Dating

[Smilee21]

However, I was not shy with my new Musican friend, he isnt my normal type of guy either. He's 5'10, wears glasses, reminds me of John Lennon, we hit it off instantly. I like being in the right place at the right time, always happens when I do things unplanned, spur of the moment

He's in SF right now listening to a bluesgrass festival on Ocean Beach. I am intrigued by him and want to know if we will be able to hold down a decent convo, looking forward to see if this one gets placed in the friend catagory or not lol

 

[Mt-momma]

However, I was not shy with my new Musican friend, he isnt my normal type of guy either. He's 5'10, wears glasses, reminds me of John Lennon, we hit it off instantly. I like being in the right place at the right time, always happens when I do things unplanned, spur of the moment

He's in SF right now listening to a bluesgrass festival on Ocean Beach. I am intrigued by him and want to know if we will be able to hold down a decent convo, looking forward to see if this one gets placed in the friend catagory or not lol

Sounds like he has potential

 

[Smilee21]

Sounds like he has potential

Only time will reveal it, but I am a hopeless romantic who is very optimistic so we will see. So far so good

 

[Sassytassie84]

check, check..check..check. sounds like someone i know...but in all seriousness maybe you dont have the balls to give them the #, why dont you just say can i see your phone? "why sassy i dont even know you?"..then you resond, just putting my # in it.

you could always move from LA? if its just you and your child then really whats keeping you there?

or maybe you setting your sights on something that isn't there, not saying settle, but open up your options..truly you have nothing to lose, maybe a few heartaches, but if it gets you a good guy who will take care of you and you child you know its well worth the risk. thats just my .02

Lol cuz I don't have the balls. I have said this a few times. I want the man to be the man! I think when a woman starts off the relationship being the dom then I am kinda setting myself up to be the dominant personality the whole relationship, which is opposite of what I am attracted to.

Every time I open up my options I end up feeling disappointed in the end because I still don't have what I feel I deserve. I am so mothering (nurturing), I truly put my whole heart and soul into a relationship. I want the good night and good morning. I don't ask for much but people are so self absorbed here that they don't think about how their actions effect other people. Plus, I have my son, so I am picky. There are qualities you have to have in order to have a chance with me because it will eventually effect my son if he and I end up taking it to the next level.

As for moving, I have thought about it. It is not that easy though. I cannot move without having a job in place first and as you all know the job market is not so good right now. Plus, I do have my mom an hour away and she watches my son once a week to give me a break. My son's dad does live near by, but he hasn't seen him in 2 months, but his mom says he is seriously ill. I don't know if it's true or not but until I know for sure, I don't want to take my son too far from his father. I have family in Central Cal that I wouldn't mind moving to. It is just a really small town and there isn't much for work. I am not the kind of person to live off the state either. Too much pride, would rather do it myself.

 

[Sassytassie84]

Only time will reveal it, but I am a hopeless romantic who is very optimistic so we will see. So far so good

I, too, am a hopeless romantic... but lately feeling more like I am just hopeless lol...

 

[barnzy7]

Lol cuz I don't have the balls. I have said this a few times. I want the man to be the man! I think when a woman starts off the relationship being the dom then I am kinda setting myself up to be the dominant personality the whole relationship, which is opposite of what I am attracted to.

Every time I open up my options I end up feeling disappointed in the end because I still don't have what I feel I deserve. I am so mothering (nurturing), I truly put my whole heart and soul into a relationship. I want the good night and good morning. I don't ask for much but people are so self absorbed here that they don't think about how their actions effect other people. Plus, I have my son, so I am picky. There are qualities you have to have in order to have a chance with me because it will eventually effect my son if he and I end up taking it to the next level.

As for moving, I have thought about it. It is not that easy though. I cannot move without having a job in place first and as you all know the job market is not so good right now. Plus, I do have my mom an hour away and she watches my son once a week to give me a break. My son's dad does live near by, but he hasn't seen him in 2 months, but his mom says he is seriously ill. I don't know if it's true or not but until I know for sure, I don't want to take my son too far from his father. I have family in Central Cal that I wouldn't mind moving to. It is just a really small town and there isn't much for work. I am not the kind of person to live off the state either. Too much pride, would rather do it myself.

keep your head up you sound like an awesome girl, you and smiles. like you said if your not feeling satisfied or like your settling it obviously won't work.

btw most guys are pussy's. the chances of mr right exactly how you described him, coming and sweeping you away is a long shot, maybe give him a little push. just because you initiate doesnt mean he's gonna be a bust an not a man. im shy, a girl coming up to me makes it 1000x easier, does that mean im not the man in the relationship? hell no. it means i was a puss when it came to starting it off, i liked her and was scared. your a beautiful girl, just because guys are intimitdated to talk to you, you should be honored, dont write them off as less than manly.

 

[Sassytassie84]

keep your head up you sound like an awesome girl, you and smiles. like you said if your not feeling satisfied or like your settling it obviously won't work.

btw most guys are pussy's. the chances of mr right exactly how you described him, coming and sweeping you away is a long shot, maybe give him a little push. just because you initiate doesnt mean he's gonna be a bust an not a man. im shy, a girl coming up to me makes it 1000x easier, does that mean im not the man in the relationship? hell no. it means i was a puss when it came to starting it off, i liked her and was scared. your a beautiful girl, just because guys are intimitdated to talk to you, you should be honored, dont write them off as less than manly.

True... I guess I am just a little old fashioned when it comes to the whole meeting people thing. And if I am attracted from the beginning, there is NO WAY in hell that I will approach. I get super embarrassed and shy. I might even blush if they did talk to me... lol has happened many times before.

It seems like all the good guys are taken. I realize though, I am only 27 and I have a lot of meet and greets to go through in life before I find "the one".

And usually Im not so blue about the whole thing. I am fine being alone. I guess the whole thing I am going through and his wife keeps calling me for details is getting to me. Makes me look at men in a different way at the moment. I'll be back to me soon though...

 

[Smilee21]

I, too, am a hopeless romantic... but lately feeling more like I am just hopeless lol...

I feel ya...I haven't had the best of luck, the men trying to enter my life have a gf, engaged, divorced, separated, or married. Really!!!! Drives me insane, I keep them strictly in the friend Category. I don't put anyone into another category until I get to know them better (which could take years) sucks for them bc I will not put out. They get upset with me and I have to become a B****, I am very old fashioned, shy, a have a big heart with lots of love to give but only to the right individuals. So far I'm striking out, the guy I liked isn't who I thought he was and I am ready to pull away. :/

Starting off with a clean slate, it's nice when my mind isn't clouded by another's broken promises how grand life can be as a strong independent woman like me.

 

[Sassytassie84]

I feel ya...I haven't had the best of luck, the men trying to enter my life have a gf, engaged, divorced, separated, or married. Really!!!! Drives me insane, I keep them strictly in the friend Category. I don't put anyone into another category until I get to know them better (which could take years) sucks for them bc I will not put out. They get upset with me and I have to become a B****, I am very old fashioned, shy, a have a big heart with lots of love to give but only to the right individuals. So far I'm striking out, the guy I liked isn't who I thought he was and I am ready to pull away. :/

Starting off with a clean slate, it's nice when my mind isn't clouded by another's broken promises how grand life can be as a strong independent woman like me.

Too bad we don't live closer, you seem like the kind of chic I would really get along with. A real girl, not one of these fake ass chics out here.

 

[stevenmd]

Lol cuz I don't have the balls. I have said this a few times. I want the man to be the man! I think when a woman starts off the relationship being the dom then I am kinda setting myself up to be the dominant personality the whole relationship, which is opposite of what I am attracted to.

Every time I open up my options I end up feeling disappointed in the end because I still don't have what I feel I deserve. I am so mothering (nurturing), I truly put my whole heart and soul into a relationship. I want the good night and good morning. I don't ask for much but people are so self absorbed here that they don't think about how their actions effect other people. Plus, I have my son, so I am picky. There are qualities you have to have in order to have a chance with me because it will eventually effect my son if he and I end up taking it to the next level.

As for moving, I have thought about it. It is not that easy though. I cannot move without having a job in place first and as you all know the job market is not so good right now. Plus, I do have my mom an hour away and she watches my son once a week to give me a break. My son's dad does live near by, but he hasn't seen him in 2 months, but his mom says he is seriously ill. I don't know if it's true or not but until I know for sure, I don't want to take my son too far from his father. I have family in Central Cal that I wouldn't mind moving to. It is just a really small town and there isn't much for work. I am not the kind of person to live off the state either. Too much pride, would rather do it myself.

Ugh, Central Cali is the worst place in the nation. We call it the butthole of California. No work, no money, no life.

 

[Sassytassie84]

Ugh, Central Cali is the worst place in the nation. We call it the butthole of California. No work, no money, no life.

Yeah but unfortunately its the only other place in Cali that I have fam...

On a different note, this guy's wife keeps calling and texting me! Damn, I am so tired of this shit already. I just want them both to go away. I felt bad for her until she started saying I was lying and she is gonna stand by her man, etc. She said you arent the only girl to try to get between us, lol So I am not the only girl. OPEN YOUR EYES WOMAN! Denial is not a river!

 

[Smilee21]

Yeah but unfortunately its the only other place in Cali that I have fam...

On a different note, this guy's wife keeps calling and texting me! Damn, I am so tired of this shit already. I just want them both to go away. I felt bad for her until she started saying I was lying and she is gonna stand by her man, etc. She said you arent the only girl to try to get between us, lol So I am not the only girl. OPEN YOUR EYES WOMAN! Denial is not a river!

Poor lady...she isn't very smart

 

[Smilee21]

Too bad we don't live closer, you seem like the kind of chic I would really get along with. A real girl, not one of these fake ass chics out here.

I'm just me...

You seem pretty cool too, I don't like fake ass Chics, lived with a few and wow, I rather live alone then to deal with their drama.

 

[Sassytassie84]

Poor lady...she isn't very smart

Either she isn't OR her mom prob dated the same kind of men when she was a child and this is what she thinks she deserves. The first thing she said when I explained what was going on was "wow, karma has come back around, I have cheated on all my past bf's" Pretty scary that people can stay in relationships like that. She was like "all you girls are haters, he knows what he has at home, and he is fine as shit" Yes, girl, he does know what he has at home and what he can get away with, that's why he goes out to play and you don't know any better.

I really felt bad for her yesterday, today, not so much. I think in a way she brings it onto herself. I did nothing wrong. The moment I had an inkling something wasn't right, I jumped ship. Dude wore his wedding ring with me and told me it's because he works at a club so the girls leave him alone and that it was his dad's, that when his parents divorced his dad gave it to him. I fell for that. Damn.

 

[Smilee21]

Toxic relationships at their best... Some ppl crave drama and the unhealthiness bad relationships bring. Just bc the dude is hot doesn't mean she should put up with his disrespectful ways. I don't believe anything a man tells me, their true Colors are eventually revealed, I'm not a dumb B****, I remember everything discussed and when they slip and start lying I start walking away. I will feed their Egos for a bit until I get bored and then I just dnt care for them anymore.

 

[Mt-momma]

Yeah but unfortunately its the only other place in Cali that I have fam...

On a different note, this guy's wife keeps calling and texting me! Damn, I am so tired of this shit already. I just want them both to go away. I felt bad for her until she started saying I was lying and she is gonna stand by her man, etc. She said you arent the only girl to try to get between us, lol So I am not the only girl. OPEN YOUR EYES WOMAN! Denial is not a river!

It never ceases to amaze me when a guy is THAT f'in awesome that he has a wife and several girls on the side. The worst part is his wife only feeding the ego thayt she'll stay with him no matter what because zomg, he's SO wonderful. Seriously though, no guy is that awesome. None. Either don't cheat or have the balls to end one relationship before you start another one. It's the drama that people crave (lord only knows why), I get that, but it must be exhausting.

Sassie, just ignore her completely and she'll run out of fuel when she's not getting a response.

I do have the 100% best husband/partner ever. He's the whole works. Fantastic body, great looks, strong work ethic, amazing husband and dad, etc. But, I asked him out. I knew he was attracted and we had a connection, but several factors played into him not making the first move. You never know what the motivation is for a guy to hold back. For us, my husband was trying to not get anyone else involved in a sensative situation (he had a 4 year old and was never married or lived with his child's bio mom). It was intense for a while, but worth it. We now have two girls together and 'his' who calls me mom (she's 12 now).

I guess I'm saying that 7 years of marriage and three beautiful girls later, I'm so happy I was the one to make the first move. If you feel something is right, don't hold back. Just go for it! Maybe avoid married men tho !

 

[Sassytassie84]

Maybe avoid married men tho !

LOL I didn't know!!!

 

[Sassytassie84]

His wife showed up at my house an hour ago. Guess she checked the navigation in the car. She must realize that if I was just some crazy bitch from the club why would he be at my house? hmmm... plot thickens. Maybe she is wiser than I gave her credit for... just in denial. I gave her his button that fell off his jeans at my house, his briefs, the soccer ball he gave my son, his tank tops and showed her the email communications between us. Told her what to check for on the bank statement of times and places we went, etc. He thought he was so smart. But now, I just want it all to go away. I feel bad for her again.

 

[Smilee21]

His wife showed up at my house an hour ago. Guess she checked the navigation in the car. She must realize that if I was just some crazy bitch from the club why would he be at my house? hmmm... plot thickens. Maybe she is wiser than I gave her credit for... just in denial. I gave her his button that fell off his jeans at my house, his briefs, the soccer ball he gave my son, his tank tops and showed her the email communications between us. Told her what to check for on the bank statement of times and places we went, etc. He thought he was so smart. But now, I just want it all to go away. I feel bad for her again.

Oh wow... That's some crazy stuff

 

[Sassytassie84]

She just texted me that the cops came to their door and she punched his face. He finally admitted it. Now, I am done with the whole situation. I don't want to be involved in this drama anymore. I didn't ask for it and I am better than this Jerry Springer shit.