girl at the gym. The only thing im worried about is, giving her space while she's in there. I know i like mine. But we have shared those smile, eye contact. My partner tells me she stairs at me all the time when im squating or benching and the second im on my last rep she goes on with her business? Idk.. She's real serouis about training and is in excellent condition. Any tips to move this process along? I also blew off 2 other girls just so i could have a chance with her so...

just go talk to her man. I know what you mean about giving her space. I never talk to anyone in the gym, i'm serious about it and i'm there for business so I always felt uneasy about trying to pick up women from the gym because of this. I'm no dating pro, don't think of myself as overly attractive but one thing i've learned is none of that shit matter. IMO...the best pick up line is "hi"

if you've obviously exchanged a few of those "looks" then look for a way to approach her after her workouts. just strike up a random conversation like...."working hard huh" or something. it will go a long way.

 

[Smilee21]

I remember when I first started this thread, I was so scared to put myself out there and start dating, the past has really scared me from moving forward, but I have been taking my time getting to know people, still strictly remaining platonic with them and just having dates here and there. Some of the indivduals I went out with truly touched my heart in a way that I wanted to keep them around as my Friends (and only friends), some of them however after seeing them in their environment, I have realized we were no match for one another. What I want in life and what they wanted in life were 2 totally different things, so I walked away without letting myself think twice about WHAT IF..., I am still celibate and it gets easier for me bc whomever I am getting to know is forwarned I am not looking for just a causal date/ friend with benefits. I am learning that those feelings and emotions I thought I had for my GYM Partner (was not real) and I look at him as a LITTLE BROTHER and a Good friend.

I am slowly getting more comfortable and have opened up quite a bit to a special person, he makes me laugh, I am constantly smiling, I look forward to his calls, and his kind words, a real gentleman, I didn't seek him out, he found me, and I am grateful that I have not let sex CLOUD me. We have both admitted to eachother that we like eachother and want to see where this goes, he tells me he thinks he has finally found that special person he has been searching for. He was scared I wasn't going to talk to him due to the age differnce between him and I. I was so scared to open up to him at first, but I have told him the truth every time a question was asked, I am taking the chance of him leaving me BC of the things I tell him, but he told me, he respects me for that, being as honest as I am, he says I am as real as real can get, and it makes me quite happy that I can be myself, this curiously intrigued crazy mis-read little lost girl who is trying to find her way.

this is the first time in a very long time, I want to spend my spare time with someone, making plans together, and even play dates so our children can play together. Friends first of course, but we both like where this friendship/relationship is going...

he even asked if I would stop texting/talking to anyone that came before him, and I told him Yes... if we were to say we wanted to take this to the next step, my "friends" would know that it's time to do some "cleaning" and let it be known, I am no longer single.

 

[Sassytassie84]

Smilee! Congrats! THats where you have been! I was wondering....

Cash-LOL I had to look up who Daniel Craig was... Nice!! I get told I look like Michelle Pfeiffer in Scarface ALL THE TIME, I am not that skinny though and I DO NOT have that weird nose of hers. So, I am not sure if it is a compliment.

josh30013-GO FOR IT! Be the man! lol Us girls wait for the man to step up. She is clearly giving you signals. If a girl looks at you, gives you direct eye contact and smiles, she is giving you a sign. If she look away after, its OK! She just got embarrassed for looking too long!

 

[Smilee21]

Smilee! Congrats! THats where you have been! I was wondering....

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Yah!!! It's been interesting I will say that... I have a lot of catching up to do, lots of Thread/Post reading to do. I am just going with the flow and letting things fall into place like they are meant too. My decisions, choices, and actions are all being thought about more than ever before, change is good, I am healing, learning to do things differently, and enjoying the people the cross my path. Hope all is well with you... BTW, girl looking good. You look so tan, I look like a porcelin china doll next to you. good job with the MT2 experiment.

 

[Sassytassie84]

Lol Thanks! I will be changing to LabPE's here once I run out of the Great White and hopefully I wont get any acne.

I am happy things are falling into place for you!

 

[Smilee21]

Lol Thanks! I will be changing to LabPE's here once I run out of the Great White and hopefully I wont get any acne.

I am happy things are falling into place for you!

Me too!!! I guess good things do happen when you least expect it and stay true to yourself. I am not settling for the first person to show interest in me. The dating horror stories I have heard from friends these past 2 years really made it hard to want to get out there. But I'm finally ready...to open my heart up for the first time in a very very long time, to another, and let him in completely.

 

[cashout]

Cash-LOL I had to look up who Daniel Craig was... Nice!! I get told I look like Michelle Pfeiffer in Scarface ALL THE TIME, I am not that skinny though and I DO NOT have that weird nose of hers. So, I am not sure if it is a compliment.

I've always been a fan of Michelle - in late 80's and early 90's she presented a "classy" kind of 'good looking' with the blonde hair and blue eyes that I always thought was the kind attractiveness that I wanted to walk into a crowded room with...I never saw her as having a weird nose.

 

[Sassytassie84]

Yeah she looks like she has a cocaine nose job, but maybe that is because she represented one in the movie. I had people convinced at my old work that she was my aunt, lol. Only for a short few minutes until I couldn't help but laugh. I get it all the time. I also get Jaime King and Jaime Pressly. I can see the Jaime King but not Pressly. And twice I have gotten Charlize Theron (which I don't think so, but took it as a huge compliment!)

 

[cashout]

Yeah she looks like she has a cocaine nose job, but maybe that is because she represented one in the movie. I had people convinced at my old work that she was my aunt, lol. Only for a short few minutes until I couldn't help but laugh. I get it all the time. I also get Jaime King and Jaime Pressly. I can see the Jaime King but not Pressly. And twice I have gotten Charlize Theron (which I don't think so, but took it as a huge compliment!)

Nooooo....the only think I can ever think of when someone mentions Jamie Pressly is the movie Joe Dirt "I'm your sister! I'm your sister!"

If you've not seen that flick watch it! It is funny as them come and one of my favorites!

 

[Sassytassie84]

Yes, I have seen Joe Dirt.... or should I say Joe Dirte' LOL Yeah I don't see any resemblance to her but it has been said a few times. I always laugh and say "So, I look pretty much every white girl." haha

 

[Smilee21]

I think I Want to start a blog about single parents and the dating Horror stories...

Lol... I am a great person with a huge heart and this whole weeding out the bad for those who are good is quite a challenge.

I found someone interesting and was going to give him a chance but he did little things that threw up Red flags (I always pay attention to the signs) this guy raised up 3 red flags in a week... Really, all in one week. I let the first slide but then he is showing signs of Insecurities, seems to be a little controlling, and is quite too sensitive for me, he is not who I am going to choose to see.

I like having friends more than this dating thing, it's just too complicated for me.
Back to the drawing board once again.

 

[Braff]

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[German89]

Can someone help me...
Mine just broke up with me. He said he wasn't happy, he might've been too sensitive.. etc. etc. But, in the end it was the whole, it's not you. You're an amazing person, and that he thinks that we 'need a break' - The whole 'we need a break' is it just bullshit...?
He was the kind of guy that if he got down on one knee, I would've said yes with no questions asked.
Do I wait?
I need some ladies feedback. I have two girlfriends and they're relationship retarded. I don't really like hearing their advice. lol

 

[Detour5]

Can someone help me...
Mine just broke up with me. He said he wasn't happy, he might've been too sensitive.. etc. etc. But, in the end it was the whole, it's not you. You're an amazing person, and that he thinks that we 'need a break' - The whole 'we need a break' is it just bullshit...?
He was the kind of guy that if he got down on one knee, I would've said yes with no questions asked.
Do I wait?
I need some ladies feedback. I have two girlfriends and they're relationship retarded. I don't really like hearing their advice. lol

The best thing would be to find out what changed for him. Sometimes people just grow apart and realise that they want different things out of life. If you can handle a sit down conversation without arguing, just talk! Ask him what's different for him now. Ask him, whatever is on your mind. Sometimes when we're the ones dumped, the pain of being left masks over the fact that it just really wasn't the right relationship for us to be in. Only time passing can show you that. If he really has drifted from you, there's no point in trying to keep a one-sided relationship going, we all deserve to be in love with someone who loves us back just as much.

Hope this helps.

 

[German89]

Thank you... It did... I think he just said some stuff to be easy on me. Constantly saying sorry but, whatever, it's done right?
He said he was too sensitive for me and that it would never work out between us and to not wait. When he said that, I got the picture. I'm not going to harass him and whateverr... Just hurts losing your best friend.

 

[Spidermannn]

This is a great read on a friday morning. Thank you

 

[Detour5]

Thank you... It did... I think he just said some stuff to be easy on me. Constantly saying sorry but, whatever, it's done right?
He said he was too sensitive for me and that it would never work out between us and to not wait. When he said that, I got the picture. I'm not going to harass him and whateverr... Just hurts losing your best friend.

It does hurt, and you may find that throughout life you may still have a place for him in your heart. You can also move on into a loving relationship with someone who is better suited to you. But right now, allow yourself to feel your emotions and reflect on what he meant. Is there an undesirable side to you? Lose temper too quick?? Or never listen to him??? It hurts but we have traits that can grate on other people that we don't even realise! Age old saying 'time is a great healer' right now it's so raw, but give it time (for you it could be a few weeks, months or even longer) and you'll find that one day you're just fine

 

[German89]

Thank you so much!! It was half and half I guess.. But, I see what you're saying and I will be fine... Thanks again!

 

[Detour5]

Thank you so much!! It was half and half I guess.. But, I see what you're saying and I will be fine... Thanks again!

You're welcome. I know you'll be fine, you come across as a strong young lady. Just take your time and enjoy life

 

[German89]

Thanks detour... I am... Just gonna go back to focusing on me... I don't think I want to share myself with any one, lol fuck em. Bad enough i got twenty guys at work, and spend 9 hrs with them... Boyfriends are over rated