Dating

[Smilee21]

She just texted me that the cops came to their door and she punched his face. He finally admitted it. Now, I am done with the whole situation. I don't want to be involved in this drama anymore. I didn't ask for it and I am better than this Jerry Springer shit.

It's good to close doors and never open them again...

 

[Smilee21]

I am more confused now than ever before... the rose colored glasses have been lifted and I see things in a different light than I did before. I think I need to take a step back from what it was I thought I wanted in a guy and re-prioritize what I am ok it and what I am not ok with.

I am glad I have some really good guy friends by my side to help me think about these potential relationships I am thinking of taking further than friendship. We laugh at how silly I can be, BC I tend to based them off only certain things and they help lift the fog and see things for how they really are.

Love these challenges and obstacles I am faced with, keeps things interesting...

 

[barnzy7]

She just texted me that the cops came to their door and she punched his face. He finally admitted it. Now, I am done with the whole situation. I don't want to be involved in this drama anymore. I didn't ask for it and I am better than this Jerry Springer shit.

only qualifies for jerry springer if you rip eachothers clothes off

 

[Sassytassie84]

only qualifies for jerry springer if you rip eachothers clothes off

omg... lol She was pretty hot. Makes me wonder. Why would a guy cheat on a good girl at home, they were trying for a baby so things must have been going well... What drives them to seek a double life?

 

[Sassytassie84]

She wanted me to go get a drink with her today. I don't think anything positive can come out of that. For me or for her. So I respectfully declined. I did think about it for a second cuz I knew that he would be pissed. I realized I am better than that though and really, I would rather just move on from the whole situation.

 

[Georgia]

Risk...adventure...excitement...that's why a lot of people cheat. When things are boring or not as passionate at home...then ye know

 

[Sassytassie84]

Gay... Then leave her and find someone more exciting.

 

[barnzy7]

omg... lol She was pretty hot. Makes me wonder. Why would a guy cheat on a good girl at home, they were trying for a baby so things must have been going well... What drives them to seek a double life?

he sounds like a scum bag, maybe this was his way of saying we're not having a baby

She wanted me to go get a drink with her today. I don't think anything positive can come out of that. For me or for her. So I respectfully declined. I did think about it for a second cuz I knew that he would be pissed. I realized I am better than that though and really, I would rather just move on from the whole situation.

that would have been not only akward but so random. did she actually leave the guy? or is this a "we can work it out" type bullshit

Gay... Then leave her and find someone more exciting.

exactly, i dont understand why people dont just break it off. ultimate form of disrespect in my eyes. especially when they try to hide and cover it up blatantly lying to your face

 

[Sassytassie84]

he sounds like a scum bag, maybe this was his way of saying we're not having a baby



that would have been not only akward but so random. did she actually leave the guy? or is this a "we can work it out" type bullshit



exactly, i dont understand why people dont just break it off. ultimate form of disrespect in my eyes. especially when they try to hide and cover it up blatantly lying to your face

He is a scum bag...They were doing IVF Treatments cuz his swimmers aren't so potent, so for their bank account sake, you would think he would just be honest. I am not sure what she is gonna do, I really dont want to be involved anymore or know any news regarding it.

 

[barnzy7]

He is a scum bag...They were doing IVF Treatments cuz his swimmers aren't so potent, so for their bank account sake, you would think he would just be honest. I am not sure what she is gonna do, I really dont want to be involved anymore or know any news regarding it.

i hear ya. no more talk of it after that last post...im calling you out every post about it from now on until its out of ya mind!

 

[Smilee21]

My friend and I expressed the love we have for one another tonight, I did not see that happening either, but I am glad it did. We are giving it one full year of celibacy starting today to see if what we have is real or not. 10 years is a long time to not act on the feelings we have had for one another but then again we have always been in relationships with other ppl and we just are not the type to cheat.

This is going to be a very difficult part of my journey, good thing I have my triathlon training to keep me busy.

1 yr is a long time but will be well worth the wait

 

[Teutonic]

Today s society promote s cheating...

Life long monogamy is unnatural.....I m good for 2-3 yr s max..then when I get the let s make it a legal binding contract or I m leaving..I m done....court system is to biased for me to ever risk 40 50 percent of my net worth AGAIN....nothing personal ladies...but I ll not risk my or a woman s ability to remain as they were when I met them..or my ability to either.

 

[Detour5]

Today s society promote s cheating...

Life long monogamy is unnatural.....I m good for 2-3 yr s max..then when I get the let s make it a legal binding contract or I m leaving..I m done....court system is to biased for me to ever risk 40 50 percent of my net worth AGAIN....nothing personal ladies...but I ll not risk my or a woman s ability to remain as they were when I met them..or my ability to either.

I can't believe being monogamous isn't natural. If you can have a life long friendship with someone as many people do, you can have that with someone you love. It has it's moments when it does need more work, compromise, understanding etc.. but any relationship worth saving does - even a friendship. I have friends that need to know the truth and only being a true friend can do it, same with a marriage or life long partner.

If you've been burned in the past that moulds your future ideas of people in certain situations, I've certainly displayed certain behaviours just because of an outcome of a relationship. But, I guess that's just me, I made the choice to not fall for and have kids with a bum!!! (How Judge Judy of me!)

 

[Teutonic]

Well put.

 

[Smilee21]

I have no problem being monogamous with the right person, until then I remain single and not looking. Good friends are all I need right now.

 

[Dreaded Pirate Roberts]

I can't believe being monogamous isn't natural. If you can have a life long friendship with someone as many people do, you can have that with someone you love. It has it's moments when it does need more work, compromise, understanding etc.. but any relationship worth saving does - even a friendship. I have friends that need to know the truth and only being a true friend can do it, same with a marriage or life long partner.

If you've been burned in the past that moulds your future ideas of people in certain situations, I've certainly displayed certain behaviours just because of an outcome of a relationship. But, I guess that's just me, I made the choice to not fall for and have kids with a bum!!! (How Judge Judy of me!)

I agree. I in the process of getting ready for a divorce. It's much harder when Kids are involved. I've had long term relationships that were great. IT all depends on the people involved. I have had my fill of single life. I fare pretty well but prefer the comforts of a nice relationship. Man was not meant to be alone. We need to have some one to laugh and pick on. .... And If she cooks and can enjoy life even better.

 

[stevenmd]

I agree. I in the process of getting ready for a divorce. It's much harder when Kids are involved. I've had long term relationships that were great. IT all depends on the people involved. I have had my fill of single life. I fare pretty well but prefer the comforts of a nice relationship. Man was not meant to be alone. We need to have some one to laugh and pick on. .... And If she cooks and can enjoy life even better.

Agreed. Also in the process of a divorce here too. I do better in long term relationships. I don't think I'm programmed to do the whole one night stand thing. I need to emotional connection.

 

[Smilee21]

When I first decided to start dating again, I freaked out just a little bit. I am a very sexual person and to be dating casually while taking a vow of celibacy was going to be a real challenge for me. But so far so good. Went on a date last week and another last night, they were both really nice and respectful .

 

[Teutonic]

Celibacy ? An impossibility.

I do not whore around with one nighters but will also not cave when after an extended time it s "the ring or it s over"....it s over.

So disrespect Smilee OK ?

 

[Teutonic]

I meant NO disrespect lady...