As I've mentioned before, a lot of stuff changed in my life recently and I've been actively trying to start over in many areas of my life (including relationships, social life, academics, work and fitness). Academics and work I can't change too much about but I continue to struggle with my social life and more importantly relationships which ultimately affect my fitness.
When your whole world changes, how do you go about rebuilding your life? Also, how do you not allow the instability in your relationship life affect your fitness?
This is something that I also find myself struggling with. My social life was non-existent for the last 6 yrs while I was still with my Ex. I have always been a very independent person my whole entire life, but when I was with my Ex he had this ability to strip that independence away from me, leaving me so LOST.
I have small group of individuals that I spend time with that I have know since I was a little girl that are like my family, when I broke up with my Ex these were the people who seemed to help me get back on my feet after I felt broken from my Fall (the failure of the relationship). When it was time for me to start going out and socializing with people again, it felt very awkward, the whole bar and club scene just isn't me. I still feel really uncomfortable around People I do not know well and especially in settings like a bar/club. However, I am slowly coming out of my shell, I no longer am hiding behind my insecurities and no longer feel Broken.
What helped me a lot to heal was I began to do was be a part of MEETUP groups, an online site where like minded individuals in your area can get together and enjoy good food, entertainment, Camping trips, learning to play an instrument, etc. It really helped me make new friends and do things I enjoy, or try things I have never done before.
Creating new memories while meeting new ppl...
I am not in a commited relationship and or really exclusively dating anyone. I have friends that I hang out with, these individuals share the same interests as me and when we get together it's to Train at the gym, Run, Hike, anything related to Fitness, and we reward ourselves with good music and good conversations afterwards.
My friends and I choose Gym first before a party or Dinner date, it's just how we are programmed, we figure the gym will always be there for us while a person can come and go, so take the time needed to build a stronger and healthier body in the kitchen, the gym, even the open road...
It takes time, just like with the transformations of our bodies. Learning to adapt to the unfamiliar and unknown can be scary, and overwhelming, but you just have to stay strong, go through those trials and errors of meeting people, (liking them and or running away from them) lol... until you find the right little group of people to spend your free time with.
It's about always staying positive and never just settling...