Friendship first then relationship, Or just relationship?

[Smilee21]

What is The determining factor of turning something into a friendship vs a relationship when you are interested in someone?

Do you take time to build a friendship (as a base to the relationship) or jump straight into relationship skipping The friendship stage completely?

 

[gorilla_boy]

Isn't a friendship a relationship?

 

[jimbo79]

I never think friend first..depending on intent..or a case of beer

 

[Smilee21]

Isn't a friendship a relationship?

Yes and no, every single person in your life will fit into a certain category.

However, I am referring to an individual you are sexually attracted to.

Do you approach the person as I will be friends first and see where things go from there? Or do you immediately ask them out on dates to see if it can be more than friends while the relationship you have with the person is still undefined?

 

[DaHurt]

What is The determining factor of turning something into a friendship vs a relationship when you are interested in someone?

Do you take time to build a friendship (as a base to the relationship) or jump straight into relationship skipping The friendship stage completely?

I dunno I'm just a meat head, but then again this is STEROIDology...I'm sure there are boards for these kinds of questions!!!!

 

[alexus hensicus]

Guys and girls are different on this one... guys can't put girls in and out of the friendzone like girls can. I'd only asks other ladies advice.

 

[Smilee21]

I dunno I'm just a meat head, but then again this is STEROIDology...I'm sure there are boards for these kinds of questions!!!!

I ask on here bc of the simple fact ppl on Ology on either on cycles or have been in cycles. Is Meeting ppl while on a cycle different than when not on a cycle? Do your behaviors and actions change?

I am trying to learn all the different effects cycles have on ppl... (I am into sex therapy/relationship therapy) its interesting to hear your guys input on these types of things.

 

[barnzy7]

as a guy, I would say 90% of the reason you first would approach someone is because you are attracted, that being said it almost always starts off seeing how far it would go. I dont think guys do the whole friend category. regardless if the girls makes it clear they're just friends, if i wanted to get with a girl i wouldnt stop trying.

i think this changes if you're in a relationship though, theres no way im going up to a girl with the intent to sleep with her. id approach her if i thought she was attractive but thats only to be around beautiful women and i guess have them as friends as well

 

[barnzy7]

i think when its comes to this kind of stuff almost 100% of the emotional aspect is with the woman. 99% of guys talk to a girl to get laid and thats the first reason, no emotions attached, its completely on the girl whether or not she wants to take it further or make it known its only going to be friends

 

[jimbo79]

What is The determining factor of turning something into a friendship vs a relationship when you are interested in someone?

Do you take time to build a friendship (as a base to the relationship) or jump straight into relationship skipping The friendship stage completely?

Actually im full of shit Would you be my friend? HA

 

[Smilee21]

Actually im full of shit Would you be my friend? HA

Haha sure we are ology friends

 

[Smilee21]

I have come to realize that with every friendship I build there is the potential of it turning into an everlasting relationship of some sort, some people come and go and they leave their mark on us, teaching us what we needed to know before they moved on, while others stay and are there for us through good times and bad, they might not speak to us daily but it doesn't mean they do not care, how do we handle these relationships we have, how do we treat each of them individually, do we show them the love and respect they deserve or do we use them or let them use us? Hmm, as these thoughts stir within my head and as I release them for you to read, I love and respect each of them equally.

How do you define a Relationship really? What changes a friendship into something more? What are the determining factors that seal the deal and make up your mind that you no longer want to be single? Before making that decision and expressing those feelings you have with another? Do you change your behavior bc you are now going to be in a relationship with someone or do you remain the Same as you were when they first met you? Remember you do not know who you will end up being with later in life, how you act now and how you act then should not change. Bc you should always be you, right?*
I guess what I am trying to say is always be real, don't be afraid of who are as an individual, love freely, and speak from the heart, in the end your soul mate will be the one who loves you for you. (they see the real person inside us) it's not about looks but the energy that draws us to one another, the raw and real electricity that is found when 2 become 1... Sometimes it takes many years and many partners to find the one. While for others it just takes one time. We cannot judge bc it's not our place, it's trail and error just like with everything else in life, but it doesn't mean that we shouldnt choose wisely.

I try to start off every relationship I currently have as friends, I do not know if things will develop into anything more with any of them, I figure let them get to know me, if we click and feelings develop I have a life long friend with each and every one of them, there is only 1 I will marry, and I know that when he enters my life I started the relationship off right with a solid base as Friends.

 

[gorilla_boy]

I ask on here bc of the simple fact ppl on Ology on either on cycles or have been in cycles. Is Meeting ppl while on a cycle different than when not on a cycle? Do your behaviors and actions change?

I am trying to learn all the different effects cycles have on ppl... (I am into sex therapy/relationship therapy) its interesting to hear your guys input on these types of things.

On fina, she's getting hate-fucked.

 

[Smilee21]

On fina, she's getting hate-fucked.

What?? Do you mean?

 

[gorilla_boy]

What?? Do you mean?

You've never been hate-fucked or hate-fucked someone?

You haven't lived lol

 

[Smilee21]

You've never been hate-fucked or hate-fucked someone?

You haven't lived lol

Like rough make up sex when you are mad at someone... Great sex after a big fight, taking all your built up frustrations And emotions out on them as their pounding away or um digging as deep as they can trying to finally release all that built up tension caused by the 2 of them...
Is this what you mean???

 

[darkside06]

I treat everything like a dog....If I can't eat it or fuck it, i piss on it and walk away.

 

[Smilee21]

I treat everything like a dog....If I can't eat it or fuck it, i piss on it and walk away.

Maybe I need to take your approach, I am getting a little bored playing it as safe as I have been lately.

 

[weights=life]

I treat everything like a dog....If I can't eat it or fuck it, i piss on it and walk away.

lol damn darkside thats cold. haha appropiate name.

If i see a girl that i want. i go for the relationship. if that ends so does the friendship. if shes cool friends first, rare, and then if it happens it happens.

 

[Sassytassie84]

If i see a girl that i want. i go for the relationship. if that ends so does the friendship. if shes cool friends first, rare, and then if it happens it happens.

I am also a relationship type of girl, not into one night stands or fwb (however, I have had a fwb before and it was fine, I would just rather have one person). I usually know pretty quick if I want to be just friends with someone or if I see this person as a potential relationship. If it is a potential, I like to take things a little slow sexually to see if it's just my hormones or if it is because we actually have a connection.