Mrs P
New member
hitting/spanking is teaching through fear, and a lazy approach.....
im a child psych, so iv seen enuff shit
i wont go into a debate, its jmo
as for the children who 'own' there parents, these are the kids that are the ones usually being spanked, they 'own' their parents because the parenting is weak
if the parent has set expectations, limits, and subsequent consequences, all through verbal communication.....the hand should never have to be raised
how can you tell a child not to hit someone else,when you hit them?
I agree, I have 9, 7, 3 year old (girls) & they know that there are consequences to their actions..My dad was tough with us, & my brothers got their share of spankings, & They did listen to him, but did they really listen, or were they just scared of him ?
I don't judge his parenting, he was a great Dad & did the best job he could.
I learned from his parenting, & but realized like all parents made his share of mistakes. I don't want my kids to be scared of me, I want them to respect me.. Fear is not the same thing as respect.
I believe in tough love, and I will follow through with their punishment, but I think they learn more if you talk to them, teach them, guide them, and what ever type of punishment you apply (Depends on the age: Timeouts, take away toys, etc) Than if you hit them... Discipline is important & kids need boundaries, but hitting IMO is not the answer.